JustMe20 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Hi everyone, I hope I won't regret doing this, but I just need some comforting.. So, my boyfriend broke up with me a month ago, although I noticed he was acting a litlle differently (but still texting, kissing and hugging me much), I didn't see it coming. We were together for a year and a half, and I saw him as my perfect match. He was so sweet and handsome... I really loved him. Our relationship wasn't perfectly, we met eachother online and rushed it a little bit. We didn't really get to know eachother.. but time passes by, and we went through all these fights still loving eachother very much. The last month we saw eachother a little bit more, but then, after a weekend away with my friends, he broke up with me. I found it hard to understand, because that friday he blew up my phone when I couldn't answer to his texsts. He showed me love that weekend and was a little jealous when i went away. He told me his feelings were over, and the following days we hardly talked. A week or two later, he texted me that he should be the most important person in my life, that this was hard on him,... we saw eachother that weekend and had a nice day. I still liked giving him kisses and hugs, and he told me he also wanted to give hugs, but didn't felt the need to kiss me, although he didn't push me away when I gave him a kiss. Now, another two weeks later, we talked each week for approximatly a day, and I told him my feelings eventually. I said that I missed him, and that I still loved him very much (I thought he was expecting that, since he told me two weeks before that he missed me and because when I texted him, he told me that he wanted to text me a few days later too and he already thought about the text he was going to sent)... so I told him my feelings, and that because I still had these feelings, we should stop texting for a few weeks. He understood, and so all my hopes were crashed. I know I have to move forward, but he said that I'm barely on his mind anymore.. not as much as after the break-up. I'm really hurt, because it has been 1 month.. not a year! I want to feel confident.. but I'm scared that I found the one.. and lost him. 1
Author JustMe20 Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 BTW, the text that he wanted to sent included: 'wauw, not hearing me for a week, you're doing great!' and then a name that i used on the site where we met.. he told me he was on that site again and that he saw my profile 1
Satu Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 The relationship is over. You are now a single person. One of the major keys to mental and emotional health is the acceptance of reality as exactly what it is, and then successfully adapting yourself to it. You will have painful thoughts and feelings for a while, but life goes on. Look for ways to adapt to your new status as a single person. How do you want to spend your time? Who do you want to spend your time with? What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? Are there some things about yourself that you'd like to change? As well as being an end, this is also a beginning. Adapt and move forward. Take care. 2
dyna85 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 If he left you in the dust and hurts you, never to return and make it better, he's not the one. Hope you find solace in this truth. 2
Author JustMe20 Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Thanks guys, I just hoped.. you know.. that he would miss me again, after a week or two... 1
BlackbirdSong Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Thanks guys, I just hoped.. you know.. that he would miss me again, after a week or two... lol, me too. I'm going on week 6 of thinking that. It's not going to happen. In my case, she just doesn't care enough about me anymore to fix things. I hope your situation ends better. 1
darkbloom Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 If it is meant to be, he will come back .If not, you will be a much stronger and happier person without him. 3
totenkopf Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Thanks guys, I just hoped.. you know.. that he would miss me again, after a week or two... I hoped this after my girlfriend left me but she never did two months later she was in another relationship and after six weeks was engaged. It really hurts thinking that this woman who built me up so much and who claimed to want to marry me and have children could do this. Its been five months now and I am much better as you will be too. I know that this hurts but just think that if someone can do this then they could not have valued or loved you. 2
mightycpa Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Thanks guys, I just hoped.. you know.. that he would miss me again, after a week or two...We all hope that our worst fears have not come true... especially after our worst fears have come true. You are experiencing something very common. 2
Author JustMe20 Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 lol, me too. I'm going on week 6 of thinking that. It's not going to happen. In my case, she just doesn't care enough about me anymore to fix things. I hope your situation ends better. I don't think it will, but thanks! 1
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