LovinTheSky Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Me and my girlfriend have recently surpassed our 1 month "In a relationship" milestone, but recently i've felt like i havent been the guy she fell in love with at the start. No, this is not anxiety. But she recently mentioned that our relationship "Isnt crazy anymore". I've been quite busy with work and school lately and have been extremely tired, which widely affects my mood. But I'm still concerned i have changed. And now i feel like im more serious than playful with her (Like i used to be) Sleep and energy levels does fix this, in some cases though. When im not tired, i tend to be a bit more like who i see as my "Old self" but i still dont feel as fun as i was with her before. I wondering, is there any way i can get back to this "Jumpy" mood i was in? Instead of being so serious with her all the time? Is there any recommendations as to what i can do to really spark the moment with her? Most of this is mental state, i relize. But im really struggling with getting this "Old me" back and when im serious, shes serious which makes our relationship a stale one that i dont want. Is it possible because i (Unknowingly) dont want to mess up with her so i try to be as error free as possible? Thanks in advance!
fitnessfan365 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 You two have only been together for a month and you're using "fell in love" in the past tense? What, did your GF fall in love with you after two weeks of dating? I think the problem is that you two rushed in way too fast and didn't know each other well enough. Now that she's seeing other aspects of your life, you two may not be ultimately compatible. 2
EgoJoe Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I've experienced what you're going through albeit the time frame for me was over a year together; it also came and went. Don't let her drain you with her seriousness. You have your own priorities. A healthy relationship is two people who put themselves first and the other a close second.
soyou Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 You two have only been together for a month and you're using "fell in love" in the past tense? What, did your GF fall in love with you after two weeks of dating? I think the problem is that you two rushed in way too fast and didn't know each other well enough. Now that she's seeing other aspects of your life, you two may not be ultimately compatible. Listen to this golden advices. I've been in your shoes before. After 2 months into the relationships, both my ex and me felt like all the sparks from the beginning had gone. All the excitment and surprises just drained out or disappeared. We were left there as two incompatible individuals ( we liked and wanted totally different things in life which there is no way to compromise) My advice is to not try to change who you are and how you see things in life just because you want to be with somebody. You can compromise though but there is a fine line between compromise and sacrifice. I agree with fitnessfan that its highly likely that you guys rushed into too fast with all the butterfly feelings. Now, as all the butterfly feelings have faded away, you two are left being incompatitble and cant move forward together anymore.
Diezel Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 You're problem is that you are so worried about "messing up with her", that ALL OF THIS happened. As soon as you saw it as "messing up with her", you put all this pressure to become someone you aren't. Why not just be yourself, whether she is in the picture or not? Fair warning, she DID tell you that the relationship isn't as crazy, THAT IS A RED FLAG. She's going to start having wandering eyes. And if this is the case just a few weeks in, then I don't see this getting any better. Make yourself a priority over her, I'm sure this is how you two started out anyway.
Author LovinTheSky Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Yea i kinda get where you are comming from, Most of this is because i have WAY too much time on my hands to over think things, and after overthinking whats been going on in my life and my relationships, I become very moody and dont really say much. Is there a good way to get my mind of things? The gym, Already doing that. And going for a walk i dont think will help me. I'm a graphic designer and currently work at my dads house, So is there any at-home activites that i can do here that might help me stop overthinking?
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