planb1973 Posted March 16, 2015 Share Posted March 16, 2015 I got a text yesterday after a month and a half NC, the previous contact was a spiteful message which I ignored. I had only dated this woman for a little over two months and had been dating, casually, another woman also. Things came out and she told me she had slept with someone else since me. New relationships until exclusivity have lots of grey area, so I felt that we were even, but I told her I needed more time before I commit. She held on for a couple more weeks and gave me the ultimatum "date only me or not me." The other woman had been out of the country on business for a month and I told her I could not make a decision right now. We stopped talking after that. Upon the other woman returning I felt I had made a mistake and ended things with her. Then took a month to sit with myself and do a lot of soul searching. I wrote her a nice letter to the first woman telling her that I was happy to have gotten to know her, was sorry for hurting her, and wished her well. Hoping for a reply but assuming none. Two weeks later I get this text. "Tell your brother I said hi, not stalking you, going swimming." I was at my brothers house and she happened to drive by,my brother lives 45 minutes away near her house on the way to her gym. I replied a couple hours later that she should have stopped by and had Bday cake and asked how she was. After a polite reply this morning I called her instead of replying. Texting is stupid I might add. After some small talk and in all humbleness I told her I made a mistake, that I was sorry for being indecisive, and wanted to get back together but without distractions. She said she needs to think about it. It was a brief relationship and I know she is out dating, I just started the process again myself. We will see what happens from here. Link to post Share on other sites
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