Author Vintage79 Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 1. What's the problem with seeing her every day? Are you too busy? Will you miss time with your guy friends? Do you just want alone time? Whatever it is - say it. 2. It's been 6 weeks. This girl is into you. You are in a relationship and if you're not comfortable seeing her regularly then you need to tell her that. I don't have any issue being in a relationship (we've never talked about it- but in the end, it's just a label, and I don't really care what the label is). That said, is seeing her 2-3x/week not sufficient? Why not every day? Well, I'm trying to figure out if it's a good idea or not. I can tell you that I likely need some alone time (although that could probably just be a portion of an evening), it's harder to go to the gym when I see her (I like to go almost every day), right now I don't sleep nearly as well with her relatively to if I'm by myself, so I tend to be very tired the next day and it has some impact on my performance at work (although in the short term it won't negatively impact anything), I do like seeing my friends on occasion - I could go on. That said, it doesn't mean I can't see her every day, it's just that seeing her everyday isn't an absolute priority - a few times a week seems sufficient - the goal of this post was to figure out if seeing her every day is normal/healthy, good/bad, or where it falls on the spectrum, and if not every day, what's optimal.
Author Vintage79 Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 See her as often as you want, but make sure you're taking enough time for yourself, your own interests your friends, etc. However, that being said, you were out of the country for a week. Maybe she just missed you and was being overly enthusiastic. Treasa - it's very possible that her enthusiasm was elevated because I had been out of the country - I have no way of knowing. As mentioned elsewhere in this thread - she seems to be respectful of my need for space right now - she just seems to always try to prop the door open to give me the chance drop in. I'm really just trying to figure how often to take advantage of the open door.
Diezel Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 Why not every day? Well, I'm trying to figure out if it's a good idea or not. I can tell you that I likely need some alone time (although that could probably just be a portion of an evening), it's harder to go to the gym when I see her (I like to go almost every day), right now I don't sleep nearly as well with her relatively to if I'm by myself, so I tend to be very tired the next day and it has some impact on my performance at work (although in the short term it won't negatively impact anything), I do like seeing my friends on occasion - I could go on. That said, it doesn't mean I can't see her every day, it's just that seeing her everyday isn't an absolute priority - a few times a week seems sufficient - the goal of this post was to figure out if seeing her every day is normal/healthy, good/bad, or where it falls on the spectrum, and if not every day, what's optimal. This is the absolute most healthy mindset to have when dating. You do NOT want to lose your identity over a relationship. I don't care what anyone else says in this thread. Everyone saying that you should just throw yourself into it and see her "JUST BECAUSE" is missing the bigger picture here. So many people throw themselves into a relationship and drop the things that make them... THEM. That's NOT the way to do it. I am with someone now and we both have talked about the importance of doing our own things. She is a morning gym person. I'm an afternoon gym person. So that goes into our "US" time, but we have a clear understanding of this. We'd love to see each other all the time, but once you start blending two worlds THIS quickly on, you lose some of the time and things immediately. There needs to be an adjustment period and when it is rushed, things get chaotic. All of a sudden neither one of you two are seeing their friends as much, or lose out on gym routines, etc, etc, etc... If YOU are okay with seeing her 2-3 times a week at this point, then nothing else matters... not a forum of opinions, whatever the internet says... blah blah blah. All that matters is that it works for the two of you. Sure, everyone in the beginning wants to spend a LOT of time together, but that's the honeymoon period. Don't jump into it so quick just because you might not have anything else to do that you suddenly realize that your life is JUST this relationship and nothing more.
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