1Jessie86 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I've been dating an awesome guy for about 4 weeks. How soon can a relationship be established? Do I have to wait for him to ask? Should I bring it up?
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 At 4 weeks you have a "relationship". What kind of a relationship has yet to be determined. Until you talk there is no commitment. 4 weeks is a little soon for me to push for exclusivity but there are no hard & fast rules about this. It usually can't be measured on a calendar. There is a school of thought which recommends establishing that you are in a monogamous relationship prior to sex, but again that depends on the people. When you want to have the conversation have it. 3
Redhead14 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I've been dating an awesome guy for about 4 weeks. How soon can a relationship be established? Do I have to wait for him to ask? Should I bring it up? Four weeks is kinda quick to be establishing a "relationship". Have you two had at least a casual conversation about what each of you is looking for out of your dating experiences? If, not it would be ok for you to casually mention the fact that you are hoping to find someone for a long term, committed relationship and don't say you want that with him, just general, and then see what he says. You guys need to be on the same page to start with. If you two have already been intimate, it is appropriate for you to at least determine exclusivity. It is my approach to take dating in stages. A couple of months of just dating, if it gets to a point where intimacy is involved, then comes exclusivity. Exclusivity is the period for focusing on one person and exploring the areas of a relationship that would be important to each of you -- compatibility, communication styles, etc. before becoming boyfriend and girlfriend and then marriage if everything, or most everything is working for you both. At 4 weeks, I'd just make sure you're on the same page at least. If he says he wants the same thing, then move forward with him. If you are going to be intimate and he doesn't bring up the subject of exclusivity, you should do it. Simply say, you aren't comfortable with intimacy without exclusivity, if that's true. If doesn't want that too, you may want to bail. Would you be comfortable sleeping with him knowing he might be sleeping with other people? And, yes, he might lie, but that is another reason to get to know him better as a person. You'll trust him better. 2
alphamale Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 How soon can a relationship be established? Do I have to wait for him to ask? Should I bring it up? 3 months, yes, no 2
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Exclusivity depends on each person. I never had to ask, it would happen by the third date usually. IMO if you have to ask....it's not looking good. 3
nyny123 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 My boyfriend and I became exclusive after 3 weeks. It felt right and we been together for a month now. It's really up to you and don't go by when people say wait 2,3,4, or whatever amount of months.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Not really a set time frame to it. But I will say that if I'm seeing a woman I want to be exclusive with, I always let her either hint at it or directly bring it up first. If she isn't, then I assume she isn't ready yet.
alphamale Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 There is no rule. Let your instincts guide you. this isn't some kind of jedi mind trick Satu; we're trying to get a couple together 1
Hopeful30 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 this isn't some kind of jedi mind trick Satu; we're trying to get a couple together You can't just get people together though. If it happens then it happens. It has to be natural. When has an exclusive relationship become exclusive just because of "the talk"? I dunno. I just think it's a huge turn off. I've never ever had the exclusivity talk and when men have brought it up, I've been extremely turned off.
EgoJoe Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Do whatever you want. Consequences are just events we don't like for one reason or another.
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