chelseamoon Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Hi guys posted a tread like this before but gonna keep this simple as can. Ex gf of 2 years who i live with (due to kids from prev rel & helps with bills) dumped me 4 months back as said loved me but not fancy anymore. Iv been mean.. Didnt work, iv been quiet.. Didn't work.. Iv been super nice... Didnt work on winning her back. So now i feel i have to try and move on. She says she wants to not be a couple and not to talk about it anymore. But if i say o shes cute or i might be going out the weekend she get a mad pissed off head on her. I love her to bits but want to be able to sort this. HOW DO I BEHAVE AROUND HER. HOW CAN I MAKE HER MISS ME OR WANT ME. SHE SAID FEW WEEKS BACK SHE DOES SOMETIMES MISS ME. I feel she gives me mix messages. What do i do to sort this or test the waters. I already triee to kiss her on a night out but she pulled away and when i asked, she said because she doesnt want to go back the way we where, normal, fighting, boring. But iv even changed by cleaning alot more, not fighting, out more and inviting her. PLEASE GUYS HOW DO I PLAY THIS? Ty
preraph Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You certainly can't make her want to be with you again. So these are your kids you're needing help with; am I reading that right? She's taking care of your kids but also helping you pay the bills? If I'm reading that right, she certainly shouldn't have to babysit your kids AND pay the bills. If I'm reading it wrong and it's her kids, if the relationship is over, that's going to cost you more than whatever she's contributing helping provide for a houseful. You can't be talking to her about thinking a woman is cute or going out to chase women and be trying to get back together with her at the same time. So you better pick one. She said she's bored, so I'm guessing she'd like to get out of the house more, not watch YOU get out of the house. Sound logical?
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Hah that's easy...completely ignore her and date other women. You will get instant results.
Author chelseamoon Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 Hi no she and I still live together because our children are close and we are a help with bills 50/50. She ageees. I want her back but I feel that if i say i find someone cute i wanted to see if she still cares but i dunno. I miss her and yes I no I sound stupid but i was with her over 2 years i think i just ****ed it up.without knowing and what to do what I can to fix it. But it's hard when I'm only one trying. I want her to care a lil as she said before she does and acts jealous when i go out with friends or like I said above mention someone's appearance.
Satu Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You just have to be the best of yourself all the time, and hope for the best. Take full responsibility for yourself and your behaviour. Be completely honest at all times. Be helpful. Be kind. Be trustworthy. Be reliable. Do not try to railroad her into going back to where your relationship was before. Listen to her and reflect on what she says to you. Realise that when she says, "No" it really does mean no. If she tells you to leave her alone, leave her alone. Ask for nothing. Absolutely nothing. There are no tricks, moves or strategies that will make her want you. Just hard work. Do your best. 2
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Move out and live like the single guy you are. Once she sees her meal ticket gone she will miss you. But since you are still paying the bills and crap, why would she have to want to be in a relationship with you, if she already has you paying the bills?
writergal Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You just have to be the best of yourself all the time, and hope for the best. Take full responsibility for yourself and your behaviour. Be completely honest at all times. Be helpful. Be kind. Be trustworthy. Be reliable. Do not try to railroad her into going back to where your relationship was before. Listen to her and reflect on what she says to you. Realise that when she says, "No" it really does mean no. If she tells you to leave her alone, leave her alone. Ask for nothing. Absolutely nothing. There are no tricks, moves or strategies that will make her want you. Just hard work. Do your best. +1 Satu. Spot on! You never disappoint with your advice! 1
Author chelseamoon Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 Hahaha forget about the bill guys. We both still live together as we have kids from prev relationship who are close and we both agreed that we would find it hard living on our own as we pay the bills 59-50 fair. Thanks for all yer advice guys. I just dunno how to behave around her. I want to just be me nice, chatty kind to her but then it's hard as I have string feelings. Now i will go away for 3 days with my kids for paddys as she said she couldn't get off work so I think that space will do me good but my 2 friends are going also and they say that all I will be doing is wondering what she's at and waiting for her to text me when she won't. Aggh i hate it. I wish it was so easy to shut off my feelings for her.
Satu Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You don't need to shut your feelings off. You need to understand them. 1
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