emva07 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 (edited) Hi everyone, There was a guy at my job we were both temping for a week, since day one he was very flirtingly smiling and staring. By day two we were talking and the topic of cooking came up and he took this as an opportunity to ask "do you cook for yourself or more people?" so i said myself so he said "same here, it's just me. Alone" So i took this to mean "are you single....so am i" Then i asked him if he was walking to metro he said no he was getting a ride but then asked why, i said bc i am walking, then i saw him lingering and he finally said his friend cancelled and he'd walk with me. Last day, Friday, comes by and we are super swamped with reports due that day plus last day. He didn't take a lunch. At the end when we said our goodbyes, the bosses were right next to us the whole time, so we hugged and kept it professional but when i was putting my coat on I could see he was lingering with something to say again so I stood there a while but nothing and wth the stupid bosses literally in between us neither I had the guts to invite him out nor him to say whatever it is that he wanted to say. I didn't get ANY of his contact info and I didn't provide it either. Would it be crazy if I emailed him at work (email format is first initial last name) or could it be cute? I don't want to come off as crazy desperate but I do think there was a connection there and am curious to see what could happen? Maybe I've watched one too many romantic movies where that works, lol. I didn't tell him where i was working, just the area of the city, he is still there for a few more weeks. Total we knew each other just a week. Thank! Edited March 15, 2015 by emva07 1
PinkCarnations Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You might never see him again, so you pretty much have nothing to lose. Write something short, not too wordy, along the lines of "hey we didn't get a chance to exchange contact info before we left. Now that the big project is over, we should go out and celebrate (or hang out or whatever). :)" 1
gaius Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Emva! Long time no see. I'm in a dopey, optimistic, hippie like mood so I say go for it. Life is short. Just establish contact though, let him do the rest.
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 omg YES email him....just say oh I forgot to give you my number. Lets go out of a drink sometime. Here's my number # Then leave it and see what happens. I bet money on it he will call you. 1
edgygirl Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Don't you "love" how men usually draw the line on us between crazy or cute? Ugh. Gotta hate dating Write him, as said above, nothing to lose indeed. 1
gaius Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Don't make plans, that's his job. You can drop him your number though. 1
regine_phalange Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Hey emva! <3 I have a feeling that he likes you. Im not sure blindly emailing is good, I'd say give him your contact info so you can exchange "recipes". 1
Author emva07 Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 Thanks guys! Glad to have an unbias opinion. Told a couple friends they said, no just take it as a missed opportunity. But idk if it's my age creeping up on me, but I am a lot more opptimistic. Hi Gaius. Long time! 1
Author emva07 Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 Go figure. Out of all the emails sent today that's the only one not in my sent folder. I sent it to two possible emails. Once bounced back saying address not recognized so the other must have sent right? Why wouldnt it show as sent for me? None of my folders have it. I don't want to send it again lol.
gaius Posted March 18, 2015 Posted March 18, 2015 I've noticed technical issues like to pop up mostly when there's the least room for error. I'd wait a few days and see if you get a reply. If not, since the one thing you have is his name see if he's on facebook or whatever.
Author emva07 Posted March 18, 2015 Author Posted March 18, 2015 Meh. I just sent it again. Would rather it look like a double send by the servee than him purposefully ignoring it and me sending it again lol. This time it shows in my sent folder 1
Author emva07 Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 No answer Either he's ignoring it or my guess for his email was wrong in which case that's that. Cases closed bc i refuse to call the old job. I feel so stupid for sending it.
gaius Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 If he's done temping there maybe he just stopped checking. I would assume he didn't see it. =/ You did the right thing Emva.
Author emva07 Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 I was done there. I got a job offer somewhere else but that was what I was doing while I waited for my paperwork to go through. Just so happened to go quickly so i was there for a week lol. He stayed for an extra month or two. But like I said. I guessed his email address. Oh well. I'm not a believer in fate but there are lots of times signs have been thrown at me about this one lol.
Author emva07 Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Ha! Go figure. I call today and they messed up his email. Now they don't know which is right and which is wrong. They did the same to me here and now I receive emails on both the wrong and corrected emails. I refuse to send a possible 3rd email. Ugh. Stupid Microsoft outlook.
katiegrl Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Ha! Go figure. I call today and they messed up his email. Now they don't know which is right and which is wrong. They did the same to me here and now I receive emails on both the wrong and corrected emails. I refuse to send a possible 3rd email. Ugh. Stupid Microsoft outlook. Just out of curiosity, what did your email say? Do you know where he hangs out? How about "accidentally" (on purpose) running into him somewhere? Do you have a reason to visit your old temp job where he still works? I think he will eventually receive your email... even if it went to the wrong address, someone will get it to him, admin or someone else.... I did that same thing with my now boyfriend! Got his email address from his firm's website, but my email ended up going to some generic mailbox that ALL the engineers have access to, and someone forwarded to him...
Author emva07 Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Katiegrl, thank you for sharing your story, it definitely makes me feel less stupid and gives me some hope! and all is fair in love and war. I don't know what he does for fun, and thing is he probably hangs out in VA since he only comes into DC for work and the office is not as central as other gov buildings (it's not CIA :lmao:). I just don't think he'd completely ignore me, doesn't seem to be that type of person! If he weren't interested, I'd think he'd at least say something like "thanks for the message" you know? Not taking the bait but at the same time being polite. I'll try not to think on it anymore.
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