preraph Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Your guy is giving you the same message over and over, and that is that he views you as too good for him and that he views himself as destructive and someone who will only pull you down. You should take this admission very seriously. He knows he is unable to enhance your life and will probably only degrade the quality of it.
Author MiSoleil Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 Agree with you MiSoleil...don't contact him. Especially since you did that before, he never responded, making you feel worse! You're right, and lesson learned. By the way, how long were you *back together* before he stopped calling again? One day, one week? Did you have sex? Did he disappear immediately after that? Need more details... We had one long phone call one night after a few texts messages and decided to get back together. My phone line got cut so there was a week of no communication, but when I got a new phone and new number, I texted him right away and we spoke like normal. That was a little over 2 weeks ago and haven't heard anything at all from him since. Its not like we broke up again....its more how he says one thing one day and ignores me the next day and next week. I don't know where we stand bc he told me he wants to be back together, but he doesn't show it to me that he does. And we didn't see each other or have sex bc hes in a different state right now. He doesn't know when he will be able to come back but he said its soon.
Starship Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 So he contacts you and ...? Then what? The same in a week...a month? Get on with your life. No text tag or anything. This pattern will drag out forever. Don't contact him. Don't respond to his contact. But...you probably will and then be back on here in 3 months as empty feeling as ever
katiegrl Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Can you combine ALL your threads about this SAME guy please? I think you have FOUR different ones running now...
Author MiSoleil Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 Can you combine ALL your threads about this SAME guy please? I think you have FOUR different ones running now... Im not sure how. Im sorry im new lol
William Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Moderation merged all the duplicate threads and left the posts for continuity due to slightly different contents. Responses from the thread starter may be delayed for a brief period. This is to ensure they don't start any more duplicate threads. Please continue the discussion here. Thanks!
ExpatInItaly Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 We had one long phone call one night after a few texts messages and decided to get back together. My phone line got cut so there was a week of no communication, but when I got a new phone and new number, I texted him right away and we spoke like normal. That was a little over 2 weeks ago and haven't heard anything at all from him since. Its not like we broke up again....its more how he says one thing one day and ignores me the next day and next week. I don't know where we stand bc he told me he wants to be back together, but he doesn't show it to me that he does. And we didn't see each other or have sex bc hes in a different state right now. He doesn't know when he will be able to come back but he said its soon. I think there's a big misunderstanding here. To me, this sounds like you are not currently together (in his mind) Wanting to be a couple and actually being a couple again are not the same thing. I don't know, OP. It seems to me that you think you're a couple again, while he thinks you're not.
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You were never "official" he was playing you like a fiddle. When guys just want sex they will do and say anything to get it. He misled you on purpose .....this is what he is doing to you. This is why you are confused...none of his words match his actions.....get it? He is just using you, then tossing you aside for someone else most likely. So no he doesn't care about you the way you care about him. Since this is your first experience...learn from it and move on.
spiderowl Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Guys say all sorts of things. If he is not contacting you regularly, he's not interested. It's very simple. I'm sorry because I know it must hurt, but now you have a chance to meet someone new who does want to see you and thinks you are really special. The guy you are so attached to is a waste of your time and energy. You need to drop him completely and focus on looking out for yourself and on the exciting future you could have once you have mentally freed yourself from this guy.
Author MiSoleil Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Guys say all sorts of things. If he is not contacting you regularly, he's not interested. It's very simple. I'm sorry because I know it must hurt, but now you have a chance to meet someone new who does want to see you and thinks you are really special. The guy you are so attached to is a waste of your time and energy. You need to drop him completely and focus on looking out for yourself and on the exciting future you could have once you have mentally freed yourself from this guy. I decided to text him finally today and I asked if we were still together, he waited 3 hours so I said ok then we arnt (waving bye emoji lol). He replied back he was sleeping and didn't see my text and that "he wants to be together but since he thinks us being together will cause family problems on my side, he didn't text me at all." That was his excuse. I replied I don't want to be with you anymore bc I feel like u don't care anymore. He kept saying how he didn't want to text me bc he didn't want to cause problems and that he still cares for me a lot but he NEVER SHOWS IT. Even if he says it so many times, he doesn't show he cares at all. So we "broke up" I guess lol for the third time. I really don't know. Maybe I was the only one who thought we were together, maybe he did too.... I just know at least I can try to move on and learn from this. Today was just a burst of clarity.....thank you to everyone who replied :-))
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