Gary S Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Can you wait a little next time, at least until the third date? I hope he's not a player. Guys, call a woman after you have sex with her, it's time to stop playing hard to get at that point. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 (edited) It's funny. When I like a girl, I actually delay having sex with her. Even though I am attracted and want her badly, it's my way of saying her company is enough. Plus, when you want to build a true sexual submissive mindset in a woman, it takes time and trust to develop. Seducing her little by little on dates, when you're in private having foreplay and working her up, but not having sex, etc.. Then when she can't take it anymore, I initiate full on sex with her. From then on out, it's pretty much her texting me on when we can get together again. You can make a woman yours completely when it comes to sex. You just need to have the patience and will power to let that need develop. If you rush in and try for sex within 1-3 dates, you're basically giving her all the power to control how and when sex happens after that. But waiting and really seducing her in the long run, makes her submissive to you in bed. Edited March 16, 2015 by fitnessfan365
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Okay good... phew! I was worried there for a sec, thinking you and I disagreed! hehe....naah, I knew what you meant. Even when we don't see eye to eye on everything, it's awesome that we can agree to disagree! I really like how there are some pretty cool gals on this site! .
smackie9 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 It's funny. When I like a girl, I actually delay having sex with her. Even though I am attracted and want her badly, it's my way of saying her company is enough. Plus, when you want to build a true sexual submissive mindset in a woman, it takes time and trust to develop. Seducing her little by little on dates, when you're in private having foreplay and working her up, but not having sex, etc.. Then when she can't take it anymore, I initiate full on sex with her. From then on out, it's pretty much her texting me on when we can get together again. You can make a woman yours completely when it comes to sex. You just need to have the patience and will power to let that need develop. If you rush in and try for sex within 1-3 dates, you're basically giving her all the power to control how and when sex happens after that. But waiting and really seducing her in the long run, makes her submissive to you in bed. I agree on waiting and let the sexual tension build up (doing the push and pull/dance)...it makes the first time more delicious. 1
katiegrl Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 hehe....naah, I knew what you meant. Even when we don't see eye to eye on everything, it's awesome that we can agree to disagree! I really like how there are some pretty cool gals on this site! . I agree and right back at ya! I've been on other sites and all (or many) of the women hated me....can't imagine why...
Redhead14 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 (edited) Redhead, thank you for *liking* my post! Does this mean you agree with the premise that both people should be initiating from the getgo and not just the man? Within reason of course...a healthy balance. I love all your posts BTW even if I don't 100% agree with them... Learning ALOT! Katiegirl, I like your post because that scenario works for you. It's not about agreeing or disagreeing about approaches. And, sometimes, an approach needs to be tailored a little according to the person you are dating or want to date. If a woman gets the "sense" from a man that tells her he likes a little more initiating or pursuing from a woman, then she can do that if she's comfortable with it. She can initiate, but she needs to keep herself in check. And, being comfortable with it is important. If she forces herself to do it but really isn't confident, she may end up sending a little bit of a false message to the man. If she's really not confident in herself on the whole, she won't be able to maintain it. In other words, he'll think she's confident and taking a little bit more charge, but over time, she'll begin to question his motives because he's not doing as much as she wants or needs in return. So, you get the reverse scenario -- he's not doing enough to make her feel comfortable. It's kinda of a catch 22 really. A woman who really likes a particular guy and maybe seems a little bit slow to contact her or pursue her, can make the first move. However, she needs to pay attention to his reaction or response. If he seemed a little bit put off somehow, by his tone or reaction/response time, she should only do that once and see what he does from there. It's really not that she shouldn't do it, it's about paying attention to the man. And, don't over do it either. It's still about balance even if she initiates in the beginning. You will see posts here from men who have had women approach or pursue them and they won't be comfortable about it and usually it's not that they didn't like her to pursue or initiate, it's the way she did it. If he didn't get back to her right away, she'll text or call 10 times. Do it once and wait, if he gets back to her, it was OK that she did it. But, now the ball is in his court to initiate back. But even if he seems to like it, in the beginning, she should do it once for say every two of his for a little while until she really gets to observe his "preference". There will be exceptions to every "rule" or approach. A woman can be a little flexible with it, but keep the basic premise. And, it's good that you don't agree with everything I post because it means you are confident in yourself and have your own mind Something guys like too. These are just the ground rules that work for me and sometimes didn't Edited March 16, 2015 by Redhead14 1
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