anomaly92386 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I'm love with this man for God only knows why... I'm only joking. I love him for baby reasons, we've been together for over 5 years I know why I love him, I am just broken hearted and I know I should move on and let go, but... I can't. He told me almost 2 weeks ago, that he didn't love me like I love him, that he doesn't want to fall back in to old habits, and insists that we aren't good together. Maybe it's just the rose colored glasses but, I know that's not true. We have a great time when we're together, it's when we are apart that things are wrong. I know what I've done wrong... He never wants to spend time with me any more and that makes me upset. Because he spends tune with all of his new found friends. This has happened often, and yes, it greatly upsets me. you would think after 5 years of being together with this man that he would finally include me in to his life. I have to see him every week at least through May or June . It's incredibly hard... but I still love him. I want him back for good. I want to be a bigger piece of his life. I've tried the no contact thing... i broke down yesterday. I saw him yesterday. I've been hanging out with my friends and trying to keep my mind off it... It's hard. Very hard. He still uses my netflix account, he didn't talk to me. I saw him yesterday and after I left I caked him and said, "I lover you. " It broke my heart because he was just like, "....yeah..." Help! How do I get him to fall back in love with me again? What do I do? Did I make a mistake by saying I love you? He called me beautiful in a text message said this was hard for him, too. I told him it didn't have to be this way. I understood where h e stands, I just hope we can be friends.
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You can't be friends. You want more. Friends won't be enough & that connection will prevent you from healing. You have a great time when you are together. He doesn't. He has told you he wants out. He also told you that you love him more than he loves you so he gets a few kudos for not being a user. Sadly you have to take your rose colored glasses off & deal with reality. This is over. Why do you have to see him every week though June? If there is anything you can do to get out of that, do it. You don't need the fresh reminders. Keep yourself busy. Rely on your friends. Rearrange your environment. Pack away all things he gave you & momentos. Take down the photos. Get off social media. Make a point to try new things. You will survive this.
Gloria25 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Get him back for another five years w/o commitment? After two years, whomever you are dating should know whether or not they want to marry you. Now, I didn't ask your ages - but I can see five years depending on how old you two are, but again, even at the end of five years if he doesn't see putting a ring on your finger then how long do you wanna go on like this? Someone who won't commit (marry) always has one foot outside the door. Doesn't matter if they move in/shack-up either. My fav podcaster considers "love" as "awe, respect, and admiration". If I were in your shoes, the last thing I'd see this guy as is someone I have "love" for. He had his fill of "company" for five years and is moving on. Forget him. 1
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