niceguy55 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Hi, I posted my long story late last week. My gf of 3 years still wants to go ahead with a break up. Even though we have had a handful of mini breaks, it seems very different now. Without re-explaining it all, I am very into her and adore her kids and slow to commit due to her falling out of love for a year. And some of her expectations of me, mood swings, etc. Although I think she does still love me to an extent. She is mad and hurt she's not gotten what she wants. I explained before, she wants them on her terms now. And when I did make concessions and compromise, she said I'm just saying it to save the relationship. I'm trying offer some proof, but a ring prob won't fix it now? Do girls want a ring when they are trying to get out?? She has only wanted to text the last week and she would like a few items back from me. She says; - I'm a great guy and will make someone happy - She's just not the one - she wants to close the door and start a new chapter - she likes my company and intimacy best and misses it - does not like the stress and uncertain from me - she's happier right now but still hurting from no full commitment She has said these things before but have stuck in it. It seems fairly clear, but hurts if shes meaning it. Because she has changed her mind or tried to scare a bit in the past, I'm a bit confused. I mentioned therapy again to help us better reach our goals together instead of power struggling it. She is still declining. We have had great times and wish we could continue and grow but does not believe in it. Anyway, she asked if I would take her things and put them in her car at her work (15 min. from me) so she does not have to have a conversation I'm gathering. They are her things and I don't play games. But hurts I may be delivering my relationship death. I would be making it easy on her as I tend to jump at most requests. Or she'll make feel guilty which she has before...which isn't good. Or should I have her come and get it or some other method? She may be being nice right now due to her wanting these things. Any thoughts...thx
Ruby65 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Bring her her things -- she's a single working mother and has enough to deal with. And next time, don't be so slow to commit.
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