smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 How can clothing possibly change how friendly you look? Im always friendly, I cant imagine what im wearing could give a different impression... From my experience it can. When I worked at a night club, dressed very nice (not slutty), guys were too afraid to ask me out because they thought I was too expensive, and that I would only date muscular bouncer types that drove jags or some other kind of expensive car. I was shocked when I was told that....and here I thought I was doing the right thing by dressing classy.
runredlights Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Who wrote this? Guys are so daft to a woman's wardrobes for the most part. Ahhh... Jesus. This is a stupid thread. For me when I go on dates with women, particularly in the summer time they will almost always be in a sundress. I love sundresses and unless a girl is super chubby then she will look so cute and sweet in one of those. It's incredibly easy to pull off, but definitely stylish. For the most part as long as my date doesn't look trashy in her outfit then I literally couldn't give a **** what she is wearing.
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Once on my way to the club I was in a line up paying for gas when a guy in his 50's in front of me bought me a rose and said, you look very nice tonight, I hope you have a nice evening. You should have seen the stink eye coming from the other women in the line up lol. So older guy - 1 young guys - 0 1
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Who wrote this? Guys are so daft to a woman's wardrobes for the most part. Ahhh... Jesus. This is a stupid thread. For me when I go on dates with women, particularly in the summer time they will almost always be in a sundress. I love sundresses and unless a girl is super chubby then she will look so cute and sweet in one of those. It's incredibly easy to pull off, but definitely stylish. For the most part as long as my date doesn't look trashy in her outfit then I literally couldn't give a **** what she is wearing. winning!...........
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Seriously, you're over-thinking this! Just wear what you normally wear; that's what I do. I'm almost always in jeans (flared or skinny) or shorts and a casual shirt (which kind of shirt depends on the weather and where I'm going). Now, if I'm going out on a date or just out on the town with my friends, I'll dress nicer and wear heels. I'll wear sundresses and strappy sandals if I'm going out to the beach on the boardwalk or at a cafe, to an outdoor concert, walking around downtown or somewhere like that. .
preraph Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I wouldn't want to date the kind of guy who would pick a woman dressed like crap just because she wasn't too intimidating, because that is a really low bar there. I'd want one who cared if I was employable and who was also employable. 1
Starship Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 If I'm wearing a dress, heels, hair down and stop off at Walmart, I'll get approached by some guy with the small talk, etc. If in slacks, etc....less likely. I don't find men at all intimidated...at least not the confident men. They will position themselves in your aisle, perhaps comment on something in my cart, or get in line in the check up behind me, etc.
Bobbi7 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I usually wear a nice top and jeans or nice top with shorts with cute scandals or tennis shoes. And I'm always wearing makeup. Either way, guys don't approach me. I guess have to wear halter tops, sexy shorts, sundresses, heels, to get some attention.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I usually wear a nice top and jeans or nice top with shorts with cute scandals or tennis shoes. And I'm always wearing makeup. Either way, guys don't approach me. I guess have to wear halter tops, sexy shorts, sundresses, heels, to get some attention. I wouldn't want a guy to approach me just because I'm showing cleavage or a lot of skin. I don't dress like that when I'm out and about running errands or out with my family and friends because I don't want to broadcast the wrong signals. As I've said earlier, if I'm going out to a swanky venue or if I'm going out on a date, then I'll dress a little sexier and only accent a certain feature of my body, whether that's showing a little cleavage, showcasing my shoulders, my back or my legs. I've been working out and eating right; and am almost at my goal of having the type of body that I feel confident in...so, there's nothing wrong with accenting it with certain types of attire. But in your case, if you're just out and about running errands, I wouldn't dress sexy just to get "some attention" from guys. If a guy shows you some attention, you should want it to be because he's physically attracted to you with what you're already wearing and because he wants to talk with you; not because you want him to think about sex when he looks at you. Jmho. .
WomenWubber Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Guys: Does the way a girl dresses influence whether you ask her out? I, for example, try to look put together, but I generally don't wear short shorts or skirts. I usually don't show cleavage, or if I do, it's just a hint. I wear heels, but not very high. I wear jeans, and I look good in them, but I don't wear them super tight. I wonder whether my way of dressing sends the signal that I must not want to be approached. Does this matter? Thanks In my exp, it has a great influence on the kind and the amount of men you attract. But you seem like a woman I'd approach and I'm sure many men would feel the same way. Those who don't come near you are probably not the kind of men you want to attract anyways. If you are having problems, maybe you're going to the wrong places. Imo, the clothes you choose to wear convey a message about who you are. The more 'yourself' you feel while wearing them, the clearer this message is.
Hopeful30 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Imo, the clothes you choose to wear convey a message about who you are. The more 'yourself' you feel while wearing them, the clearer this message is. Not always true. I'm very stylish because I love it, and I feel amazing when I'm stylish, yet I only get approached when I look like crap. I want to get approached when I dress well, because that's when I feel the best, yet it very very very very very very very rarely happens (3 times in my life maybe?)
Popsicle Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 When I lived in the big city, it didn't matter what I wore, men always hit on me. Now that I live in the booney's, it still doesn't matter what I wear, men never hit on me. So, in short, for me, it's come down to location, not attire. 2
alphamale Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 When I lived in the big city, it didn't matter what I wore, men always hit on me. Now that I live in the booney's, it still doesn't matter what I wear, men never hit on me. So, in short, for me, it's come down to location, not attire. location, location, location you're going to have to move to find a husband 1
WomenWubber Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Not always true. I'm very stylish because I love it, and I feel amazing when I'm stylish, yet I only get approached when I look like crap. I want to get approached when I dress well, because that's when I feel the best, yet it very very very very very very very rarely happens (3 times in my life maybe?) I didn't say that by looking 'yourself'-ish you would get approached more. However, chances are you will get approached by the men you actually want to attract. From my POV, this is what I've seen in my life so far. 1
Popsicle Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 location, location, location you're going to have to move to find a husband I know this. Working on it.
preraph Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 When I lived in the big city, it didn't matter what I wore, men always hit on me. Now that I live in the booney's, it still doesn't matter what I wear, men never hit on me. So, in short, for me, it's come down to location, not attire. Yeah, but what kind of men? And did you lock one down?
Woggle Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Most men just care if a woman looks good or not. Most of us don't care much about fashion. I look at fashion show and they don't seem like places I would want to be.
Gary S Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 If you are single and trying to get men's attention, I would suggest wearing makeup and a dress that shows off a woman's curves... bright color dresses like yellow and arrest me red can also help you to stand out. I once spotted a woman in a tight yellow dress, all decked out, in a mall... she was across the mall, and I walked over to were she was, struck up a conversation, and got her phone number. Beauty is one of women's powers - I'd milk it for all it's worth. 2
Author Eggplant Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Who wrote this? Guys are so daft to a woman's wardrobes for the most part. Ahhh... Jesus. This is a stupid thread. For me when I go on dates with women, particularly in the summer time they will almost always be in a sundress. I love sundresses and unless a girl is super chubby then she will look so cute and sweet in one of those. It's incredibly easy to pull off, but definitely stylish. For the most part as long as my date doesn't look trashy in her outfit then I literally couldn't give a **** what she is wearing. So that's what I thought. But I noticed, for example, that if I went into Panera with a shorter dress and heels all the sudden there was a sea of eyes looking at me, whereas in general I am invisible. If guys are really daft, why do so many women spend so many hours shopping for clothing? (I don't like shopping, but if there's a payoff...) 1
Author Eggplant Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Also, I'm not asking about what to wear on a date. For a date, I feel I've got that covered.
Popsicle Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Yeah, but what kind of men? And did you lock one down? Attractive men, and I did, but we ended up divorcing.
carhill Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Yes, I surmised you were interested in what attracts men's attention and if an outfit would do so. Generally, standing out will attract men's attention. I think my best lesson in this came from my exW, who worked in the appearance industry and made it her mantra to always look her best, regardless of the realities. That's likely how, even being obese, she moved through three husbands and on to the boyfriend she's been with now for five years. She knows how to attract men and looking her best, even as a 50-something woman, does it. The rest is up to whom one attracts and each partner's health for that particular relationship. While I may have provided my personal opinion upthread, I freely acknowledge it's likely outlier and I note, every day, my married male friend's heads swiveling when they catch sight of a smartly dressed woman 'strutting her stuff'. They're men, married decades, and not 'dead' as to what males naturally respond to. This is how successful men are. They view, they covet, they pursue, presuming they're single anyway. I remember one close male friend who had a wife who dressed herself from thrift store finds but the clothes were eclectic, reflected her personal style and she stood out wherever they went. Yeah, she was married but, still, men noticed her. It wasn't because of anything obviously sexual, rather eye-catching style which showed her off to her best advantage. Heh, lucky him. She was hot. Glad I was a virgin back then Can a woman get noticed dressing down, casually, sloppily, blending in with the background with a lampshade on her head? Yep! It all depends on the woman. The way I see it is, if one wants to get noticed, why purposely eschew one enjoyable method of doing so? Unlike many guys I know, I always believed women shop for themselves because they like the whole process and getting something 'new'. My exW's shoe collection was evidence of that! The only heels she owned were ones I bought for her because I liked her in heels. She preferred other so that's what filled up the closet! Anyway, good luck and hope the men-shopping goes well!
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