Eggplant Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Guys: Does the way a girl dresses influence whether you ask her out? I, for example, try to look put together, but I generally don't wear short shorts or skirts. I usually don't show cleavage, or if I do, it's just a hint. I wear heels, but not very high. I wear jeans, and I look good in them, but I don't wear them super tight. I wonder whether my way of dressing sends the signal that I must not want to be approached. Does this matter? Thanks
DoesntGetIt Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Does it matter? Not in the grand sense of things, but it depends on where you are and what you're doing. If you're going to a club where guys are there specifically to look for and pick up women, they're going to notice the ones in skirts who are showing cleavage first. That's just human nature. If you're out at a café, or a book store, in class, or some other non pickup place (not a bar or club) then it really doesn't matter because at that point a guy is getting hints at personality/who you are and that is what matters. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I'm a personal trainer and spend 80% of my time in t-shirts, shorts, athletic pants, and sweats. So it's not like I can claim to be a fashion guru. However, if I ask a woman out to dinner, or some other type of event, I'd like to think she'd take pride in her appearance. I already told this story before. But asked a woman out to dinner. She wanted to meet there. I showed up a bit early to confirm the reservation. She showed up wearing torn jean shorts, a ratty tie-die shirt, and worn out flip flop sandals. I took this personally because she obviously didn't give a crap about me one way or the other. So I told her they lost the reservation and that it would take an hour before another table was open. Then we went next door to the mall, and I bought her a $5 slice of Sbarro's pizza and never called her again..LOL
Author Eggplant Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 I'm a personal trainer and spend 80% of my time in t-shirts, shorts, athletic pants, and sweats. So it's not like I can claim to be a fashion guru. However, if I ask a woman out to dinner, or some other type of event, I'd like to think she'd take pride in her appearance. I already told this story before. But asked a woman out to dinner. She wanted to meet there. I showed up a bit early to confirm the reservation. She showed up wearing torn jean shorts, a ratty tie-die shirt, and worn out flip flop sandals. I took this personally because she obviously didn't give a crap about me one way or the other. So I told her they lost the reservation and that it would take an hour before another table was open. Then we went next door to the mall, and I bought her a $5 slice of Sbarro's pizza and never called her again..LOL If I were on a date, I would dress way up.
Arieswoman Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 So I told her they lost the reservation and that it would take an hour before another table was open. Then we went next door to the mall, and I bought her a $5 slice of Sbarro's pizza and never called her again..LOL Now that was smart thinking FF365 !
fitnessfan365 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Now that was smart thinking FF365 ! Well the way I saw it is that she wanted a free meal. So I gave her one that basically was. It's funny though. There are probably A TON of guys that would be cringing at how she looked on the inside but still treat her to an expensive dinner in fake happy silence. I actually work hard for my money and have balls, so I would never put up with crap like that.
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Eggplant I'm a woman but I know sometimes what I wear influences how I carry myself on any given day. I have some power suits that scream -- Don't F with me. It would take a rare man indeed to decide to ask me out on one of those days because every fiber of my being is screaming hostilities. Beyond that, as long as you don't look like something the cat dragged in, different men are going to find different looks more or less appealing. You don't always have to be all dolled up. Neat & clean sporting a genuine smile does it for most guys. 4
road Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Eggplant, a woman can look perfect in a tee shirt, jeans, and sneakers. A woman can look horrible in a tee shirt, jeans, and sneakers. Because jeans are skinny leg jeans does not mean they will look good on every woman. A woman does not have to show a lot of skin to look good. And can look good with just a little lipstick. However too lazy to wash her hair and get a straight part in it says I do not care if I look dirty. That is a turn off. 3
MGX Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Guys: Does the way a girl dresses influence whether you ask her out? I, for example, try to look put together, but I generally don't wear short shorts or skirts. I usually don't show cleavage, or if I do, it's just a hint. I wear heels, but not very high. I wear jeans, and I look good in them, but I don't wear them super tight. I wonder whether my way of dressing sends the signal that I must not want to be approached. Does this matter? Thanks If I were attracted to a woman, her clothes really didn't matter to me. 1
Hopeful30 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I personally think so. When im all dressed up, men are afraid to approach me. When i look like crap, however, for some reason men are more likely to talk to me, which is ironic because i look like @$$, i dont wanna be approached right now.
crosswordfiend Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Yes. The outfit can say a lot about a women so it will have a bearing on whether I decide to chat her up or not. Essentially, it boils down to context. If she is wearing high heels, full make up and a party dress in a coffee shop in the middle of the day, then I would suspect that she is always this put together and would be too high maintenance for me.
road Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Yes. The outfit can say a lot about a women so it will have a bearing on whether I decide to chat her up or not. Essentially, it boils down to context. If she is wearing high heels, full make up and a party dress in a coffee shop in the middle of the day, then I would suspect that she is always this put together and would be too high maintenance for me. When people ass-ume they make a mule out of themselves. This lady could of been slopping hogs everyday on her farm. That day she went into town to have lunch with her friends, business meeting with lawyer, bank, CPA, or doctor, bridal shower, friends birthday, going to a date. 2
alphamale Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Guys: Does the way a girl dresses influence whether you ask her out? I, for example, try to look put together, but I generally don't wear short shorts or skirts. I usually don't show cleavage, or if I do, it's just a hint. I wear heels, but not very high. I wear jeans, look sister, you're younger and want to find a mate. dress your age not like a grandma.
carhill Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Ha, ha, the last person I considered asking out was dressed very conservative but it was hard to hide her Plenty O'Toole eyes. Fortunately, she was much younger and married so the impetus passed. Much later, I'd get a good laugh when she'd unleash the rest of her assets and torment the guys when not smashing everything down and covering it up. I noted that as recently as last week when warm weather here had her wearing a sundress and, well, spilling out the sides, if you know what I mean. When I left the shop, there must've been ten guys milling around Outfits have never mattered much to me. What's inside of them, yeah, sure.
carhill Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 plenty o'toole from james bond? Yep, spittin' image of Lana Wood, except, surprisingly, more well-endowed. Smart as a tack and a hard worker too. Nearly always wears very conservative clothing, though crisp, especially working in a blue-collar environment. I was using that example, but there are lots more. I think each man has his own proclivities in such matters. That said, if I had to drill down to an outfit which could influence such matters, it would probably be the crisp and tailored look of the 40's and 50's, where curves were accentuated and a more formal appearance overshadowed casual. I note this most often when traveling by air, as I find myself more drawn to the older women in the cabin who still dress more formally for flying, as I generally do. Their personalities generally match and I find our interactions to make the time 'fly' by. 2
preraph Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 If you're going on a date and it's anything more formal than coffee on the patio, dress feminine and up a notch. Even if it's just coffee on the patio, dress feminine, not a hoodie and yoga pants. Wear an actual woman's blouse and some good jeans, not worn out ones, or slacks or skirt. I get that some people are just too lazy to ever put any effort towards their clothes and are going to be in sweats the rest of their life, but I really don't understand why anyone would want to date that. So I think if you're interested in taking your life to another level by dating and trying to find a good man (key word there, "good"), then you'd want to put your best self forward and not your most comfortable thoughtless self. So yes, dress up a bit so you make a good impression and don't look like the lump on the sofa in 10 years already. Don't dress slutty on a date. It's trying too hard.
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Wear what you want to wear. How you dress is who you are, so why dress in a way you would never dress just to hook a guy in. To some that would be interpenetrated as false advertising, kinda like like stuffing your bra or wearing heels you can barely walk in. Just be yourself, don't try to over impress. 1
smackie9 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 If I were attracted to a woman, her clothes really didn't matter to me. I got more hit on when I was in sweat pants with no makeup on.....just a warm smile is all you need.....if you look friendly, you are more approachable.
Hopeful30 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I got more hit on when I was in sweat pants with no makeup on.....just a warm smile is all you need.....if you look friendly, you are more approachable. How can clothing possibly change how friendly you look? Im always friendly, I cant imagine what im wearing could give a different impression...
d0nnivain Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 How can clothing possibly change how friendly you look? Im always friendly, I cant imagine what im wearing could give a different impression... If your clothing is constricting or you are dressed someway that makes you uncomfortable it may show on your face / body language & indicate that you are not friendly / approachable.
alphamale Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I note this most often when traveling by air, as I find myself more drawn to the older women in the cabin who still dress more formally for flying, as I generally do. Their personalities generally match and I find our interactions to make the time 'fly' by. not only that but if the plane goes down you'll look terrific 1
Timshel Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Yep, spittin' image of Lana Wood, except, surprisingly, more well-endowed. Smart as a tack and a hard worker too. Nearly always wears very conservative clothing, though crisp, especially working in a blue-collar environment. I was using that example, but there are lots more. I think each man has his own proclivities in such matters. That said, if I had to drill down to an outfit which could influence such matters, it would probably be the crisp and tailored look of the 40's and 50's, where curves were accentuated and a more formal appearance overshadowed casual. I note this most often when traveling by air, as I find myself more drawn to the older women in the cabin who still dress more formally for flying, as I generally do. Their personalities generally match and I find our interactions to make the time 'fly' by. Ooooh, Mad Men. Yes. Op, dress for yourself, then you will attract a man who appreciates that and you.
carhill Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 not only that but if the plane goes down you'll look terrific Surprisingly, since many of those 'older ladies' have happened to be retired flight attendants, your statement is one they often repeated, except of course they focus on getting out alive. Sweats and no underwear would likely leave them mortified
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