Gary S Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 My 3rd date with Jenifer Aniston - Saturday, March 14th, 2015 This was the first date I picked Jenifer up from her home... I did not like the fact that she still wanted to meet for date two - while it's acceptable for women to want to meet twice, I like to see higher love level out of the gate, and prefer to pick them up by date two (I met her from OLD). That second meet was the first mixed signal she gave me. However, to be fair, she was sick with the flu. It was probably better that I did not pick her up in retrospect. With her bubbly personality, the occasional snorting when she laughs, and friendliness, and her looks, she is a dead-ringer for everybody's favorite girl next door, Jenifer Aniston. So I changed my dates' name to Jenifer in this date story to protect the guilty! I gave her a peck on the lips when I met her at the door, that was another first for us, it's been only hugs so far. I would have kissed her on date two, but she had the Flu. I got to meet her lovable Bulldog Bacon, and we played together great, I adore animals, particularly dogs. You have to get past the pouch if you want to steal Mrs. Rights heart! We went to J.Marks Restaurant for dinner. As always, I opened doors for her, placed the food order for both of us, paid for dinner, and since she smokes, I even whipped out my lighter to light her cigarette like the fastest gun in the west! Always the perfect gentleman, you betcha! She did offer to help with the tip. I started out with a bang on this date - as soon as the server brought my Margarita, with the first sip I exclaimed, "Ahh - just like mom used to drink!" All the ladies like humor, they all like Jim Carrey (My alter-ego)! We had a great time sharing date stories and bantering during dinner, and got a little more intimate on this date... more hand-holding, and sitting closer to each other. When we got back to her apartment, we played with her cute Bulldog again, Bacon. We sat down next to each other on the couch and watched an improve comedy show. We shared a lot of laughs... I also found out that she snorts sometimes when she laughs, lol... I think it's cute! While we were sitting side-by-side, I put my hand on her leg (she wore shorts on this date), she is in great shape, she works out and jogs. She took my hand in hers and we held hands - awe, isn't that cute! She also began fondling my hand several times, and for quite awhile. She said I had very nice hands and asked if I played the piano. Things are heating up here! She asked if I was going fishing tomorrow, and I said, "probably". She said she would like to go fishing with me sometime. Suggesting future dates is a great sign of interest level, she did this the last time, on our second date. However, I was a little lethargic after dinner on this date - probably from talking so much, having a margarita, and eating a large portion of Fettuccine Alfredo. On early dates, I have been talking more than I should, I usually like the woman to talk more.... ladies get emotional satisfaction from talking, it's actually a part of romance for them. She commented that she thought I looked tired. Not good. At 10:45 she said she was tired and it was time for her to go to bed (she's an early riser), so she walked me out to my car. I gave her a real kiss for the first time, I'd give it a score of about a 4 out of ten on the Richter scale, not too great... she cut the kiss short and started to giggle.... so I'm not sure if she did not like the kiss or was just having a giggle fit! I went for a second kiss and got a hug, not good. I giggled on and off, all the way home, thinking about Jenifer Aniston and that possible botched kissed.... You have to laugh at things sometimes. Plus, her laugh is infectious. But I would not be surprised if she lost interest with the kiss. Unfortunately, sometimes it goes that way. I really have no idea, I get mixed signals with Jenifer, she is hard to read. I think the giggling after the first kiss is a red flag. So ladies, when you laugh after a kiss, does it mean you aren't into the guy? Or is it just because she's the bubbly-giggly type? I've only seen this a couple of times in my life. My intuition tells me it's a red flag. To further complicate matters, we have lots of signs of interest before the kiss - allowing me to pick her up at home, sitting close, talking about the future, and her fondling my hand - but the last sign, and the biggest, the kiss, might have bombed. And sometimes you have to go by the last sign? - interest can change date-by-date, even minute-by-minute in the beginning. What do you say?
Auspecial Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 So, I am not Jenifer, but for me it sounds like some shyness. I would not read into it.
soyou Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 You're trying to read so much out of a small and unimportant detail. Just sit back, relax, and follow up with her on the txts/calltoday. You will find out if she is still interested. Based on what you describe, I think she is interested. Dont ruin your confidence or the fun out of nothing ;-). Good luck! 1
Omei Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Usually means they're shy-ish or unsure still. She may not be ready for prolonged kissing. One thing is clear shes taking it slow shes being careful not to just give you all of herself right away. You sound sweet keep up what your doing and it will go along smoothly hopefully. The fact she let you in her place and let you know where she lives is a good sign
TB Rhine Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 So am I correct in deducing you went back to her place and sat next to her on the couch for a couple hours, and all that ended up happening was a little hand-holding and a kiss on your way out the door? No. No, no, no. If a woman invites you back to her place, or invites herself back to yours, and most especially if alcohol is consumed... she is giving you a green light. If you fail to be bold and take action, she will lose interest. The kiss needed to come way earlier -- probably shortly after the hand on her leg fiasco, if not before. She probably giggled there at the end 'cause she was thinking, "NOW he kisses me?" Now, there's just a chance I could be wrong, and she's just not interested in you, period. The hand-holding feels like a de-escalation, to me, from putting your hand on her leg. She may have been trying to slow your roll there. But she also may prefer to start with romantic gestures -- kissing and hand-holding -- before progressing to sexual ones (such as allowing your hand to stray too close to certain parts of her anatomy). In any event, certainly by the time she started stroking your hand, there should have been at least a short make-out session in the offing. You failed to respond to the signals she was giving you, and as a result probably wound up cock-blocking yourself.
Author Gary S Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Okay, she texted me today, she's still interested. I guess the giggling during kissing was just because she was a little too happy, which is a good thing. Emotions can be hard to nail down sometimes I guess... if you see someone crying, are they crying because they are happy or sad?
Omei Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Okay, she texted me today, she's still interested. I guess the giggling during kissing was just because she was a little too happy, which is a good thing. Emotions can be hard to nail down sometimes I guess... if you see someone crying, are they crying because they are happy or sad? Yeah thats good! Don't try to sac her she's clearly going slow let her lead or have a conversation about it first I wouldn't make a physical move to bed her.
Author Gary S Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Well, we had a candid discussion last night about past relationships/dating, and she mentioned that she was surprised one man from her past took 2 months to initiate sex. She also said she likes the man to initiate. So I will probably have to make a move in the coming weeks (we've been dating two weeks now). Things can heat up quickly after the first big kiss. By the way, I'm in no rush for sex.... if I have a healthy and happy LTR, I will be having sex for years But you have to be ready to go when they want it, I don't mind Thank you Omei for the words of encouragement, I appreciate it. 1
Omei Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Well, we had a candid discussion last night about past relationships/dating, and she mentioned that she was surprised one man from her past took 2 months to initiate sex. She also said she likes the man to initiate. So I will probably have to make a move in the coming weeks (we've been dating two weeks now). Things can heat up quickly after the first big kiss. By the way, I'm in no rush for sex.... if I have a healthy and happy LTR, I will be having sex for years But you have to be ready to go when they want it, I don't mind Thank you Omei for the words of encouragement, I appreciate it. Good so she's been very clear she doesn't want you to wait too long and also wants you to take her so a week or two is a good idea That's awesome so you don't need to try and figure it out she right out told ya what she needs. Best of luck!
Gaeta Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 So am I correct in deducing you went back to her place and sat next to her on the couch for a couple hours, and all that ended up happening was a little hand-holding and a kiss on your way out the door? No. No, no, no. If a woman invites you back to her place, or invites herself back to yours, and most especially if alcohol is consumed... she is giving you a green light. If you fail to be bold and take action, she will lose interest. The kiss needed to come way earlier -- probably shortly after the hand on her leg fiasco, if not before. She probably giggled there at the end 'cause she was thinking, "NOW he kisses me?" Now, there's just a chance I could be wrong, and she's just not interested in you, period. The hand-holding feels like a de-escalation, to me, from putting your hand on her leg. She may have been trying to slow your roll there. But she also may prefer to start with romantic gestures -- kissing and hand-holding -- before progressing to sexual ones (such as allowing your hand to stray too close to certain parts of her anatomy). In any event, certainly by the time she started stroking your hand, there should have been at least a short make-out session in the offing. You failed to respond to the signals she was giving you, and as a result probably wound up cock-blocking yourself. I disagree from A to Z with this. It frustrates me to think that in my dating I come across men thinking like this. Gary I think all looks good. Maybe she did not go into heaving kissing because of something silly like too much garlic in those fettuccine Alfredo. Don't skip steps, a good period of anticipation at the beginning makes the experience even more enjoyable. 3
Omei Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I disagree from A to Z with this. It frustrates me to think that in my dating I come across men thinking like this. Gary I think all looks good. Maybe she did not go into heaving kissing because of something silly like too much garlic in those fettuccine Alfredo. Don't skip steps, a good period of anticipation at the beginning makes the experience even more enjoyable. Agree just because a woman is willing to hang out with you at her place doesnt mean its time for sex it means shes willing to have you in her place they're two totally different steps. 2
Author Gary S Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Maybe she did not go into heaving kissing because of something silly like too much garlic in those fettuccine Alfredo. Don't skip steps, a good period of anticipation at the beginning makes the experience even more enjoyable. - Excellent point, that's a possibility. I had breath spray in my pocket, but it ran out. Ya know, ya try to cover everything, but sometimes ya just can't win! Such is life and dating. 1
Author Gary S Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Update: She texted me today, wishing me a good day. I texted her that I would call her today on her way home from work, and I did. She asked me what I was doing during the week, and I told her it was routine, so she set a date with me for tomorrow. My dating life is looking very good at the moment!
Redhead14 Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 My 3rd date with Jenifer Aniston - Saturday, March 14th, 2015 This was the first date I picked Jenifer up from her home... I did not like the fact that she still wanted to meet for date two - while it's acceptable for women to want to meet twice, I like to see higher love level out of the gate, and prefer to pick them up by date two (I met her from OLD). That second meet was the first mixed signal she gave me. However, to be fair, she was sick with the flu. It was probably better that I did not pick her up in retrospect. With her bubbly personality, the occasional snorting when she laughs, and friendliness, and her looks, she is a dead-ringer for everybody's favorite girl next door, Jenifer Aniston. So I changed my dates' name to Jenifer in this date story to protect the guilty! I gave her a peck on the lips when I met her at the door, that was another first for us, it's been only hugs so far. I would have kissed her on date two, but she had the Flu. I got to meet her lovable Bulldog Bacon, and we played together great, I adore animals, particularly dogs. You have to get past the pouch if you want to steal Mrs. Rights heart! We went to J.Marks Restaurant for dinner. As always, I opened doors for her, placed the food order for both of us, paid for dinner, and since she smokes, I even whipped out my lighter to light her cigarette like the fastest gun in the west! Always the perfect gentleman, you betcha! She did offer to help with the tip. I started out with a bang on this date - as soon as the server brought my Margarita, with the first sip I exclaimed, "Ahh - just like mom used to drink!" All the ladies like humor, they all like Jim Carrey (My alter-ego)! We had a great time sharing date stories and bantering during dinner, and got a little more intimate on this date... more hand-holding, and sitting closer to each other. When we got back to her apartment, we played with her cute Bulldog again, Bacon. We sat down next to each other on the couch and watched an improve comedy show. We shared a lot of laughs... I also found out that she snorts sometimes when she laughs, lol... I think it's cute! While we were sitting side-by-side, I put my hand on her leg (she wore shorts on this date), she is in great shape, she works out and jogs. She took my hand in hers and we held hands - awe, isn't that cute! She also began fondling my hand several times, and for quite awhile. She said I had very nice hands and asked if I played the piano. Things are heating up here! She asked if I was going fishing tomorrow, and I said, "probably". She said she would like to go fishing with me sometime. Suggesting future dates is a great sign of interest level, she did this the last time, on our second date. However, I was a little lethargic after dinner on this date - probably from talking so much, having a margarita, and eating a large portion of Fettuccine Alfredo. On early dates, I have been talking more than I should, I usually like the woman to talk more.... ladies get emotional satisfaction from talking, it's actually a part of romance for them. She commented that she thought I looked tired. Not good. At 10:45 she said she was tired and it was time for her to go to bed (she's an early riser), so she walked me out to my car. I gave her a real kiss for the first time, I'd give it a score of about a 4 out of ten on the Richter scale, not too great... she cut the kiss short and started to giggle.... so I'm not sure if she did not like the kiss or was just having a giggle fit! I went for a second kiss and got a hug, not good. I giggled on and off, all the way home, thinking about Jenifer Aniston and that possible botched kissed.... You have to laugh at things sometimes. Plus, her laugh is infectious. But I would not be surprised if she lost interest with the kiss. Unfortunately, sometimes it goes that way. I really have no idea, I get mixed signals with Jenifer, she is hard to read. I think the giggling after the first kiss is a red flag. So ladies, when you laugh after a kiss, does it mean you aren't into the guy? Or is it just because she's the bubbly-giggly type? I've only seen this a couple of times in my life. My intuition tells me it's a red flag. To further complicate matters, we have lots of signs of interest before the kiss - allowing me to pick her up at home, sitting close, talking about the future, and her fondling my hand - but the last sign, and the biggest, the kiss, might have bombed. And sometimes you have to go by the last sign? - interest can change date-by-date, even minute-by-minute in the beginning. What do you say? You wrote an awful lot just to find out if giggling after a kiss means she isn't into you You are way overthinking it. She giggled, would you rather she slapped or frowned at you. It's doesn't matter at this point. What matters is what happens next . . . does she accept another date with you? Go date by date with her and enjoy the time.
Author Gary S Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 (edited) Update: I noticed she updated her profile with more pics last week. On Monday, she set a date with me for Tuesday. On Tuesday, she broke the date, claimed she had to work late, which I believe to be true, she did call me twice. Then she promised to call me Wednesday, but she didn't (I did get a short text in the morning, "happy hump day!, which I replied to). My Spidy sense tells me either she's not very interested at this point, or lacks integrity/responsibility or is a little too high maintenance for me. I don't like people who make promises they don't keep. I guess I'm going fishing again. That's the the roller coaster of dating for you.... one day they love you, next day, not so much, lol. Like I always say, don't count on anything until you pass the two month mark. Dating... the endless search for the needle in the haystack. Edited March 19, 2015 by Gary S
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 19, 2015 Posted March 19, 2015 Update: I noticed she updated her profile with more pics last week. On Monday, she set a date with me for Tuesday. On Tuesday, she broke the date, claimed she had to work late, which I believe to be true, she did call me twice. Then she promised to call me Wednesday, but she didn't (I did get a short text in the morning, "happy hump day!, which I replied to). My Spidy sense tells me either she's not very interested at this point, or lacks integrity/responsibility or is a little too high maintenance for me. I don't like people who make promises they don't keep. I guess I'm going fishing again. That's the the roller coaster of dating for you.... one day they love you, next day, not so much, lol. Like I always say, don't count on anything until you pass the two month mark. Dating... the endless search for the needle in the haystack. Aww, sorry this girl fell through. But, just so you know, you're in good company...we're ALL searching endlessly for that gorgeous, emotionally stable, kind hearted, witty, active, intelligent, good humored, xbox playin' needle in the haystack! Although I'm in a current hiatus for the time being, I'm not ruling anything out - just don't want to miss out on something if it happens to manifest into my life when I'm not expecting it, y'know? You seem like the old fashioned, courteous type of gentleman that has probably all but died out in this world, and lots of women are looking for a guy like you! They just have to fish in the same pond that you do! . 2
Author Gary S Posted March 19, 2015 Author Posted March 19, 2015 Thank you for the kind words, zombiegirl, you are a class act.
TB Rhine Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 By the way, I'm in no rush for sex.... She's practically begging you to initiate things, and to do it sooner rather than later. Every day you wait is another nail in your coffin.
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