Stilnaught Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 (edited) I went to a party yesterday, and had a blast. Just dancing, talking, laughing, .. And suddenly she appeared. Like a whirlwind. A very pretty girl, with a big smile who seemed to carry the life of the party with her. I stood there, in awe, just thinking "wow". And then she started talking to my friend, and inquired who i was. And gave me an odd look. And stayed around. And gave me a check with her butt when she passed me on her way to the bar ... Only so much as i could take, i went in for a talk and ended with a few kisses and a phone number. Now, today, she bombarded me with questions through SMS, very playful and light. And in the end, a small reference to "yesterday" came along, and suddenly came a long "i like you, but i can't have a boyfriend right now" message. It came a bit like a shock, after asking a few things like "do you sport" and "do you smoke" it felt like i just failed an entrance exam. However, what keeps me from classifying her as superficial, is that her best friend gave me a "go slow with her" talk yesterday, as if she both was glad to "couple her with me", yet felt like she had to warn me. The girl seems to be truly sad about the matter, as if it's truly about her. I guess it's some personal issue? EDIT I should've posted this sooner, since i suddenly got some answers from someone else. Apparantly she had a very bad ex, basicly faking love until he found someone else. He dumped her while literally saying that he just liked the sex and didn't want her as a person. Sigh ... Edited March 14, 2015 by Stilnaught Advances in situation
elliecoffee Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Too much baggage my friend :/ Best advice I could give you is: let life do its thing and don't try to control a thing. If you do this, 'worst' case scenario is you will end up as friends best? a couple. xx 1
DoesntGetIt Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Given I just had something with a woman who "wasn't ready for a serious relationship in her life right now", I will also say that it isn't likely to end well. In my case, it was great at first. Lots of fun, jokes, laughing, cuddling and of course sex. We always had a great time together. But as she got feelings and things got more serious she panicked and it got weird and annoying until it fell apart. If she "can't have a boyfriend right now", she is likely to bail once the feelings start flowing from either side, and you're just going to get hurt. However, if you're fine having some truly casual fun with her, then go for it and enjoy it for what it is.
Arieswoman Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 "i like you, but i can't have a boyfriend right now" translation " I don't want you as a boyfriend" Sorry 3
ExpatInItaly Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Don't bother with this one. She told you she doesn't want a boyfriend. Believe her. Next! 1
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