LifeandPerseverance Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Maybe this belongs more in breakups. My question...This goes for everyone, but especially men..Do you ever look back and regret how you ended things with a girl or multiple girls in your past? Like wish you'd done it differently, or wish you hadn't done it at all? Is there ever a girl in your past you were seeing, who was nothing but good to you/compatible with you, and you ruined it and ended it, and you regret it looking back?
Mrin Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Oh sure. Of course. But hindsight is always 20/20. All that being said - would I change anything? No. I wouldn't.
DoesntGetIt Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 There was the time I broke up with a girl on her birthday... to be fair I was trying not to and she just wouldn't let up on insisting I talk about "what was wrong". Not how I prefer to do things.
soyou Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 No, i have not. No matter whether the guys I dated were good ones or *******s, when things come to an end, I always broke up with them in a respectful and calm manner- face to face and personal.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I broke up with my last GF because I knew we weren't ultimately right for each other. However, it was a delayed reaction sort of thing. I was comfortable with the decision for the first 2-3 months. Then when it finally hit me, I was absolutely miserable and I really missed her and regretted it. She was the only woman I ever introduced to my folks and that I could have been in love with (maybe I was, for all I know). It took a year overall for me to finally get over her. I didn't have any casual flings or do any sort of online or real life dating during that time frame. I just focused on myself. I wanted the next woman I got serious with to be free of any baggage I might bring in.
Redhead14 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Maybe this belongs more in breakups. My question...This goes for everyone, but especially men..Do you ever look back and regret how you ended things with a girl or multiple girls in your past? Like wish you'd done it differently, or wish you hadn't done it at all? Is there ever a girl in your past you were seeing, who was nothing but good to you/compatible with you, and you ruined it and ended it, and you regret it looking back? This happens all the time. However, if you went to the length of ending it, there was a reason. When you look back on it, you are still kind of mourning it and reflecting on all the good things about that person, rather than what caused you to end it. Unless, of course, there was a lot of acrimony and fighting that caused the break up. And, sometimes it's not really the person that you miss, you just miss having a relationship. You've invested too much of yourself into it and when it's gone, you're feeling empty. If you have a full life outside of a relationship, you will fall back onto that a little more and miss the relationship less. It will still hurt, of course, but you'll bounce back more quickly. Sometimes when you are dating someone and they are good to you and you were compatible and your feelings were starting to grow, it can be overwhelming and causes you to become anxious about the relationship. It's that anxiety that causes you to end it because it's uncomfortable. In these cases, after some time has passed and that anxiousness is gone, you will regret it because you are seeing things more clearly. Nevertheless, it's over. It's a learning process. Each time you learn a little more about yourself, who is and who isn't a good match for you and about life in general. Take something from each relationship that is positive for you and move forward with confidence.
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