DoesntGetIt Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 I've found myself in an interesting situation. I met two women through OLD who were looking for a double date. We got to talking, they were interested in meeting, so I grabbed a buddy and we had brunch. I had been mostly talking to one before we met up, but had talked with both. The brunch went well. There wasn't really much in the way of flirting and definitely no pairing off of who should be with who. One of the women (X) was very interested in meeting up again, the other(Y) was reserved the whole day and seemed only mildly interested in another meetup (me and my friend both noticed that). At this point I was thinking that X, the more outgoing one, was probably who to focus on since she had interest with us, and was the one I had been talking to more before we met up, although there had been 1on1 conversations between me and Y and my friend and X. Then it took a while to setup the time for the next meetup (a board game session at my friend's place) as they were busy (both with work and with dates) and we had some things as well. During this time I started talking to Y a bit more through the site (only had X's number at this point) as we were giving each other playful trash talk about who was going to beat who at games. Game night comes and Y is much more outgoing, excited, and joking. Her and I were laughing through out the whole night, just having a good time. I felt our personalities were similar. Now I'm thinking "Y is the one I'm paired off with, glad we got that figured out". She was sitting across the table from me, so no real chance at any light touching/other types of flirting. But then later in the night, X who is sitting next to me, starts to get real touchy, leaning in, showing me stuff on her phone, her hands on my arm, etc. My friend noticed all this too as when we talked the next day he joked "You might end up with both of them." We have another date coming up next weekend (made sure to figure out schedules the day after and set a plan this time) at a pub which has some games. Problem is I'm not sure what to do. They're both great women, truly, and I have so much fun with both of them, but it would be nice if we paired off so we could advance things a bit. I have to wonder if I go for one can I choose wrong and somehow mess it up with both? Also I want my friend to be happy, but I'm not sure if either have any interest in him or not. They did originally agree to the first meetup just through me, with no idea who I'd bring.
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 If X & Y are friends with each other at this point I don't think you have a legitimate shot at either of them. By flirting with both of them, if you pick one it will screw up her friendship with the other.
Author DoesntGetIt Posted March 14, 2015 Author Posted March 14, 2015 If X & Y are friends with each other at this point I don't think you have a legitimate shot at either of them. By flirting with both of them, if you pick one it will screw up her friendship with the other. They are good friends. Clearly they should have talked a bit about who likes who/ what they are ok with at this point. There would be no point to double dates if neither of them was okay with one of them hooking up with me. I had been hoping they would have come up with a plan and decided who should be paired off with who honestly.
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