Author smg15 Posted March 14, 2015 Author Posted March 14, 2015 Dude, women get hundreds of messages when OLD. Out of those hundred, maybe five are appealing., and worth exploring further. Are you really suggesting that she spend/waste the time blocking 95 (or more) messages from guys she's not interested in? All because they can't handle being ignored? Come on now.... Yes it's real simple, you click on the block button and it's a 2 second process if he sends multiple messages
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Yes it's real simple, you click on the block button and it's a 2 second process if he sends multiple messages Right. If he sends *multiple* messages. I am glad you are finally acknowledging that simply ignoring doesn't work... that we still have to deal with receiving numerous additional annoying messages from guys who can't handle being ignored the FIRST time. Case closed.
DoesntGetIt Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 She probably enjoys the attention because she can easily block him Your entire thread is "It is the woman's fault for getting nasty messages because she was very polite in her non-interest. It is the woman's fault for getting follow up creeper messages because she didn't block every man on the planet she wasn't interested in. It is the woman's fault I'm so angry." Are you the same type of person who thinks that when a person got raped, it is their fault? Seriously man, you are looking awful in this thread. The fact that you can't handle a polite refusal is a bit sad. 5
fitnessfan365 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Dude, no response is a response. Isn't it enough just to use common sense and take the hint when she doesn't write you back? 1) I prefer it when a woman doesn't write back if she isn't interested. When a woman sends back a friendly rejection, it wastes my time. I mean you get an email notice, and expect to open up the start of a conversation only to see her saying "thanks but no thanks". So receiving a polite rejection actually bugs the crap out of me, because a woman should only write back if she's interested IMO. 2) Do you realize how many emails women get? It would take FOREVER for a woman to personally respond to every single email. Not to mention the fact that she'd have to deal with tons of guys sending return emails asking her why, trying to convince her otherwise, etc.. Way easier just not to write back at all.
Author smg15 Posted March 14, 2015 Author Posted March 14, 2015 Your entire thread is "It is the woman's fault for getting nasty messages because she was very polite in her non-interest. It is the woman's fault for getting follow up creeper messages because she didn't block every man on the planet she wasn't interested in. It is the woman's fault I'm so angry." Are you the same type of person who thinks that when a person got raped, it is their fault? Seriously man, you are looking awful in this thread. The fact that you can't handle a polite refusal is a bit sad. Yup you are right. The only way to reject t me is to ignore me when I send the first message
Phoe Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 2) Do you realize how many emails women get? It would take FOREVER for a woman to personally respond to every single email. Not to mention the fact that she'd have to deal with tons of guys sending return emails asking her why, trying to convince her otherwise, etc.. Way easier just not to write back at all. Not always true. I got about 8-9 a day. You know how long it takes to respond to all of them? 10 minutes. So that's what I did. Responded to all of them, except the 2 that were sexual. And not "rejection" responses, real responses, starting a conversation. Yes, with all of them. Some never responded back, so over time the number dwindled, and then it was even easier to respond back and hold conversations.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Not always true. I got about 8-9 a day. You know how long it takes to respond to all of them? 10 minutes. So that's what I did. Responded to all of them, except the 2 that were sexual. And not "rejection" responses, real responses, starting a conversation. Yes, with all of them. Some never responded back, so over time the number dwindled, and then it was even easier to respond back and hold conversations. At first I thought this was a thread complaining about why a woman doesn't respond back either way when you send a "thoughtful message". It's like, can't you take a hint from her lack of response she isn't interested? Her telling you why won't change the fact she isn't interested. But now I see that he was saying it's better just not to respond back. That I actually agree with. If a woman isn't interested, I have no problem with that. You can't please everyone. But the only emails I want to receive are from women that want to start a conversation because they're potentially interested. It's a huge waste of time when you get an email notification only to open it up and have her say "no thanks"...LOL
carhill Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Having been socialized on in-person rejection, I found OLD 'thanks but no thanks' rejections to be very common and expected. Perhaps OLD of that era is kind of like 'the old days' in general. People, and times, have changed, as have perceptions of something an old fart like myself considered to be polite social discourse. Oh, well.
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Funny we get more complainers about the opposite. If you want only "interested girls" to respond to your messages, then stipulate it in your message and on your profile......see how that works for you lol.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Dude, no response is a response. Isn't it enough just to use common sense and take the hint when she doesn't write you back? 1) I prefer it when a woman doesn't write back if she isn't interested. When a woman sends back a friendly rejection, it wastes my time. I mean you get an email notice, and expect to open up the start of a conversation only to see her saying "thanks but no thanks". So receiving a polite rejection actually bugs the crap out of me, because a woman should only write back if she's interested IMO. 2) Do you realize how many emails women get? It would take FOREVER for a woman to personally respond to every single email. Not to mention the fact that she'd have to deal with tons of guys sending return emails asking her why, trying to convince her otherwise, etc.. Way easier just not to write back at all. ff what you are not getting is that even when we ignore, many guys will still proceed to bombard us with follow up messages..each one more annoying than the next. Which is a waste of "our" time.. Sometimes it's best to send a quick "thanks but no thanks, which is what the OP's gripe is. And apparently yours too. He would rather be ignored...but since many guys can't handle being ignored and will start harassing us, ignoring doesn't work either!
fitnessfan365 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 ff what you are not getting is that even when we ignore, many guys will still proceed to bombard us with follow up messages..each one more annoying than the next. Which is a waste of "our" time.. Sometimes it's best to send a quick "thanks but no thanks, which is what the OP's gripe is. And apparently yours too. He would rather be ignored...but since many guys can't handle being ignored and will start harassing us, ignoring doesn't work either! Fair enough. But you aren't included since you've been in a LTR with a guy you live with for a long time now. You already know about this. But for those that don't. I wrote a woman on OKC awhile back. Admittedly I don't usually photograph well. So she didn't write back. Very recently I re-joined OKC under a different screen name, I was finally able to take a few good pics that accurately represent what I look like in person. I wrote the same woman, she replied back in 5 minutes, and I had her number after two emails. So there are times where persistence pays off. But the difference is that I gave it a lot of time in between before following up. Doing the needy, stalker, complaining route is never a good thing.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Fair enough. But you aren't included since you've been in a LTR with a guy you live with for a long time now. You already know about this. But for those that don't. I wrote a woman on OKC awhile back. Admittedly I don't usually photograph well. So she didn't write back. Very recently I re-joined OKC under a different screen name, I was finally able to take a few good pics that accurately represent what I look like in person. I wrote the same woman, she replied back in 5 minutes, and I had her number after two emails. So there are times where persistence pays off. But the difference is that I gave it a lot of time in between before following up. Doing the needy, stalker, complaining route is never a good thing. Yes I am but I have a good memory...and I remember very clearly how damn annoying it was to receive multiple messages from the same guys cause they can't handle bring ignored. Apparently they can't handle being rejected politely either. So what's the answer? Don't know and I hope never again to have to find out...
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Fair enough. But you aren't included since you've been in a LTR with a guy you live with for a long time now. You already know about this. But for those that don't. I wrote a woman on OKC awhile back. Admittedly I don't usually photograph well. So she didn't write back. Very recently I re-joined OKC under a different screen name, I was finally able to take a few good pics that accurately represent what I look like in person. I wrote the same woman, she replied back in 5 minutes, and I had her number after two emails. So there are times where persistence pays off. But the difference is that I gave it a lot of time in between before following up. Doing the needy, stalker, complaining route is never a good thing. Yeah I remember that story. And you are right, if you want to send another message, wait awhile. Update profile and send a different message from the first. What ever happened with her by the way?
carhill Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Seems to me, at least with paid sites where additional profiles cost money, a canned 'thanks but no thanks' responder with concurrent blocking would be a simple tool to add to the site, kind of like we use vacation e-mail auto-responders on e-mail servers so incoming e-mails get a response. Then again, such tools might inhibit revenue growth, IDK.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Yes I am but I have a good memory...and I remember very clearly how damn annoying it was to receive multiple messages from the same guys cause they can't handle bring ignored. Apparently they can't handle being rejected politely either. So what's the answer? Don't know and I hope never again to have to find out... But if you do, you know I'm the first guy that gets your number. I think the answer lies in the fact that many guys online don't have much experience with women. When you're good with women and date regularly, rejection is indifferent to you because you know there are always other options. Guys that get hung up on one girl they've never even met do so because they have no other options. Yeah I remember that story. And you are right, if you want to send another message, wait awhile. Update profile and send a different message from the first. What ever happened with her by the way? Shot her a quick text a few days later - "Now you won't mistake me for a wrong # when I call". She responded instantly and thanked me for actually being a guy that calls. Gonna call her tomorrow and finalize plans for sometime this next coming week.
Arieswoman Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 smg, What I am getting from your posts is that you have some kind of a wrong approach. Now, I could be wrong about this but it seems to me that if females don't respond in the way you want them to, you get all bent out of shape. Please, please, realise that you have no control about how other people react. So stop all this " they should do this, that or the other" stuff. Maybe they should, maybe they shouldn't, but you have no say in it. Accept that and look for females whose profile fits your own, then send a message introducing yourself. Good luck.
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 But of course fitness fan.... u my numero uno in cyber world! 1
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 . But the only emails I want to receive are from women that want to start a conversation because they're potentially interested. It's a huge waste of time when you get an email notification only to open it up and have her say "no thanks"...LOL That's fine. It's a legitimate POV. I never thought about it from the recipient's POV . . to have that momentary excitement at a reply dashed by the rejection. My umbrage was that the OP started this thread by saying that if he gets a polite rejection from a woman he is going to send her a nasty message about not wasting his time. Preferring silence or ignore is one thing. To return politeness with nastiness is entirely uncalled for. I mean really if somebody says Thank You IRL does the OP reply "F You!"? What happened to common courtesy?
Imported Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 OP, why is it so hard for you to deal with inconsequential things? I mean seriously, you're getting angry and bent out of shape over nothing. I pity the girl that would actually date you if you're actually that angry of a person. 2
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 OP, why is it so hard for you to deal with inconsequential things? I mean seriously, you're getting angry and bent out of shape over nothing. I pity the girl that would actually date you if you're actually that angry of a person. I just think he"s getting burned out with OLD, that's all. Reminds me of telemarketers who start yelling and belittling me over the phone when I tell them no thanks, not interested. They're probably very nice people, but after rejection after rejection, I can understand why it would "get" to a person after awhile and cause bitterness and frustration. That's when it's time to get off the site and give it a rest. And to the telemarketers who yell at me? You need to find a new profession! lol 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 A guy sends you a message who is not your type and instead of ignoring him and deleting the message, she sends that stupid response. ..."thanks" or "thank you" Well for now on any woman who sends me that message thanks will get a nasty message because I'm fed up It's not like I writ's down on a piece of paper every guy I sent a message too You write messages to men? I thought you were a guy, OP? .
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 You write messages to men? I thought you were a guy, OP? . He is a guy.... :).
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 He is a guy.... :). If he's a guy, then he's either gay or he wrote a Freudian Slip lol: It's not like I writ's down on a piece of paper every guy I sent a message too .
katiegrl Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 If he's a guy, then he's either gay or he wrote a Freudian Slip lol: It's not like I writ's down on a piece of paper every guy I sent a message too . Your first sentence....bingo!!
Author smg15 Posted March 14, 2015 Author Posted March 14, 2015 Yes I am but I have a good memory...and I remember very clearly how damn annoying it was to receive multiple messages from the same guys cause they can't handle bring ignored. Apparently they can't handle being rejected politely either. So what's the answer? Don't know and I hope never again to have to find out... Look not liking rejection is called being HUMAN. Why is it only woman supposed to be bothered by rejection? A man is supposed to always be emotionally stable which I believe is a bunch of bull.
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