No Limit Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Not OLDing but in my college city people are even less likely to approach you than in my hometown in the country unless they need to know what time it is.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 Not OLDing but in my college city people are even less likely to approach you than in my hometown in the country unless they need to know what time it is. Wow...that even magnifies the bizarness as college is THE dating pool that's the largest you'll ever come across in your young adult life or perhaps adult life in general.
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Believe me, I'm sure you can squeeze in a date between "Helping thy neighbor" lol My point being, it's just an excuse. Are you really serious, you believe that a person who has other obligations than to go out searching for dates in person is just making excuses?? Sorry but that just does not compute!! 1
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 Wow...that even magnifies the bizarness as college is THE dating pool that's the largest you'll ever come across in your young adult life or perhaps adult life in general. I'm wondering did you go to college then and if you did, why are you still single? Do you personally think that if you lived in NYC you would not be single because I promise you that there are many many people there and also in college who are single and not by choice, but because they have problems with dating or with forming relationships with other people. That sticks with a person no matter where you live you know!! 1
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 I'm wondering did you go to college then and if you did, why are you still single? Do you personally think that if you lived in NYC you would not be single because I promise you that there are many many people there and also in college who are single and not by choice, but because they have problems with dating or with forming relationships with other people. That sticks with a person no matter where you live you know!! I'm not sure what me having gone to college has to with my current state of being single 20 years later. I rather get surprised by the number of posts by men on here who currently attend college, where the dating pool of women within' so close of a proximity of each other ie - within the same class, numerous 24/7 labs on campus, tons of fun clubs like RHA or Student Activities Boards or even the actual student activities themselves...like a campus BBQ or picnic, that they complain that the women on campus aren't approachable nor opened to being approached...because everyone on campus has a good reason to approach because everyone is at the institute of learning for the same reasons and it makes me wonder the demeanor of ladies on campus that keep them from being approached. Post-college days, it's pretty much cold turkey after that.
kux Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 guys do it because girls embarrass them in public if she isn't attracted
MidwestUSA Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 I'm not sure what me having gone to college has to with my current state of being single 20 years later. You're the one who called college the largest dating pool you'll see in your life. Assuming you went to college, it was in pre cell phone days, when people might actually need to know the time. Otherwise, all I remember is rushing to get from one class to the next, and trying to get my work done on time. It's just the fact that you contradict yourself from post to post within the same, or among several, threads. 4
salparadise Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 My first relationship after divorce was with a woman in New York. I asked the same question- why were you even online, much less cozying up with a guy from the rural south who lives hours away? She said it was because the ratio of eligible singles favors men by about 5:1 in New York and it's hard for an average woman to attract any guy, much less a desirable guy. It's apparently true. Women move to NY for careers and the glamor of city life in numbers far exceeding men. So while the raw numbers averaged across the entire city don't look extreme, if you drill down to young, educated, professionals in Manhattan... women are not the rare, desirable commodity they are everywhere else, and men can be super picky. I started noticing whenever we went out. Always lots of attractive women out in pairs or alone and it was unusual to see an attractive man without a hot-looking woman on his arm. Map of Singles Ratios in NYC
GemmaUK Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 This was kind of funny, but saw a post by someone who said he spoke in mixed company of co-workers that saw one of their other co-workers on an online dating site. They were kind of confused as to WHY even BE on a dating sit if you're living in New York City? What really makes me wonder is---16 million people in New York City--and the guy has to come on a "dating site" to find a woman. That's what our girls at work said---why is he looking around in a site--why not go outside to one of the 6,000 clubs and bars in New York City--or 215 parks--or 600 libraries and museums--OR--- 21,000 Starbucks on every corner. This is OUR question. Instead of crying about RUDE--tell us what you want and why a woman OUT OF THAT BIG CITY!! When we are at work--and we park this Rescue Truck at the curb--we get tons of people that stop and talk and have fun with us. Why can't this guy find a girl?? GO OUTSIDE AND FIND THEM!! I take it that you go out every night? I am aware you don't live in New York City. Perhaps you should move there? Most people have busy lives, going out costs a lot of money and can tire a person out - who wants to lose their job by being out every night and unable to do their job well? Do you? On a side note, why do you shout so much in posts always? 2
thefooloftheyear Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 My first relationship after divorce was with a woman in New York. I asked the same question- why were you even online, much less cozying up with a guy from the rural south who lives hours away? She said it was because the ratio of eligible singles favors men by about 5:1 in New York and it's hard for an average woman to attract any guy, much less a desirable guy. It's apparently true. Women move to NY for careers and the glamor of city life in numbers far exceeding men. So while the raw numbers averaged across the entire city don't look extreme, if you drill down to young, educated, professionals in Manhattan... women are not the rare, desirable commodity they are everywhere else, and men can be super picky. I started noticing whenever we went out. Always lots of attractive women out in pairs or alone and it was unusual to see an attractive man without a hot-looking woman on his arm. Map of Singles Ratios in NYC Ive never spent much time or thought on it, but I agree with this...And I am in NYC all the time.. The financial district is male dominated, but everywhere else, its true...TONS of women...And I do believe a woman from outside NYC(which makes up a lot of NY, esp Manhattan) is more likely to see the city as the path to their lfe dreams than a man is.. TFY
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 16, 2015 Author Posted March 16, 2015 On a side note, why do you shout so much in posts always? That wasn't me shouting, I just copied and pasted the one that was doing the shouting.
Imajerk17 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 (edited) I'm confused by this question. Are you asking why so many men in NYC (and by extension, other big cities) resort to OLD? Or why this one particular guy is resorting to OLD when every other guy is meeting women out and about. Anyway, FYI, most men in NYC do NOT appear to be using OLD. I mean, do the math. Last I checked NYC has >5 million people. That translates to >500,000 people in their 20s, with say >150,000 of them single. Half of those are men, so you have 75,000 single men. One can actually do a random sampling of the Match database and see that no more than 20,000 single men in their 20s in NYC on Match dude. As far as this one guy using Match, maybe (a) he is shy and cold-approaches aren't his thing, (b) he went online and saw all the attractive women there and concluded that it was a goldmine © maybe he has a specific type and it is more time efficient to search through a bunch of profiles to find her. Anyway, a single guy living in NYC using Match is no weirder than someone finding all this time to be writing 2 threads a day nitpicking the dating habits of strangers. *shrug* Edited March 16, 2015 by Imajerk17 1
loveweary11 Posted March 16, 2015 Posted March 16, 2015 My first relationship after divorce was with a woman in New York. I asked the same question- why were you even online, much less cozying up with a guy from the rural south who lives hours away? She said it was because the ratio of eligible singles favors men by about 5:1 in New York and it's hard for an average woman to attract any guy, much less a desirable guy. It's apparently true. Women move to NY for careers and the glamor of city life in numbers far exceeding men. So while the raw numbers averaged across the entire city don't look extreme, if you drill down to young, educated, professionals in Manhattan... women are not the rare, desirable commodity they are everywhere else, and men can be super picky. I started noticing whenever we went out. Always lots of attractive women out in pairs or alone and it was unusual to see an attractive man without a hot-looking woman on his arm. Map of Singles Ratios in NYC 100% accurate
Recommended Posts