LookAtThisPOst Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 I was wondering, now I'm not talking about a dating relationship that's just blossoming, but I'm talking about an already committed, exclusive relationship. Read this article on being "FBO" Facebook official Relationships and Social Networking: Why You Should Block Your Significant Other on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Vine | Oregon School-Based Health Alliance There's this woman I know, says she has a boyfriend, but nothing indicating any kind of relationship status in her profile and she takes more pictures of her dog and out with her friends than with her and her boyfriend. I saw that she got tagged once when out with her boyfriend, but nothing that she willingly uploaded. Kind of makes me think it's more of an FWB than a bonafide relationship if she's keeping him on the downlow. The article debates that social media has become the mainstream mediator of "all things telling" it seems to suggest that if you prefer to keep things off line, permanently, it may tell the partner that he/she is ashamed of who they are involved with? Are they hiding something by refusing making their relationship known? Is this an anticipation of the, "If we break up two years later, I don't want my friends knowing about it." kind of thing? I know of a couple that moved in together, but they never indicated any "status" of it on Facebook.
xxoo Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 The article is written by a high schooler. I doubt his perspectives on dating and/or FB apply to most adult relationships. Relationship > FB 4
Omei Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Who knows why! Its strange if you didnt to me I have nothing to hide so having a bf on Facebook has never been an issue for me when relationships end I will remove them what I def wouldnt do is add a boyfriends friends and family I hear that can be messy. Only time id do that is maybe when im married and our families join together. I also never keep exs around so there's never any Facebook worry for a partner with me.
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted March 14, 2015 Author Posted March 14, 2015 Who knows why! Its strange if you didnt to me I have nothing to hide so having a bf on Facebook has never been an issue for me when relationships end I will remove them what I def wouldnt do is add a boyfriends friends and family I hear that can be messy. Only time id do that is maybe when im married and our families join together. I also never keep exs around so there's never any Facebook worry for a partner with me. There was a couple of situations where an already established couple, no joke, made an announcement to their FB friends that "Me and Betty had officially broken up! So I'd rather you hear it now as opposed to the grape vine!" That was an interesting spin on things considering if people break up, they usually don't say a peep and have their friends find out about it when they ask, "So where's Betty, she staying in tonight?" "Um...uh...we broke up..." *awkward silence*
Maleficent Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Probably a personal choice more than anything. But block? A little extreme. If you can't deal with your sugnificant other having his or her own facebook page, have one account for both. ( or therapy?)
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 If your relationship can stand up to social media what kind of bond do you have? A relationship is a real life thing. Social media is BS. Understand the difference. 4
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 I'm one of those people that keeps her private life private anymore particularly on Facebook. That's not to say I didn't get caught in all the "show and tell" that still seems to exist online but having been around a while and experienced a great many things I've learned a thing or two about staying under the radar. Unlike most people, I have vetted my FB friend list many times and I'm pretty content with the people I've chosen to keep on as friends BUT I still don't feel a need to parade my life or my relationship online regardless of the medium. Sometimes the less people know the better. I think people do what they do online for approval, acceptance, likability, and bragging rights. I no longer look for nor need any of that thank God. 1
Gary S Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 What's next, dating contracts? How loverly - not! Usually, when good people are in love, they want everyone to know. Some people even announce it to the world by have a marriage ceremony. What ever happened to true love? Whoever wrote that article, should probably never consider getting married and having kids. With that kind of self-defeatist thinking, they are a divorce statistic waiting to happen.
smackie9 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Not everyone like myself think they have to display their life on FB. I don't even have a photo of my husband on mine. I haven't looked through anything on my husband's page either.....don't really care because he is sitting here with me. That's all I need....real life.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 The only thing I'd want a girlfriend of mine to do is change her single status to "in a relationship'. Other than that, I have no desire to ever be a Facebook friend or announced on there with a woman I'm dating ever again. The one time I tried it, all of her friends and family would blow up my inbox with messages pressuring to meet. Then on top of that, her posts would always show up in my activity feed. So it felt like I was spying on her. The worst part though is when she'd see that I was online and send me messages wanting to chat. It didn't allow me to have any alone time for myself.
GemmaUK Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 I don't see a need to announce a RS on FB. I certainly wouldn't change status if I had only been dating for a few brief months. I don't think I even have my status visible - but I barely ever go on FB anyway.
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