AIJ Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 Been around 7 weeks since we broke up now, I was actually doing fairly well in progressing and getting over it however the past few days I just keep thinking 'I'd rather have her in my life as a friend, than nothing at all'. She did of course ask to stay friends after she broke up with me, I refused. I'm finding it VERY difficult to find someone new that I have that sort of connection with, I've spoken to a few girls here and there but I just don't 'feel' it, if that makes sense? I just really miss talking to her on a daily basis. Struggling like crazy recently. I just don't understand how she can claim she'd never even dream of ending it with me, then 2 weeks later, doing exactly that? Hurts, a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 There's no future in a friendship with her. For one thing, it won't be a genuine friendship because you'll always be hoping for more. For another, your future new way-better girlfriend will probably HATE IT that you're friends with your ex! It's only been seven weeks since the breakup, so it's not shocking you're still thinking about her, wanting her back, considering "just friends" and not that attracted to other girls. The connection you had with your ex was special -- but it wasn't a once-in-a-lifetime thing. It just takes a bit of time before you meet someone you have the same depth of connection with -- and YES, she's most definitely out there! Your ex had many great qualities but she's by no means unique -- or even the most compatible for you. Have patience. Your next relationship will be every bit as great and your future new way-better girlfriend will really appreciate you taking this time to heal. Stick with that No Contact! You'll get there. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ASV Posted March 14, 2015 Share Posted March 14, 2015 I agree with Ruby here. I've been thinking myself the same. We both had a unique connection indeed, and some strange interests in music or cinema which I rarely find among women. Each time a bizarre situation happens to me I feel the urge to record it and send it to her as we used to do for a good laugh, and a week after she broke up she told me that there was no day she didn't think the same. But, let me be honest and cruel with this: do you really think you'd cope talking to her about her new boyfriend or last dudes he made out with? It depends on your answer. My ex told her ex-bf immediately that had made out with me the morning after we met, since they had a weird relationship based upon friendship mainly and they felt it normal to keep it like this but with no sex, just as their last year of relationship in fact. I guess he was fine with that, then. But ask yourself of that. If what you're thriving for is for an actual relationship, don't ask for a watered down one. It's hard. I'm on the same boat, man. But stick to NC and time shall tell. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xinaxxsdertf Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Yeah i think you already know bro that you dont even want to be friends with her, you just want to be in contact again. Funny cause my ex did rge exact same thing, saying she cant live without me and then the next week just leaves? Dont contact her mate you have come too far. I remember when i first met my ex, i told her i didnt want a relationship and then a month down the track of being friends, i made her my gf. I wasnt even entirely attracted to her at first, i just enjoyed hanging every now and then. So im guessing you dont choose who you fall for, it just happens. I wasnt looking for love or a connection, it just happened. But now that youve been in a relationship for so long you feel like you need a partner and at the moment she is the only compatible person in your eyes. Jist need to enjoy being single again i guess and someone will meet you one day and show you/us why it never worked with our ex's 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AIJ Posted March 17, 2015 Author Share Posted March 17, 2015 Yeah i think you already know bro that you dont even want to be friends with her, you just want to be in contact again. Funny cause my ex did rge exact same thing, saying she cant live without me and then the next week just leaves? Dont contact her mate you have come too far. I remember when i first met my ex, i told her i didnt want a relationship and then a month down the track of being friends, i made her my gf. I wasnt even entirely attracted to her at first, i just enjoyed hanging every now and then. So im guessing you dont choose who you fall for, it just happens. I wasnt looking for love or a connection, it just happened. But now that youve been in a relationship for so long you feel like you need a partner and at the moment she is the only compatible person in your eyes. Jist need to enjoy being single again i guess and someone will meet you one day and show you/us why it never worked with our ex's Yeah, day after posting this, I saw pictures of her with the new guy, sitting on his lap etc. and I just exploded. Despise her now, never want to see or hear from her again. I'm definitely pushing myself towards moving on with my life now, whereas before I was holding on to hope that she'd come back. Even on the off chance she did come back, I'd tell her to take a long run and jump off of a cliff. She didn't appreciate me, she was manipulative, stubborn, a real nasty piece of work. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Better not to look at her photos. You're making progress. NC. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AIJ Posted March 17, 2015 Author Share Posted March 17, 2015 Better not to look at her photos. You're making progress. NC. Yup, deleted Instagram, deactivated Twitter, blocked her number. Couldn't care less what she does with her life, just want to move on now. Still have moments where I think 'wow, I miss her', then I remember she left me for someone else and snap myself back to the 'what a cunt' Better off without her, I'll find someone in the future, however right now I'm just happy being by myself! Link to post Share on other sites
xinaxxsdertf Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Theres a name for girls who jump straight into the next guys lap.. Yeah the part where im luckuly is that i now have her blocked on everything so i dont have to see or hear anything bad like you have. I just hope i can overcome the 'missing' stage.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AIJ Posted March 17, 2015 Author Share Posted March 17, 2015 Theres a name for girls who jump straight into the next guys lap.. Yeah the part where im luckuly is that i now have her blocked on everything so i dont have to see or hear anything bad like you have. I just hope i can overcome the 'missing' stage.. Sluts To be fair it was rather predictable, she's a very attractive girl so she has always had a lot of attention from various different boys. Feel quite sorry for the new guy to be honest. When they get in to an argument, which they will, he'll realise how utterly terrible she is as a person. I'd love to talk to him in a years time and see what his opinion of her is then! Link to post Share on other sites
xinaxxsdertf Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 you will probably meet him on here by then lol Youll find another beauty mate dont worry. Sometines, beauty comes with problems. not everything can be perfect for them Link to post Share on other sites
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