Carm Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Okay, this will be a generalized questions because not all grown men have this issue but why do men have a hard time giving verbal affirmations to their girlfriends? How do men who are falling in love show it?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Yes. Period. Telling her I love you is a start, but it only goes as far as your actions. If you say I love you, and never take her out, or make her feel special, then they're empty words. 3
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Although the occasional sentiment is nice, you'd think actions would be enough. I mean if he is courting you, taking care of your needs in bed, and committed to you, that's his way of showing he cares. A woman with insecurity that always needs reassurance is not attractive. So don't be that woman. 2
Hopeful30 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Oh no, not at all. As long as he TELLS you he loves you, all the things that disprove that can be ignored...
Gaeta Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Okay, this will be a generalized questions because not all grown men have this issue but why do men have a hard time giving verbal affirmations to their girlfriends? You are right not all men have problems giving verbal affirmations. If this is important to you then don't date men who suffer from emotional constipation. 2
Author Carm Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 You are right not all men have problems giving verbal affirmations. If this is important to you then don't date men who suffer from emotional constipation. I agree with you Gaeta but we've only been together for 8 months and he does say such wonderful things (I'm beautiful, he misses me, he feels strongly for me, etc.) but I'm definitely more verbal than him and his actions say so much (touching me, holding my hand, grabbing my hand across the table, long gazes into my eyes, etc.) He says that the more comfortable he is with me the more he will open up so I'm hoping what he says is the case.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 You are right not all men have problems giving verbal affirmations. If this is important to you then don't date men who suffer from emotional constipation. Verbal affirmations have more meaning if they're used selectively. If a guy is always complimenting you or always saying how much he loves you, it starts to seem kiss-assey and false. However, let's say you're wearing an amazing dress and a guy is genuinely sincere when he says you're beautiful. Or you do something special for him, he looks into your eyes, and says "This is why I love you" That is going to mean a whole hell of a lot more. So while I actually love communication and sharing emotions, I don't feel the need to be an emotional tampon 24-7.
alphamale Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 How do men who are falling in love show it? their joints turn to jello/gelatin and they start to shake
alphamale Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Telling her I love you is a start, but it only goes as far as your actions. If you say I love you, and never take her out, or make her feel special, then they're empty words. so basically if you say you love her but don't spend any money on her then the words are empty?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 so basically if you say you love her but don't spend any money on her then the words are empty? Even in a relationship you should still be going on dates. Although its a two way street, she should be doing things to show she cares as well. Also - there are actions that can show love without spending money. 1
preraph Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Actions are far more important. There are a whole lot of players out there, male and female, who are perfectly willing to SAY whatever someone wants to hear to get whatever it is they want. How you tell if a man loves you is if they respect and are interested in your opinions and don't belittle or dismiss them; if they are genuinely concerned about your safety and well-being. Maybe they fix a broken lock or come get you if the car breaks down so you're not sitting out there alone. In addition to feeling protective, they may feel like providing and improving your life in that way. Don't mistake jealousy for love. That is control and insecurity and sometimes bald entitlement, so don't mistake jealousy alone for love. If someone loves you, the very last thing they want to do is make you feel bad or less than or hurt you. Someone who loves you will do anything to avoid that. They don't want you sitting around worrying and wondering. If someone says they love you but their actions show a reckless disregard for what it's doing to you, that is not love. It's something less and they are either not willing or not strong enough to support real love. 1
Gaeta Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I agree with you Gaeta but we've only been together for 8 months and he does say such wonderful things (I'm beautiful, he misses me, he feels strongly for me, etc.) You made it sound in your original post like he never said anything nice to you so what exactly is the problem?
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