CluelessEcho Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Hi, About over half a yr ago I met a guy, kissed on 2nd date, found out he had a gf. Friendzoned, didn't work so I broke off contact and just vanished. Over a month ago he texted asking how I been, said he's single now broke up couple months ago. I stayed friendly and polite. He said he wanted to get to know me but he was going to make it hard for me since I made it hard for him back then to chase me? He keeps saying I'm mysterious and playing hard to get, I'm not. He invited me to a party but I couldn't make it. He got upset said it was obviously one sided. Wow? I left it at that. It's pretty shocking him barging back in my life after months of silence. Week later he texts again asking if I wanted to have a drink as he wanted to take things slow. Said I was OK with that and waited for him to initiate which he didn't, heard nothing about said date. I texted him another week after saying just hi. He then says he's confused not knowing what I want and if I'm secretly in love with him? Huh? Said I kinda liked him back then but due to his relationship I backed off. But there's nothing wrong with being friends. He became rude and disrespectful saying he wants to build a beautiful sexlife with me. I told him sorry not interested in fwb, wished him well and goodluck. I thought he got the hint. A week ago he called me I stayed cool but polite replied what was up he said nothing just wanted to hear your voice. I thought he knew I was done as I came off pretty irritated and to this point it's starting to get me annoyed. He keeps chasing and acts like nothing happened. Not sure what he wants one moment all aggressive next the opposite. It's really confusing why he would act like this. Any insights? (male perspective as well) thank you
Buddhist Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Just don't bother with this one. I had a friend like this, sends randoms txts at odd hours, never replies when he gets a response and acts like nothing's happened. He's entirely flakey and I just ignore all communications from him now. Nothing you can do when they are just nutjobs. Sounds like he's just fishing for attention whenever things are slow in his life. Don't be there for him. 3
Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Pft. Block and delete this one. He is attention seeking and neither of you are on the same page... 1
Omei Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I dont know why your wasting time with this guy the fact alone that he will date woman while being in a relationship, and showed you first hand what a relationship is like with him, I doubt thats something you want and thats the kind of guy he is a dishonest one. A cheater. Block and ignore 2
ExpatInItaly Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 To be blunt, you're his distraction when he's bored or got nothing else to do. It's not a reflection on you; he simply isn't seriously interested and I would bet he's got a few girls in his roster that he contacts when nothing else is going on. Ignore. 2
katiegrl Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 He wants to build a beautiful sex life with you? Good gawd, that one takes the cake.... Next... 3
Author CluelessEcho Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 (edited) Thanks everyone for the replies! Deep down I knew something wasn't right. He's asked me before back when he was still with his ex what it was I wanted. Told him no fwb, no relationship wouldn't be wanting a guy who could do the shame bs like he did her. Friendship maybe. Never had someone chasing me like this they'd usually stop when I'd tell them off. Maybe he likes the chasing no clue... I've remained the same treated him in a cool and collected way, prefer it more than aggressively B*ing while still not giving what he wants. These types seem like dogs, any reaction is a reaction lol. So I guess it's /.ignore from now on. Edited March 13, 2015 by CluelessEcho
ExpatInItaly Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Thanks everyone for the replies! Deep down I knew something wasn't right. He's asked me before back when he was still with his ex what it was I wanted. Told him no fwb, no relationship wouldn't be wanting a guy who could do the shame bs like he did her. Friendship maybe. Never had someone chasing me like this they'd usually stop when I'd tell them off. Maybe he likes the chasing no clue... I've remained the same treated him in a cool and collected way, prefer it more than aggressively B*ing while still not giving what he wants. These types seem like dogs, any reaction is a reaction lol. So I guess it's /.ignore from now on. No. They are dogs. His comment about building a "beautiful sex life" is hilarious because it's so transparent and pathetic. I can just about guarantee he's used the line on plenty of others. He's a Romeo with zero game.
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