VSgirl Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I met the guy that I posted about in my last post yesterday. Everything seemed to be great, he took me to breakfast, the conversation was really good and he put his arm around me while paying the bill, walking in and out. Then we went to a park nearby since it was nice outside. We walked around holding hands and talking, then we sat under a tree where he kissed me. We continued to lean against the tree holding eachother and kissing every so often. He commented on how nice this was more than once. He also asked what was on my mind and we took turns sharing little things on our mind. He mentioned our upcoming plans for Saturday he was looking forward to them, he wanted to cook me dinner (a specific dish), and mentioned looking forward to meeting my friends and family. So at any rate, I figured the mutual interest is there. We kissed goodbye a few times before he had to leave for work. Then he said he'd text me after work last night which he did. Today I knew he worked his usual shift which is a afternoon-night one and leading up to our date, he'd almost always texted me before he went to work. Today I didn't hear anything so about when he started work I sent a text that just said "hey hope you are having a great day, talk to you soon." It's been several hours and I haven't heard anything but hes still at work for a couple hours. I was just wondering if you guys thought the date went well and he's just busy today or what you all thought. Should I be concerned? We also need to firm up details on the date for Saturday as to times and all that.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Ah, the classic player move. He tells you the sweet sentiments you want to hear. Then drops in that he wants to cook you dinner because he wants sex right away. I'd be weary of this one. Plus, I gotta be honest. If a woman said "I can't wait to meet your friends and family" after a first meet, that would creep me out. 5
sunshine2 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I agree. This guy has player written all over him. That is way overboard for a first meeting. Believe me when they say they will cook you dinner at their home...its really a booty call. This happen to me recently. Do not go to his home for dinner!!!! These guys are looking for sex and will say anything to get you to their home. Then they are all over you. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Pay attention to a guy's date planning. If he keeps the first 3-4 dates in public, then he is more likely to be genuine in his interest to get to know you. But if there is sexual tension and attraction, date five is fun time. That isn't being a player, it's being a guy that acts like he has a dick and is proud to use it. Haha
Author VSgirl Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Thank you all for the feedback. I know I am too high on this guy. I have some more info and wanted to know what you all think of it. First of all, he did text tonight from work, but it was only for a couple of messages. He didn’t text me after work like he had been doing. I also have seen him online on the dating site tonight. I am trying to talk to other guys, but do you feel like this guy has lost interest in me totally? Or is he just keeping his options open? Do you feel like if I back off and do my own thing, he will follow up on things?
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Don't be so hard on yourself girlie. I mean let's face it. Most guys in today's society are conditioned to act like women. They're "nice", "needy" and "neutered". So when a guy that acts like one comes along, it pushes your buttons. Just don't let it override your good sense. I can't speak for all guys. Just myself. But thinking back, all the women I had sex with quickly were women I didn't really see potential with. However, the ones I really liked and respected, took the longest for me to bed. Why? Just being around them was enough. The one exception to this was my last GF. She was the only one I ever introduced to my folks, and we were hot and heavy from the second date on. We just couldn't help it.
guest569 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Sounds pretty fast moving to me. I would be wary also. I wouldn't read too much into his text response times but the kissing and touching on a first meeting? And cooking dinner for you and meeting the friends and family sounds scary fast to me. If you keep seeing him i would just schedule some light day time things and get to know him a bit more before you can make the judgement. It does sound a bit like he wants quick sex to me too.
Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 VS this is fast forwarding. Slow it right down. I predict that if you allow it to speed along like this then your going to end up on here in a months time asking what went wrong... Pull back on the reins before the horse bolts...
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