MrIdontKnow Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Hi all, Its been a while since I have been here, but I need some advice, My ex and I, also the mother of my child, have been broke up a year, she left me for she fell out of love with me, I took it hard at the time pinned for 6 months, but am quite happy atm. Any-ways Friday night gone, she text me to say she was going away for the weekend with a male friend, and she thought she should let me know, I said no problem and best of luck, I also mentioned that if she could not make it back in time on Sunday that I could keep the baby for another night. We are both very accommodating to the needs of the baby, nearly 3 now. Any ways Saturday came and a stream of lovey duvey pics came onto facebook, at different times during the day, cuddling ones champagne ones, hotel ones dinner ect, I was OK with it, but the last one she posted was one with his hand on her leg. I was like wtf, try to ease me into it there will ya, but the next day she deleted this particular picture. Any-ways again tonight I had our son, I take him out for dinner on Tue and Thur and drop him back for 7, she text me at 6.15 asking if I wanted to have him for the night as she was going out for dinner, I had no night bag PJ` s ect so I said I couldn`t, her Mam stays with her on a thursday so she can look after him anyway. The question I have is why would she tell me she`s going out for dinner and why post all these lovey pics. To be fair to me I have been with a few ladies over the last year and I keep it very discrete. I know shes been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and if she`s serious about him best of luck, its just like she tells me to much info, that I am better of not knowing about. When im taking ladies out I just tell her im going out with the lads ect.
badpenny Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Why do you feel it's necessary to lie? To protect her feelings? Isn't that just a little bit 'manipulative'...? She's a grown woman, seeing another guy, she can take it. And obviously, seeing her with another guy who is clearly on intimate terms with her, disturbs you. But I hate to say it, that's not her problem, that's yours. You can't expect her to 'protect' you from seeing things. Why should she? She's living her life, and as she was obviously the one who broke up with you, moving on, for her, has never been a problem. It may be more of an issue for you, but this is something YOU need to work on. She's fine, you are the one with the hang-up here. Sorry, but you need to just let things ride, and maybe be a bit more up-front about YOUR situation too. 1
Author MrIdontKnow Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 Is she trying to make me jealous? Or is she just been too casual about it? Has me taking the whole situation and been understanding made her comfortable rubbing my nose in it without her knowing?
sabd Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I don't think she's trying to make you jealous. If anything, she's just being upfront about her movements because they affect you in terms of looking after your child. If you're feeling jealous, you need to examine why. Suggest you stop following her on FB and let her get on with her life. 1
Author MrIdontKnow Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Thanks for the replys, I think I was looking for people to come on and say, hey she`s just trying to make you jealous and she really wants to get back with you, but hey ho, you both speak the truth, and thats what I want, obviously I still have a piece of my heart for her, as she is the mother of my child. But its time to really move on now, Dam you truth and reality, And again thanks for your brutally honest replys 1
Author MrIdontKnow Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Any one else like to be brutally honest with me, please, pretty please
badpenny Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I'm sorry, how much harsh truth do you need to be hit with....? It's a bit like the guy who has someone knocking on his door, every day, and whenever he opens it, someone punches him on the nose. One day, his assailant doesn't turn up, but he keeps opening his door, just in case.... You know what the problem is. And it doesn't matter how many more people tell you it's the same problem, you're the one who has to deal with it. Once. And for all.....
mightycpa Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Any one else like to be brutally honest with me, please, pretty pleaseOK. You're asking the wrong question of yourself. If this bothers you, you need to ask why you're looking at her facebook posts. Stop it, and I'm sure you'll feel much better.
marcelo.santos Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 She is not trying to make you Jealousy - she is just happy and want to share it for all her friends. Keep being a nice guy - and consider unfollowing her in fb for some months now. If she became a happy woman, she probably will be a better mother, consider this.
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