Thaddius Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) I met a girl about a month ago. We've been on two dates during the first 2 weeks we've met and shes generally really happy to see me and receptive to my touch and seems to be enjoying herself as much as I do. The only thing is shes really poor at communication so we would trade maybe 3-4 texts a day and for only 1 or days a week. Texts take anywhere from 5min to 24 hours for response. She answers my phone calls about 50% of the time but always calls me back or text if she missed one. After our last date 2 weeks ago, we didnt text for a week and I asked her on another date last friday through the phone. She told me she was really busy and that the next time she would be available would be next week(this week) but she wasnt sure (so nothing concrete). After that I wished her luck on Monday and we havent talked since. Her texts, although sparse, are usually pretty engaging and full of ! and hahas and what not and decently long. After not texting for almost a week, and then her saying no to my date(with no concrete rain check date), and then not texting for about another week -- naturally, I took it as she wasnt interested and decided to try to move on. But then out of no where, she adds me on facebook last night. No idea what this means. Shed some light? **Edit** I got a facebook notification when she added me and all but when I went to accept her request about an hourish after she sent the request and I clicked on "confirm" for some reason it sent a "add friend" request to her instead. So I dont know if it was a bug (my mouse tends to misclick or multiclick sometimes) or she retracted her request and my page didnt update. I texted her this morning asking if she added me but she hasnt replied -- its been ~5hours Edited March 12, 2015 by Thaddius
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Sounds like you're over-communicating with her. I'd tone down the constant texts/calls. Just play it cool for a bit, if you don't hear from her, you have your answer.
Author Thaddius Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 Sounds like you're over-communicating with her. I'd tone down the constant texts/calls. Just play it cool for a bit, if you don't hear from her, you have your answer. We trade texts like 2-3 texts a day and usually only once or twice a week. I do start about 75% of them but she starts a few too.
Mrin Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Re: your update. She probably was FB stalking you and accidentally hit the friend button. That fired off the email. Then she unclicked the friend button. And there you have it. Really easy to do on a phone. Not that that's happened to me or anything. ;-) 1
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Either she hit the wrong button or she's cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. For a person to be a catch, they have to be sane.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 You actually handled it pretty well man. Since you didn't hear from her for a week, you took action and called her to make a date. Then when she gave you a maybe and wouldn't commit to plans, you got off the phone and backed off. But texting about the FB was a MISTAKE. I would have just ignored it and continued going on with your life. Then if she reached out to you by phone, you try to make another date. Otherwise, forget about her and date other women.
Author Thaddius Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 One of my lady friends said that I should ask her on a date 1 last time as the friend request was a sign of interest still but I don't know. Should I just ignore it and move on? Or give it one last run 1
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 ^^^fitnessfan, if you keep making posts like that, I'll have nothing to talk about here. Good job!
Author Thaddius Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 You actually handled it pretty well man. Since you didn't hear from her for a week, you took action and called her to make a date. Then when she gave you a maybe and wouldn't commit to plans, you got off the phone and backed off. But texting about the FB was a MISTAKE. I would have just ignored it and continued going on with your life. Then if she reached out to you by phone, you try to make another date. Otherwise, forget about her and date other women. Yeah, after I responded to the facebook request and it became an add button I was confused but I let it go. But then this morning she still havent accepted so curiosity got the best of me and I decided to ask her about it. I regretted it the moment I sent it.
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 One of my lady friends said that I should ask her on a date 1 last time as the friend request was a sign of interest still but I don't know. Should I just ignore it and move on? Or give it one last run - Women who are sane and like you don't turn down a proper date invite made over the phone. Period. It's no problem, there are plenty of fish in the sea, don't worry about it.
organizedchaos Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 One of my lady friends said that I should ask her on a date 1 last time as the friend request was a sign of interest still but I don't know. Should I just ignore it and move on? Or give it one last run I'd say no. I agree with others the FB request was probably a mistake on her part. She realized she accidentally did that and retracted the request. Her wishy washy behaviour and not offering alternative dates to get together, seems lack of interest. Her ! and hahas in text message doesn't mean much either. You've already texted her about the FB thing. Don't bug her again. Let it go and see if she comes around.
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