chelseamoon Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Im a bi girl who was with my gf 2 yrs.few months she moved downstairs and said she didnt fancy me anymore. After few weeks of hurt and anger i decided rather b friends than nothing. She has made it clear this is all she wants now. As i made pass last week and she declined. She said she needs to be single and see others to no what she wants. Now 4 months later im frustrated because even after all the hurt, iv still asked her to join us places (my 2 kids from prev rel and her child from prev rel, who are very close hense a reason i dont want her move out) iv been nice, just been me. But days i find shes moody with me, doesnr talk bout it if i ask wats up,she never asks how i am or my day or suggests we do something.Its always me. Now i going away for paddys with my kids and i asked wud she like to come, she said shed find out and then days later said cant go as working (but she knows if asked me id drive back for her to be in time) if i dont talk all day, she doesnt and is moody. All I get from her is bye when goes out. Im so beyond fed up.I want her to come galway i want stop fights. Do I say it's hard and I need to exnore her a while or what.My friends say leave her to sulk and do my thing with kids. Try get over her as i still love her funny enuf. Shes spend all her evening on her phone and wants to do nothing. Help me find a way to behave around her without it causing a fight and i cant talk to her anymore iv tried so much. Iv had enough
badpenny Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I'm going to re-post what I posted in your previous thread, and may well post in future threads. You act like room-mates. You close off all unnecessary contact. You go your own way, make your own social arrangements, go out with other people - and you move out as soon as you can. You may live under the same roof, but that does not denote any commitment or obligation. Like a bunch of separate students who happen to share the same house, but different rooms, you should behave in such a way as to establish an emotional separation. And yes, find somewhere else to live. chelseamoon you have been given good, sound advice from quite a few people. All you need to do now, to help you quit repetitive behaviour, is to follow it, because the advice isn't really going to change at all, no matter how you phrase it.... Good luck.
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