Superman2024 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 OKC and OLD in general has been a waste of time for me as well. Am I the only one receiving messages from women in the Philippines? I'd be nice if I could restrict messages coming internationally.
gaius Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I feel pretty darn lucky that on OLD I didn't get barraged. I got a handful of messages, an amount that made it easy to respond to them all, and they were mostly polite. Only 2 were sleazy. Unfortunately, the entire concept of OLD is just so nervewracking to me, that I still don't try it again. Part of you probably just doesn't want anyone at the moment. And I'm starting to think the same about Too if she's so quick to give up this well of opportunity after putting in a lot of effort looking for a guy.
mortensorchid Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I think OLD is a waste of time in general if you don't know how to do it right. Don't waste time with time wasters, you'll just end up with a pen pal who will go poof at some point. If the one you are chatting with doesn't offer to meet or at least exchange a phone number after a few messages, they won't offer it. Only 10% of the total population will actually meet face to face, I think. But still, it's something to do.
SolG Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 So you are complaining about too many options? How about just finding 1-2 good messages from guys you might like and having a conversation with them. Ignore the rest. Problem solved. Easy. See, I haven't been doing that. And I think that's why I find it so overwhelming! I feel this compulsion to respond to every message. Like when someone in RL asks me out or pays me a compliment, I always smile and say thank you I'm flattered... But no. I've applied the same philosophy to OLD. If someone has taken the time to look at my profile and send me a message (as long as it's not out and out crude), I'd look at their profile and respond. 99.9 % of the time that would be with a thank you, I'm flattered, but no, good luck. And by the time I'd responded to 10, another 15 would have come in. It was just exhausting! I think I've been doing it wrong. But I would feel really rude if I just ignored people :-/ 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 One website that I used to like, that I becoming more and more dis enthralled with is Match. However, I ironically had a solid date tonight with a woman I met from there. Into fitness, very well read, dorky in a charming way, and she even referenced my profile in conversation showing genuine interest. Finally, she never once said "I was nervous because you're a trainer". Finally a chick with some self esteem and confidence. PS - She was such a good kisser, I went back for seconds.
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Well my hour on OK Cupid was interesting to say the least. Got a few messages. Some were just copy and paste specials so I didn't answer those. While chatting on here I got nattering with a chap about tractors. He was witty, fun and we were getting on really well. Ended up having a four hour telephone conversation with him full of lots of laughter. Will be meeting him on Monday for a drink. I didn't even look at his photos as he was really great fun to talk to. Oh my! Apparently he is a David Beckham lookalike. I don't really know what Beckham looks like off the top of my head but he is rather gorgeous! Bit daft, laid back, bit of a nutcase and says the first thing that pops into his brain... so I think we will get on well. There was another who was also interesting. He has some similar tastes and a sense of irony. Seems an OK kind of guy. Suspect it would take longer to get to know him. It was a bit over whelming though with all this stuff popping up all over the place. Guys if you want to stand out write messages that actually mean some thing. Anything. 2
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Hey, a caw-caw is better than being called a b*tch whore by a faucet drinking lunatic because I didn't want to see a 3-D movie. I adore you too! xxx Nah I am with you on that - I don't like 3D movies either lol As for being a "bitch whore" well honey for you and me I guess the chance would be a fine thing!!! I am glad your sister has obviously good sense and got you the heck outta there! xxx I am also really secretly pleased that I am not the only one meeting weirdos... Makes me feel a bit more "normal" 1
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 See, I haven't been doing that. And I think that's why I find it so overwhelming! I feel this compulsion to respond to every message. Like when someone in RL asks me out or pays me a compliment, I always smile and say thank you I'm flattered... But no. I've applied the same philosophy to OLD. If someone has taken the time to look at my profile and send me a message (as long as it's not out and out crude), I'd look at their profile and respond. 99.9 % of the time that would be with a thank you, I'm flattered, but no, good luck. And by the time I'd responded to 10, another 15 would have come in. It was just exhausting! I think I've been doing it wrong. But I would feel really rude if I just ignored people :-/ This was kinda how I was doing it but its exhausting to do it that way... I figure I have been ignored left right and centre so its obviously very common practice. Shame but there you are.
guest569 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 "Hy" was a good effort. I would feel pretty obliged to respond to that one. With "By" 2
Gaeta Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 While chatting on here I got nattering with a chap about tractors. He was witty, fun and we were getting on really well. Ended up having a four hour telephone conversation with him full of lots of laughter. Will be meeting him on Monday for a drink. I am glad someone interesting came along! That's another thing with OLD sometimes you can sit there and nothing happens then suddenly you get tons of interesting messages. It seems to come in waves and some part of the year are also more busy, now spring it at our door so lots of people online.
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 I am glad someone interesting came along! That's another thing with OLD sometimes you can sit there and nothing happens then suddenly you get tons of interesting messages. It seems to come in waves and some part of the year are also more busy, now spring it at our door so lots of people online. Yep - It was really bizarre. And I have just realised that I have double booked Monday... so going to have to postpone until Tuesday... Whoops. I think this whole OLD really is luck of the draw. I.E. who happens to be on line, which site they happen to be on and what sort of mood people are in etc. Its all very strange. For all I know he may be completely unsuitable but we shall see when I meet him. But here is hoping that my "people picker" is getting better. This one is very very keen. Bit worried that he may be overly so. But we shall see. He has a few things that make me want to haul on the brakes and just get to know him a bit before I go getting all heady and gooey. 1. lost his licence and not getting it back for a couple of months. To me this screams irresponsible. However I do know the stretch of road he was on and I also know that bike riders (he is one) absolutely love to pull back and fly along it as its a great stretch of road... he was going a lot faster than he thought... automatic licence removal 2. 3 children, all when he was young so all grown now, by 2 different women... not making judgement as yet. He is very fond of them all and clearly very much a part of their lives and he makes a lot of effort with them and to keep in touch and see them regularly... There is also a divorce in there somewhere... So I am a bit wary about potential baggage and again irresponsible behavior. Last break up was a year ago. She cheated on him, he came home (got caught speeding on a day when he was "clearing his head"...) to his parents to sort himself out. He has had a couple of very short flings (a couple of weeks) between then and now. He comes from a family of 7 brothers. Not at all used to being on his own and is very sociable. Where as I am very much used to being on my own... Also the only time he has ever been bitten by dogs was by three terriers... God alone knows what he would make of my lot... We shall see... I am also struggling to get the songs from 7 Brides for 7 brothers out of my head now too!!! *Bless your beautiful hide where ever you may be, we ain't met yet but I'm a willin' to bet... * So for now I am just going to carry on getting to know him and sussing him out. Potentially he is a good 'un though. We shall see. *... oooh and as sassy as can be...* 1
Frank2thepoint Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 it's sure an attention grabber isn't it? girls are obsessed with these idiot guys who said a message like that. rather than forgetting about it they discuss it for hours on end. some girls even respond to it and before they realize what happened have skept with him. meanwhile the good guy who wrote a thoughtful message is forgotten immediately Some women will joke about a bad introduction for a while, but that doesn't mean they responded to the guy's lazy attempt. And some women will give benefit of the doubt and respond back, mostly out of attraction level of the guy. I remember a thread a few weeks ago or so, there was a woman on here that mentioned a good looking guy messaged her with "Hey what's up?" She criticized his message, but because he was attractive to her, she message him back. This one is very very keen. Bit worried that he may be overly so. Good thing you mentioned this because I am curious. If there is mutual interest, why does a man's interest worry the woman so much? How come she sees it as almost a red flag?
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Good thing you mentioned this because I am curious. If there is mutual interest, why does a man's interest worry the woman so much? How come she sees it as almost a red flag? He is already talking about coming over to my home etc. Now I suspect that after a couple of meets I will be absolutely fine with this and more than comfortable. But he does talk about it a lot. Its almost as if he is fast forwarding everything and rushing it all. this is what the separated guy did and it took many months to get over that - far longer than we were actually involved (if you can call it that). Bear in mind here Frank that in the past year I have been dumped via note on a cooker by a man who left me for dead to go paintballing, managed to get pretty messed up over a guy who just wasn't emotionally available whom I absolutely adored (I was ignoring the red flags so my fault there) and also been stalked and threatened... I am nervous about all this. I want it - but I am nervous. Heck I got on so well with him over the phone that I was tempted to drive over and jump his bones there and then. Brain is telling me to slow down though. Its confusing for me. Its also stressful as for the past 15 odd years the men in my life have treated me very badly. That is partly my fault and I don't want to make the same mistakes again. I haven't met this person. There is a good chance that when we do meet it will not be as it is now. I just want to keep my feet on the floor and my head out of the clouds. First with the head then with the poonani! 1
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 And so it starts... "Cock Magic" thinks its a shame I have a shirt on... Why oh why would a man think thats good??? The name he chose for himself and the intro... oh dear... one day he may get lucky... 3
SearchingForMyself Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Hey, a caw-caw is better than being called a b*tch whore by a faucet drinking lunatic because I didn't want to see a 3-D movie. I adore you too! xxx we need to collab. But make sure you shave and put a paper bag over your head.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 And so it starts... "Cock Magic" thinks its a shame I have a shirt on... Why oh why would a man think thats good??? The name he chose for himself and the intro... oh dear... one day he may get lucky... :laugh::laugh::laugh: This was HILARIOUS! He actually chose "Cock Magic" as his screen name? Saying crap like that in general is wrong. But also, I've never felt the need to talk about anything sexual with a woman I meet online. Why would I want to have sex with a woman I haven't even seen or spoken to in person yet? I might joke around and drop a humorous innuendo if I see an opening just to get her laughing. However, whatever happened to just making conversation, keeping it simple, and asking a woman out?
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 :laugh::laugh::laugh: This was HILARIOUS! He actually chose "Cock Magic" as his screen name? Yep... I sometimes dispair Saying crap like that in general is wrong. But also, I've never felt the need to talk about anything sexual with a woman I meet online. Why would I want to have sex with a woman I haven't even seen or spoken to in person yet? I might joke around and drop a humorous innuendo if I see an opening just to get her laughing. However, whatever happened to just making conversation, keeping it simple, and asking a woman out? Innuendo is fine - really good after a bit of chat... Some of the other messages are just not repeatable in public even if their screen names are. Quite glad my shirt wasn't open lower... tempted to put a broach at the neck... I don't think my OK cupid profile will be open long...
writergal Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Innuendo is fine - really good after a bit of chat... Some of the other messages are just not repeatable in public even if their screen names are. Quite glad my shirt wasn't open lower... tempted to put a broach at the neck... I don't think my OK cupid profile will be open long... With a screen name like that, it seems like OKCupid has sunken to OKPutrid for the decaying, rotting brains of men who think a screen name like "Cock Magic" is an aphrodisiac to women. 1
writergal Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 we need to collab. But make sure you shave and put a paper bag over your head. Who do you think I am, performance artist Marina Abramovic? Dude, keep searching. . Maybe try the Salvation Army? Or Mannequins R Us?
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 With a screen name like that, it seems like OKCupid has sunken to OKPutrid for the decaying, rotting brains of men who think a screen name like "Cock Magic" is an aphrodisiac to women. I feel like sending some more appropriate alternatives back to him poor soul... You have to feel sorry for them. And the women who do think its a great screen name... 1
DivorcedDad123 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Maybe he's got a thing for farm fowl? You two might be able to hit it off. You could have his cock magic come by train with your next chicken delivery.
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Maybe he's got a thing for farm fowl? You two might be able to hit it off. You could have his cock magic come by train with your next chicken delivery. Oh DD I have just managed to sort of snort a halls soother (cough sweet) up my nose when I read that! 1
writergal Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I feel like sending some more appropriate alternatives back to him poor soul... You have to feel sorry for them. And the women who do think its a great screen name... You have to wonder if guys like that are infusing their tea with hallucinogens that produce rainbows and rabbits popping out of top hats around their man-area, that gives them the mirage of a magic cock. "Oh look! My cock is magic! Rainbows and bunnies and top hats...oh my! Now I know what to use for an OLD screen name." Those poor women who are besotted by the "Cock Magics" of OKPutrid. I just want to send them a pamphlet on self-empowerment seminars or something. Unless they think "Cock Magic" is tied to a Las Vegas show. THAT I would pay good money to see. *snort* 1
insert_name Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 And so it starts... "Cock Magic" thinks its a shame I have a shirt on... Why oh why would a man think thats good??? The name he chose for himself and the intro... oh dear... one day he may get lucky... Does it do tricks?
Author Toodaloo Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Unless they think "Cock Magic" is tied to a Las Vegas show. THAT I would pay good money to see. *snort* Does it do tricks? I am not sure girls... perhaps I should ask for some evil fun... 1
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