Mrin Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Hey, a caw-caw is better than being called a b*tch whore by a faucet drinking lunatic because I didn't want to see a 3-D movie. I adore you too! xxx Faucet drinking, Java coding, poetry writing lunatic doncha mean? 1
writergal Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Faucet drinking, Java coding, poetry writing lunatic doncha mean? Hahaha! Why? Do you know him?! Seriously...I didn't suspect a THING when I went over to his condo, which was decorated like something out of the Pier One catalog (ok, maybe THAT should have warned me). He got thirsty, and instead of going for a glass like a normal person, chugged water from his $50 chrome faucet. I texted my sister what he was doing and she texted back, "get out of Hannibal's apartment NOW!" I just don't trust online dating. Gosh I hope you have better luck than I did with it, Toodaloo! 1
Buddhist Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I got hardly any messages, guess im one of the rare super ugly women on the site. Nope. I tried OLD about 10yrs ago and got exactly 2 msg, from senior citizens in baseball caps. Given I was reasonably young at the time that's when I decided it was a waste of time for me. I think it was my awkward photo's, I rarely if ever take any photo's of myself and when I do they look odd. Just not a photo person. Much better luck in person.
neowulf Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) Toodaloo I empathize with you. I refer to OkCupid as OkStupid because the selection of men on there are sub-par; worse than the men on Plenty of Fish, which I refer to Plenty of Sh*t. Free dating websites have a worse inventory of men than paid online dating websites. Match or eHarmony has better selections. Online dating's just not for me. My first serious relationship from OLD was such a mess, it's what prompted me to first post here on LoveShack. And several online dating disasters followed after that one, which I like to refer to as the Hindenburg of my dating life disasters for the way it crashed and burned and incinerated my trust in divorced men for all eternity. Wow.. that's just.. brutal I just signed up to Okcupid.. This doesn't bode well for me. I often hear the stories of what women encounter and I'm just.. floored. Most of the men I know are normal, average people. I can't comprehend the number of "nut jobs" that seem to show up in online dating. Anyways, my plan is to just put a heap of effort into my profile and answers. Maybe that'll help convince people I'm not crazy/offensive/player/jerk/psycho etc Edited March 12, 2015 by neowulf 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Toodaloo I empathize with you. I refer to OkCupid as OkStupid because the selection of men on there are sub-par; Yeah, and most of the women that show up in my area are twice my size. 3
alphamale Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Toodaloo- You are amazing! Your wit and charm come through the screen. I agree that Ms. Toodles is the best
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Man, all I can say is, I want to party with some of you ladies Yes! I've already told Writergal that I wish she was in my area so we could meet up for a coffee or drinks! There are a few other girls & guys on here that I'd like to meet up with! If I were a millionaire (or just rich lol), I'd invite the people that are coolest and interesting on my yacht for an evening of tropical drinks (and of course, beer for the guys!), delectable food and awesome conversation! But, alas...I'm not rich aarrghh...so I'll have to settle with having interesting convos on here with all my coolest peeps! Regarding the OP's thread: I was on OKC a few months ago and the guys on there were "okay"...but none of them struck my interest in a deep way via their personalities, nor were any of them cute or attractive enough for me to message them. I'm not interested in trying any other online dating sites - free or paid - so, for now, I'm taking a hiatus with that and will just dive into my job, my friends, my beautiful family and shooting infected Nazi zombies on my trusty Xbox360! . 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Toodaloo I empathize with you. I refer to OkCupid as OkStupid because the selection of men on there are sub-par; worse than the men on Plenty of Fish, which I refer to Plenty of Sh*t. Free dating websites have a worse inventory of men than paid online dating websites. Match or eHarmony has better selections. Online dating's just not for me. My first serious relationship from OLD was such a mess, it's what prompted me to first post here on LoveShack. And several online dating disasters followed after that one, which I like to refer to as the Hindenburg of my dating life disasters for the way it crashed and burned and incinerated my trust in divorced men for all eternity. Omg Writergal....I should know by now to make sure I'm not drinking anything or eating anything BEFORE I read any of your posts! I was drinking Dr. Pepper and almost choked on it when I read the "Hindenburg" part of your post lololol! You're just too much! . 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Omg Writergal....I should know by now to make sure I'm not drinking anything or eating anything BEFORE I read any of your posts! I was drinking Dr. Pepper and almost choked on it when I read the "Hindenburg" part of your post lololol! You're just too much! . I lol'd equally as hard - thankfully not drinking anything though. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I'm on OK Cupid. I've been on hundreds of dates and I have to say most of the women I've met up with have been really attractive, cool and together. Does that mean it went somewhere? No, not really. But that's how blind dating goes. I always enjoy meeting new people. It's a learning experience. Go for it. Yes, you're going to get messages from guys that come off cheap and sleazy, but that has more to do with the convenience of the thing than the overwhelming sorry state of men. I'm always annoyed by people who complain of the people that contact them. You have the ability to ignore and delete messages. If you're so lofty in your expectations of how you should be approached, then maybe online dating is not right for you. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 My main complaint with OKC is that it's chit chat central. There will be times where a woman will respond to my email without even viewing my profile. When that happens, it's an automatic delete. However, I can't even imagine what it's like to be a woman in the OLD world. The amount of emails must be staggering. Sometimes it's about timing. Let's say you happen to email a woman when she's online. She sees your message because it's at the top of the inbox. Whereas you email her, and a day or two later when she logs on, your email is buried 10 pages deep and she never even saw it.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 My main complaint with OKC is that it's chit chat central. There will be times where a woman will respond to my email without even viewing my profile. When that happens, it's an automatic delete. However, I can't even imagine what it's like to be a woman in the OLD world. The amount of emails must be staggering. Sometimes it's about timing. Let's say you happen to email a woman when she's online. She sees your message because it's at the top of the inbox. Whereas you email her, and a day or two later when she logs on, your email is buried 10 pages deep and she never even saw it. Yes - this is why I always filter women by "ONLINE ONLY" , that way 80-90% of my messages get read at least. 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I lol'd equally as hard - thankfully not drinking anything though. No fair! If I almost choked on my Dr. Pepper, YOU also should've almost choked on a beverage! But, I guess you know better than I do and were careful enough NOT to have been ingesting anything when reading any threads on here hehe... . 1
fitnessfan365 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Yes - this is why I always filter women by "ONLINE ONLY" , that way 80-90% of my messages get read at least. Haha.. I do the same thing man. Great minds 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Haha.. I do the same thing man. Great minds I used to do that too....until I started noticing that the guys who were online were um, weird...and when they read my initial response to their message, some of them would run off on a tangent and write very unusual things...sometimes, inappropriate things, very sexual things...very weird BDSM things...I even had one guy ask for me to allow him to "wet nurse" - I had to actually look that up to know what he meant - and when I did, I almost crapped myself! I mean, wow....some really weird guys out there!! That was such a turn off, that after I logged off, I took a hot shower to "clean" myself off of that weirdness, then curled up in a ball on my couch and watched my fave episodes of "Chopped" (an awesome cooking show)! I think I was mildly traumatized by that guy LOL. Um, yeah...I'm glad I'm taking a looonnngg hiatus from OKC and from ANY online dating sites! I'm starting to wonder if there are any "normal" guys out there, y'know?! . 1
Phoe Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I feel pretty darn lucky that on OLD I didn't get barraged. I got a handful of messages, an amount that made it easy to respond to them all, and they were mostly polite. Only 2 were sleazy. Unfortunately, the entire concept of OLD is just so nervewracking to me, that I still don't try it again.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I used to do that too....until I started noticing that the guys who were online were um, weird...and when they read my initial response to their message, some of them would run off on a tangent and write very unusual things...sometimes, inappropriate things, very sexual things...very weird BDSM things...I even had one guy ask for me to allow him to "wet nurse" - I had to actually look that up to know what he meant - and when I did, I almost crapped myself! I mean, wow....some really weird guys out there!! That was such a turn off, that after I logged off, I took a hot shower to "clean" myself off of that weirdness, then curled up in a ball on my couch and watched my fave episodes of "Chopped" (an awesome cooking show)! I think I was mildly traumatized by that guy LOL. Um, yeah...I'm glad I'm taking a looonnngg hiatus from OKC and from ANY online dating sites! I'm starting to wonder if there are any "normal" guys out there, y'know?! . :laugh::laugh: This post SLAYED me. BTW - BOZG, if you would have added "cooking skills" to your list of gaming, horror movies, etc you would have gotten an even more positive response than you did. Or are you one of those girls that loves to watch cooking shows to see all the things she can't make but wish she could?
Dropped71 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Fed up of the site I am on as no one wants to talk anyway... I am deleting my profile at the beginning of next month as there is just no point. Wanted to see what all the fuss about OK Cupid is about... it made me sign up... I am not all that computer literate so I am sure I could have had a sneaky peek with out but ho hum and by the time I was half way through I figured what the heck. Try it any way. Only been on there for 20 minutes. Had loads of chaps looking at my profile. 3 messages. Two I have not responded to as one said "hy" and the other was an equally copy and paste message. My email inbox is filling up rapidly... oh and I found one of the guys who works for me... He is an 80%+ match apparently... Now I know why women complain... Its like a barrage... Please God don't let any of them squawk at me... Should a guy who hardly gets a response despite writing well thought out messages, goes even longer between dates, and routinely gets the cold shoulder when she infers he's inexperienced? No I don't care.
Dropped71 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I'm on there, too. Women looking at my profile and thinking 'Eurgh!' Women reading my messages and then looking at my profile and thinking 'Eurgh!' After two years of tumbleweed and destroyed self-esteem, I sometimes feel like cracking open a beer in celebration every time a lady complains that men on OLD aren't good enough. I know that I really shouldn't, but I'm sure that I'm not alone in this......fellas? You're not alone. It is absolutely atrocious. 1
TouchedByViolet Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 So you are complaining about too many options? How about just finding 1-2 good messages from guys you might like and having a conversation with them. Ignore the rest. Problem solved. Easy. 3
Bobbi7 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I've met a ton of guys on okcupid. The ones that I really wanted to date, didn't want me. I guess I didn't dress sexy enough for them to snatch me up. Then, there are the ones that "looked" great on paper, would say the right things that any woman would love to here, until I met them in person, only to find out, they are controlling and pushy as hell. And of course the ones that are "hinting" on having sex on the first date.
katiegrl Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Fed up of the site I am on as no one wants to talk anyway... I am deleting my profile at the beginning of next month as there is just no point. Wanted to see what all the fuss about OK Cupid is about... it made me sign up... I am not all that computer literate so I am sure I could have had a sneaky peek with out but ho hum and by the time I was half way through I figured what the heck. Try it any way. Only been on there for 20 minutes. Had loads of chaps looking at my profile. 3 messages. Two I have not responded to as one said "hy" and the other was an equally copy and paste message. My email inbox is filling up rapidly... oh and I found one of the guys who works for me... He is an 80%+ match apparently... Now I know why women complain... Its like a barrage... Please God don't let any of them squawk at me... LOL @ the guy who said "hy." Not sure why but I am STILL laughing at that one. Goofy mood I guess..... 2
Auspecial Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Fed up of the site I am on as no one wants to talk anyway... I am deleting my profile at the beginning of next month as there is just no point. Wanted to see what all the fuss about OK Cupid is about... it made me sign up... I am not all that computer literate so I am sure I could have had a sneaky peek with out but ho hum and by the time I was half way through I figured what the heck. Try it any way. Only been on there for 20 minutes. Had loads of chaps looking at my profile. 3 messages. Two I have not responded to as one said "hy" and the other was an equally copy and paste message. My email inbox is filling up rapidly... oh and I found one of the guys who works for me... He is an 80%+ match apparently... Now I know why women complain... Its like a barrage... Please God don't let any of them squawk at me... Hmmmm OLD has become a disaster overall.
sunshine2 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 My main complaint with OKC is that it's chit chat central. There will be times where a woman will respond to my email without even viewing my profile. When that happens, it's an automatic delete. However, I can't even imagine what it's like to be a woman in the OLD world. The amount of emails must be staggering. Sometimes it's about timing. Let's say you happen to email a woman when she's online. She sees your message because it's at the top of the inbox. Whereas you email her, and a day or two later when she logs on, your email is buried 10 pages deep and she never even saw it. You know that OKC has invisible viewing. These women may be looking at your profile, but you won't know it if they have paid for the OKC upgrade and have turned on invisible viewing. I have it and only let someone know I visited if I feel they are someone I want to get to know. Check it out. You may be missing out on women just cause you think they haven't looked but they have.
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