Lolita_Sky Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I'll start off by saying that I in no way have feelings for my exes of course with my recent ex I do.* Here's the dream: It opens out with me talking to an ex. I'm riding in the car (this is an ex from 4 years ago). We're talking and I get upset because he's stuffed the sketchbook full of pictures I drew for him in this sort of pocket in his car. So I take them back. When I look up the scene has changed and I'm in the backseat with my most recent ex. We're talking and I tell him I met someone that looks almost like him that we're just friends.* I look down at this phone case I'm playing around with and when I look back up his hair is significantly shorter like he's gotten a buzz cut. My ex boyfriend has long hair that reaches his upper back he'd never cut his hair so to me it indicates a HUGE change in him. When I saw this I freaked out and called his name because I knew he was about to do something horrible. He never looks at me he just looks straight ahead with his arm propped on the window. All he says is "you've f*cked up". I look up front to the car and all I hear now is this odd sound like a pressure on my ear drum. I Immediately knew he was trying to kill us by crashing the car into a building.* I try to jump out of the car before impact and that's when I wake up. Anyone know what this could mean? I think it may mean for me that my current ex has changed in a way that is alien to me and may be headed in a direction that I feel is unsafe. So to protect myself and my future I had to let him go. Hence me make a desperate jump out of the car. Does that make sense? Please let me know what you think.
Auspecial Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I'll start off by saying that I in no way have feelings for my exes of course with my recent ex I do.* I think it may mean for me that my current ex has changed in a way that is alien to me and may be headed in a direction that I feel is unsafe. So to protect myself and my future I had to let him go. Hence me make a desperate jump out of the car. Makes perfect sense to me. Also, the feeling of being undervalued or swept aside from the other ex is still there, and maybe the current ex was doing other things to remind you of that.
PegNosePete Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 You are insecure and feel your life is out of control.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 You are insecure and feel your life is out of control. No I don't. If I was insecure I wouldn't have worked up the strength to end it with my ex. That's not something insecure people have the strength to do. As for my life being out of control there are certain aspects of my life that I can't control. I am very aware of this despite that I make efforts every single day to improve myself and the part of my life I do have control over.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 Makes perfect sense to me. Also, the feeling of being undervalued or swept aside from the other ex is still there, and maybe the current ex was doing other things to remind you of that. Yeah he was. I told him that as well. I told him that he was behaving in a manner similar to some of my exes right before we broke up his response? "Just because this situation is like that of an ex doesn't mean the outcome will be the same". Umm the POINT of me breaking up with my exes is so that I wouldn't go through the same problems. His selfishness and indifference towards the relationship coming out again.
Auspecial Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Yeah he was. I told him that as well. I told him that he was behaving in a manner similar to some of my exes right before we broke up his response? "Just because this situation is like that of an ex doesn't mean the outcome will be the same". Umm the POINT of me breaking up with my exes is so that I wouldn't go through the same problems. His selfishness and indifference towards the relationship coming out again. Makes sense. You have a strong need to feel valued (and should.) I'm like this too, and have ended relationships when I feel that someone questions my worth. Its a quick adios at that point.
Stercrazy Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Everything is symbolism.....the car, positioning, actions. I had a couple of dreams related to my ex and researched online each specific symbol in the dream. When put together you'll be amazed at what your subconscious is telling you. Do an online search for dream analysis. Write down everything and then piece it together. If I get a chance I'll do it later so you have a objective point of view.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 Makes sense. You have a strong need to feel valued (and should.) I'm like this too, and have ended relationships when I feel that someone questions my worth. Its a quick adios at that point. Yeah. He did do things in the beginning to make me feel that way. But after he started smoking weed our relationship went down hill. I didn't even have an issue with him smoking. It was just I started to notice he was smoking EVERY single time I went over to his place. I don't mean just one blunt either. He'd smoke them back to back. Like he'd finish one then start up another within under an hour. The last time I saw him he was making another one. He's addicted. He doesn't want to leave his apartment. I brought it down to two causes as to why we broke up. He'd been cheating on me with another woman or just talking I don't know. But I do know she came over to his apartment while we were together. So God knows what they did. The second cause is him wanting to constantly smoke weed. I doubt he drives out to see these women. More likely than not they come to him. He's headed in a terrible direction and I don't want any parts of it. I broke it off with him and he just seemed so indifferent to the breakup. But hey it is what it is he'll have to learn the hard way.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 Everything is symbolism.....the car, positioning, actions. I had a couple of dreams related to my ex and researched online each specific symbol in the dream. When put together you'll be amazed at what your subconscious is telling you. Do an online search for dream analysis. Write down everything and then piece it together. If I get a chance I'll do it later so you have a objective point of view. Thanks! I'd appreciate it if you can.
xUnknown Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Check out the app "Dreamforth" on Android. It may be on iPhone as well. Its pretty cool. You type in things that you remember from your dream and it gives an analysis. One specific thing from an old dream was "shoes". I typed that in and it had the option of "missplaced/lost shoes"...which was what happened. It was interpreted as a feeling if insecurity and not sure where things in your life are going. Needless to say, at the time it was correct.
Stercrazy Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 OK.....first note I am not a pro at this however I am a therapist with an interest in dream analysis. Obviously I don't know everything about dreams so let's see how I do. You be the judge. Driving in a car means your moving from one stage of your life to another. However you are a passenger and in the backseat later which means you're taking a passive role in this and allowing others put out down. The fact that you had 2 ex's in your dream means they have something similar....not sure what though. You would know. The first ex stuffing your sketches means your creativity and intuitive side. A part of your character (true self) is being "stuffed"....especially related to your current situation. You got "pissed"....that's real life anger about it. Your ex getting a buzz haircut means he is having a decrease of power.....maybe over your feelings for him? You are shedding some unwanted aspect about him....maybe the similarity mentioned earlier? Not being looked at means you are no longer feeling confined in the relationship. The ear pressure is the stress and feeling overwhelmed about your insecurities and anxieties. The feeling you were about to crash is your emotional state and that you need to slow down. So.......how'd I do? Hope this brings you insight.
PegNosePete Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 No I don't. If I was insecure I wouldn't have worked up the strength to end it with my ex. That's not something insecure people have the strength to do. If you say so. But hey, you're the one having "insecurity" and "out of control" dreams 1
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 If you say so. But hey, you're the one having "insecurity" and "out of control" dreams Hmm... good point. Maybe I do have some insecurities that I'm not aware about. As far as my life being out of control to an extent it may be. Something happened yesterday that made me realize just how loose of a grip I have on things...
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 OK.....first note I am not a pro at this however I am a therapist with an interest in dream analysis. Obviously I don't know everything about dreams so let's see how I do. You be the judge. Driving in a car means your moving from one stage of your life to another. However you are a passenger and in the backseat later which means you're taking a passive role in this and allowing others put out down. The fact that you had 2 ex's in your dream means they have something similar....not sure what though. You would know. The first ex stuffing your sketches means your creativity and intuitive side. A part of your character (true self) is being "stuffed"....especially related to your current situation. You got "pissed"....that's real life anger about it. Your ex getting a buzz haircut means he is having a decrease of power.....maybe over your feelings for him? You are shedding some unwanted aspect about him....maybe the similarity mentioned earlier? Not being looked at means you are no longer feeling confined in the relationship. The ear pressure is the stress and feeling overwhelmed about your insecurities and anxieties. The feeling you were about to crash is your emotional state and that you need to slow down. So.......how'd I do? Hope this brings you insight. Wow that sounds really close. Only thing is I'd say my ex boyfriend's feelings FOR ME may have decreased. Based off of his actions I'd say they have. I didn't realize this but he really broke me down and made me extremely insecure. He withheld sex from me whether he did it purposely or not he did. It made me extremely insecure. I thought I was not attractive to him anymore. I tried talking with him about it hed always blow it off as everything being "alright". He NEVER complimented me. I'd dress up he wouldn't appreciate it. He just never admired my "beauty" like a boyfriend should. As for the crash yes. I am sooo emotionally unstable right now...I don't understand why. I've never felt so...off before. I think i may need to see a doctor. I don't know how to cope with this. I have no friends and my family is too busy living their own lives. I'm not angry with them. I just feel so alone right now. My ex boyfriend should have been there for me but he pushed me away...really hard.
Auspecial Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 He's headed in a terrible direction and I don't want any parts of it. I broke it off with him and he just seemed so indifferent to the breakup. But hey it is what it is he'll have to learn the hard way. Thus, the loss of hair in the dream. LOL Plus, weed makes a person indifferent. He will probably regret at some point but its no longer your problem.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Thus, the loss of hair in the dream. LOL Plus, weed makes a person indifferent. He will probably regret at some point but its no longer your problem. I know he will. He loved me and it all started after the weed. Not to brag or say I had him on a leash but he adored me and it just went down hill the day he started smoking weed. I love him so much it hurts knowing he doesn't care. I just want things to go back to the way they were. He keeps going on about me trying to change him. His mom said something similar too and I'm like I've never had him on a leash. I never tried to control or restrict his actions. I never tried to change who he was as a person. He worked a minimum wage job but I was never on his back about getting a better job. If he was happy where he was at then I'm happy. I didn't care about that! I'm thinking about getting back in touch in another month to see how he's doing. I care about him but I know I can't be with him right now. He's got some things to sort out mentally as well as I do. Neither one of us is perfect I ended the relationship because I felt as if I was smothering him. He was too afraid to end it so I did so that he can be free to do as he pleases.
PegNosePete Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 On a related note you should think about trying to have some lucid dreams. These are dreams where you realize it is a dream, and then you can take control of what happens. They are amazing, you can do anything you like. Go flying, swimming with mermaids, stroll on the moon with a pet T-rex... your imagination is the limit. You've got good dream recollection and some pretty clear dream signs here (changing car seat when you look up etc) which can trigger dream-awareness and enter lucidity. Google it, it's very interesting
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