catchthedrift Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Ok, so I should start with a bit of a back story in order to arrive at my actual question. I have known this girl from work for almost two years. We have had occasional contact at work, but nothing more. Two weeks ago after a meeting we were the only two people still there and so we started talking. We ended up having a real intimate conversation and she told me some really personal stuff. I realise that during those past two years she has developed a liking for me, I would say it is in a sense that she thinks highly of me and trusts me. Although we have never had a private conversation, this one had us hit it off completely. This Monday, after another meeting we talked again, and we both decided all of a sudden that we wanted to hang out, non-work related activities, that is. So we decided to both go golfing on Friday (tomorrow). She then said she'd love to come by sometime also and cook together and she offered Thursday (tonight) to be a good day. I said maybe we should start with the golfing thing. The way she looked at me, I felt she was really interested in a romantic way - it felt as if we had just initiated a date. One day later she asked me about this one film I recommended to her and I told her I had it at home and if she wanted she could come by Thursday night and we watch it together. She said yes enthusiastically and seemed happy that I had now agreed on Thursday night being another date. Now, I REALLY wonder, does this girl LIKE LIKE me or does she just want to be friends? She sounded HIGHLY enthusiastic about everything and, based on her looks/mannerisms, I would guess she'd be bisexual or maybe even gay. BUT I HAVE NO CLUE! I haven't seen her with a guy at all ever. She is quite the career woman. I am bisexual and thought it came across quite intensely in our conversations that I am interested in her in a romantic way. She is coming over tonight and I wonder if I should 'make a move', but I really don't want to scare her off, in case she just saw all this as a friend-date, not a romantic date. Any advice on how to approach tonight sensibly and slowly?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) I don't know... It could be a date? Just be sure that you are flirtatious with her, and don't just dive right in when making a move, see how she reacts first. Sit close to her, see if she pulls away. If she doesn't move away, put your arm around her, does she seem welcome to the touch? If she seems to vibe with you physically, then you can go in for a kiss and escalate things from there. If she wont sit close to you at all during the movie, its platonic though - so don't push your luck. EDIT: Upon re-reading, are you a male or female? you mention you're BI. If you're both female, then it is less likely to be a date.... Edited March 12, 2015 by barcode88
SomeDude16 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Follow your gut... Body language would be a lot more telling in this situation. 1
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I think she has a crush on you, big time - the way she looks at you, and wants to come to your home. But there are no guarantees. When she is at your home, see if she tries to get too close to you, get in your space too much (which is oh so right!) or touches you - if she touches you, count how many times. Report back after the date.
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 From a host perspective treat it like a date: have snacks & drinks. Clean your apartment, change your sheets etc. Then see how she acts when she gets there. Her body language will tell you what you need to know. Listen to it. If you aren't getting clear signals, then do not make a move.
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