katiegrl Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 So what's your plan? I am wondering that as well. If you have no intention of anything happening, why is it so important for you to know whether or not he is attracted to you or has a thing for you? So much so, that you were compelled to ask the question on a dating forum? Ego? Is that it? A huge ego trip for you if he is? Just sayin ..... If YOU get the sense he has a thing for you, and you feel it's inappropriate, then YOU make the decision to pull back. Pretty simple stuff in the grand scheme of things. 1
Author tinydancer93 Posted March 17, 2015 Author Posted March 17, 2015 And so what if it is a little self-esteem booster? I'm actually having a really tough time lately... I have severe depression and I've recently come off my medication, so some days I barely cope, and of course this affects all aspects of my life - my relationships, my work life, and my self-esteem, which is almost to the point of self-hatred. So yeah, maybe this little 'thing' (which is not even a thing) helps to take my mind off things, so that life appears a little bit lighter and brighter, and maybe the fact that someone could possibly be attracted to me makes me feel a little good about myself. Amazed at how harsh some people can be on others. We are all human, we are all going through stuff, we should give each other a break. 1
regine_phalange Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 And so what if it is a little self-esteem booster? I'm actually having a really tough time lately... I have severe depression and I've recently come off my medication, so some days I barely cope, and of course this affects all aspects of my life - my relationships, my work life, and my self-esteem, which is almost to the point of self-hatred. So yeah, maybe this little 'thing' (which is not even a thing) helps to take my mind off things, so that life appears a little bit lighter and brighter, and maybe the fact that someone could possibly be attracted to me makes me feel a little good about myself. Amazed at how harsh some people can be on others. We are all human, we are all going through stuff, we should give each other a break. This is not a judgement, but you seem to try and validate in your head feelings you know are "not allowed". It's always better in the long run to accept what you feel for what it is. You don't want to wake up one day and feel in love with your taken coworker, and in addition feel like a terrible person because you emotionally cheat on your boyfriend. Do you think such a situation would be good for depression? Bottom line, at least be honest with yourself because excuses can conceal feelings only until they blow up.
gaius Posted March 17, 2015 Posted March 17, 2015 It can be a little like a hen house around here tiny. One guy with personal issues about the subject starts pecking, the rest see a little blood and join in. Perfectly normal to wonder about stuff like that, even when you're in a relationship, and yes he's hot for you.
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