Good first date. He texted me and suggested a 2nd, who to set up?

[ThisisIt606]

I had a good first date with a guy I met online. We are both late 20s and he is a grad student graduating this semester. He mentioned he has a thesis that is keeping him busy.

 

We had great convo and he seemed really funny. He started off asking me a lot of questions about myself and then as I got more comfortable the conversation flowed better and I asked him a lot about himself.

 

We first just started with drinks, but that turned into appitizers and then he asked if I was still hungry and wanted to get a meal aka dinner so we did.

 

When the bill came I glanced at it and saw it was $77. I offered to split bc that was a pretty big bill (esp for a grad student.. I graduated less than a year ago and know things can be tight)

 

He said I usually get the first one, but if you don't mind... so we split. He said since he got a 2nd drink he would do the tip and I thanked him.

 

As we left he said he would be up for another drink. I told I couldn't and had to be up early the next day. When we parted we hugged and I told him it was nice meeting him and I had a good time (true). He suggested we meet up again and I said that would be good. I asked if he was going anywhere for spring break for scheduling reasons and he said no/staying here for his thesis. I told him he could update me on it next time we meet up.

 

When I got home he texted:

 

HIM: Had a great time (name)! Really enjoyed the dogs-in-suits photos haha. We'll do cocktails next time!

 

( We both like dogs and I showed him some cute pics I took of dogs around the city. I also told him I like beer but usually lean towards cocktails)

 

ME: I had a good time too! haha the (city we live in) dogs never disappoint. Cocktails next time sounds good

 

HIM: cocktails over dog tales then!

 

ME: haha sounds like me kinda night

 

 

I had a good time with him and I'd definitely like to see him again. How should I proceed from here? Should I let him contact me with the specifics (day/time/place) or should I text him tomorrow/ in a few days saying something like " so what day works for you for cocktails/dog tails? :)"

 

He initiated the first text post date so I'm taking that as a good sign. I don't mind setting up the 2nd date, but just not sure if i should "sit back" and continue to let him take the lead... or if that comes off as me being disinterested?

[bu2002]

Let him plan the second date. You really don't need to do anything. He will plan a date and time. You both clearly demonstrated your interest in one another and agreed to a second date. You had good post date banter and the text messaging served its purpose. If you geniunely interested in how his day his going or thinking about him, you can send him an innocent text.

 

Now it's just about figuring out logistics. If the second date is going well, then it's normal to start suggesting activities for the next date.

[Gary S]

Since he suggested another date twice, do whatever you want, he's obviously interested, so your chance of rejection is low.

 

If you want to ask him about a day/time or suggest one, I'd wait five days (he may beat you to the punch anyway, that's even better). Love grows over time, playing hard to get doubles interest.

[fitnessfan365]

Here's a tip. If you want to see a guy again, don't say "It was nice to meet you" at the end of the date. That combined with a hug, actually seems like a blow off. If you want to see a guy again, drop a hint at future plans without being specific or putting him on the spot. Something simple like "This was fun and we should do it again." This lets him know you're interested and gives him the chance to follow up.

[Vintage79]

I think you're fine, but I agree with Fitnesdfan - a "nice to meet you" and a hug won't get me super excited to see the person again.

[PegNosePete]

Don't play these silly "rules" games, about who should or shouldn't do what. If you want another date then communicate this and set up the details in a mature adult manner. Phone calls are usually better than texts for this purpose.