laylay305 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 So I'm wondering about this guy that I've been dating for about three weeks. I left for vacation last Friday, and we last hung out Wednesday night. When I left he told me he was going to miss me and to text him while I'm on my trip. Prior to the trip, he was initiating contact pretty regularly. I would say it was him initiating 75% of the time and me 25%. So he's texted me a few times since I've been gone and I've done the rest of the initiating. It's been three days but I haven't heard from him. Despite this, he 'likes' every Facebook post I make. What gives?
Gary S Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Well, three weeks does not a relationship make. You left him, you left town - call him when you get back, so he knows when you are available for a date and take it from there. When you leave town, do you expect your friends to call you every day to see if you got back yet? No, you call them to let them know you got back from vacation. Same thing here. A relationship is a friendship on fire. 2
Versacehottie Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 oh gary, finally we see eye-to-eye. LOL. Yes, I agree. I think a vacation is determined as freedom from all normal life. The life you have in whichever city you live. Therefore, contact with friends, family and boyfriend is very reduced or non-existant. He is giving you space for your vacation. Probably doesn't indicate reduced interest. He doesn't want to look needy by contacting you. If it usually 75/25. You need to be the one contacting him from vacation if you want to talk like 100%. Though I wouldn't really do that, then you will look a little clingy. Every 4-5 days while away like this, initiated by you seems like plenty. Also if you want him to initiate at all while you are away, he first needs some sort of permission from you that it's ok. Such as, you contact him telling him how your end is going, you ask about what's going on with him, he mentions something that's coming up in next day or two and you tell him "let me know how that goes". Relax and enjoy your vacation. 2
fitnessfan365 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 You're on vacation and he's respecting that. There was one woman who I was seeing for about a month, and then she left to go to Thailand for three weeks. Even though I did miss her and wanted to talk to her, I let her do all the initiating. When someone's on vacation the last thing they want or need is someone pestering them or keeping tabs. 1
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