Starship Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 $25? I saw $70 for a month I was on it six years ago. $70 seems a lot. You can get specials for half of that if you surf around. Look for codes, etc. After my month on Match I would get offers as low as $9...I still get offers but don't open the Match emails.
Author smg15 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 I was on it six years ago. $70 seems a lot. You can get specials for half of that if you surf around. Look for codes, etc. After my month on Match I would get offers as low as $9...I still get offers but don't open the Match emails. The problem is I can't see who is on the site before I pay for a membership
Starship Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 The problem is I can't see who is on the site before I pay for a membership On Match? Yes you can. You can't see profiles on EHarmony.
Price2Play Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I rather not approach because I don't want to get in trouble Huh? Erase that mindset man you can't get trouble for striking up conversation. Can you expand on this, I'm just curious.
shvrk Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I've had wonderful experiences on POF lol. My boyfriend is off of POF and we are matched pretty ideally. 1
Author smg15 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Posted March 12, 2015 Huh? Erase that mindset man you can't get trouble for striking up conversation. Can you expand on this, I'm just curious. Some girls who are 16 and 17 can look 25/26 and it's because they strive to look older
LookAtThisPOst Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 When I say success I mean gettting messages and meeting face to face. I seem to get the most replies on this site but get none on OKC. Always been a mystery. Not much luck with actually meeting IN person. Most either wind up being pen-pals, but I think some on there use it as a way to feed their ego on top of whatever they have on their FB page.
fitnessfan365 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Not much luck with actually meeting IN person. Most either wind up being pen-pals, but I think some on there use it as a way to feed their ego on top of whatever they have on their FB page. This is exactly why I cut to the F'in chase. Since email is BS and doesn't matter at all, my only goal is to get to know a woman in person. So after a few emails max, I bring up getting together. 1) She's receptive and we exchange numbers. 2) She says she wants to email a few more times. I respect it, and bring up getting together again after those. If she still hesitates, I stop talking to her. 3) She doesn't respond and it automatically eliminates a pen pal.
Moy Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Huh? Erase that mindset man you can't get trouble for striking up conversation. Can you expand on this, I'm just curious. Catcalling, street harrassment, rape culture. If a man attempts to begin conversation with a stranger (female) then it is deemed a facet of assault and domestic violence. It all started with that Shoshana Roberts video that went viral last year. Now men are left with 'Saying hello = rape' and are too scared to even approach anybody.
Otter2569 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 A lot of anti POF'ers on here but let me tell you that POF works - at least for me. Its the only site I will use and I've tried pay sites. I was told by others (women and men) who were on both Match (and other pay sites) and POF, that POF was better. I was warned by three people not to waste your money on pay sate sites because it contains most of the same people and their results were always more disappointing. At one point, during a dry spell, I popped for a pay site and you know what...it was horrible and a complete waste of $$. Tons of advertising emails as well from them. Very few dates and more of the same on line dating mentality. You'd think because they are paying that they are more serious some how - guess again. I've had very good luck on POF! On line dating is like fishing; you never know what you will get. Sometimes you get no hits and other times you are reeling them in. Be patient. Try both a pay site and POF for yourself but don't say that I did not try and warn you.
Author smg15 Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 A lot of anti POF'ers on here but let me tell you that POF works - at least for me. Its the only site I will use and I've tried pay sites. I was told by others (women and men) who were on both Match (and other pay sites) and POF, that POF was better. I was warned by three people not to waste your money on pay sate sites because it contains most of the same people and their results were always more disappointing. At one point, during a dry spell, I popped for a pay site and you know what...it was horrible and a complete waste of $$. Tons of advertising emails as well from them. Very few dates and more of the same on line dating mentality. You'd think because they are paying that they are more serious some how - guess again. I've had very good luck on POF! On line dating is like fishing; you never know what you will get. Sometimes you get no hits and other times you are reeling them in. Be patient. Try both a pay site and POF for yourself but don't say that I did not try and warn you. Yup, the only free site that seems to work for me also is POF. My last day on OKC will be 3/31 if I don't get a message between now and then
mario_C Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Catcalling, street harrassment, rape culture. If a man attempts to begin conversation with a stranger (female) then it is deemed a facet of assault and domestic violence. It all started with that Shoshana Roberts video that went viral last year. Now men are left with 'Saying hello = rape' and are too scared to even approach anybody. Well, that's a little extreme. Yelling at a woman for not acknowledging you for saying hello is harassment. Cursing at her and making demands when you don't know her is harassment. Getting rejected bites the big one, but it's a man's burden. Some girls who are 16 and 17 can look 25/26 and it's because they strive to look older If you have to wonder, she's too young. Depending on your age, YMMV Yup, the only free site that seems to work for me also is POF. My last day on OKC will be 3/31 if I don't get a message between now and then Well, it's your choice, but if your approach is not working, try changing it up. It sounds like POF (which I don't use much) and OKC have different cultures, e.g. the women on OKC are more upscale and cultured (I'm trying to be polite in my description ) so hone your approach that way.
Dropped71 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I rather not approach because I don't want to get in trouble I'm with you. When you've been burned enough times you just know.
Dropped71 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Huh? Erase that mindset man you can't get trouble for striking up conversation. Can you expand on this, I'm just curious. You can. Believe me.
Author smg15 Posted March 13, 2015 Author Posted March 13, 2015 Well, that's a little extreme. Yelling at a woman for not acknowledging you for saying hello is harassment. Cursing at her and making demands when you don't know her is harassment. Getting rejected bites the big one, but it's a man's burden. If you have to wonder, she's too young. Depending on your age, YMMV Well, it's your choice, but if your approach is not working, try changing it up. It sounds like POF (which I don't use much) and OKC have different cultures, e.g. the women on OKC are more upscale and cultured (I'm trying to be polite in my description ) so hone your approach that way. If I am in my late 30's, I don't see a issue talking to someone who I think is late 20's. But that girl can be 18/19 and look 27
Pinkdisney Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I met my BF on POF in May, 2012....we are soon to be dating 3 years I had a few BAD dates and a lot of stupid "Hi" instant messages however BF and I met for an afternoon lunch date after just exchanging a few messages and talking once on the phone. I had experienced a few people who wanted to linger as pen pals or just were not very interested in actually meeting.
Omei Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 When I say success I mean gettting messages and meeting face to face. I seem to get the most replies on this site but get none on OKC. Always been a mystery. I get more msg's and meet ups on OKC and like none on POF so I dropped POF ages ago. lol
Penguin_hugs Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I met my BF on POF and it was a very positive experience! I had tried another free one before (I can't remember the name of it) but I found that POF was better in the sense that you could filter people by what they were interested in. I only ever got sent potential people who were serious. Plus it had the feature of "Who you are most likely to end up with". In the end I messaged the guy at the top of the list like- "Hi you keep appearing in my lists etc"- we chatted for about 2 weeks before we met in person in a cafe. Knew the second that we met that he was the kind of person I was looking for (which I had never felt before on any date) and tadah! 18 months later still incredibly happy The thing with OLD is to not treat it as a "fix" for finding a SO, but as an opportunity to meet people and see if you have things in common. I don't have the time in my life to waste hanging around clubs and bars, so it gave me the opportunity to chat to more people
Moy Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Well, that's a little extreme. Yelling at a woman for not acknowledging you for saying hello is harassment. Cursing at her and making demands when you don't know her is harassment. Getting rejected bites the big one, but it's a man's burden. Saying hello is not harrassment. Being flat-out blanked or verbally abused for simply striking up the courage to say hi does indeed bite the big one, but it now comes with added caveat of automatically being 'creepy' and 'rapey' simply by virtue of how attractive/unattractive the woman sees you. Nobody wants to be labelled a rapist for simply saying hi to some spoilt little princess playing in the oppression olympics!
SearchingForMyself Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Saying hello is not harrassment. Being flat-out blanked or verbally abused for simply striking up the courage to say hi does indeed bite the big one, but it now comes with added caveat of automatically being 'creepy' and 'rapey' simply by virtue of how attractive/unattractive the woman sees you. Nobody wants to be labelled a rapist for simply saying hi to some spoilt little princess playing in the oppression olympics! ^This. Basically if you're not attractive to them, approaching a woman can be a minefield that could potentially lead to an arrest. POF is even more cruel in those regards. You wanna meet super heightist and racist people? Go to POF. Im 5 ft 8, 24, in average shape(a little muscular but not really) African American, and currently stuck in rural Alabama Here you got your upstuck country girls(see redneck) your heightist, thug loving black women, and the occasional stil thug loving hispanics. Did I mention heightist? Cause on POF being under 5 10 is a death sentence for most guys. Being black AND that height...you might as well hang it up. I remember doing an experiment where I pretended to be a tall, very muscular Caucasian man. I was still just as poor and working min wage(like I am now) The messages POURED in for the guy. Changed his height to mine...the messages suddenly stopped. But what amazed me....is that on POF, I rejected some of these women...and they kept COMING AT ME. Begging me to give them a chance, not even suspecting that I was fake. Moy, it was one heck of an eye opener. Enough to make me quit POF. Its all about looks. You either got it or you dont. Ill wait till Im in my 30s before I try OLD again.
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