Toodaloo Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Police. I know loads of marriages in the police force that have failed because of affairs. Mind you I think anyone who is stressed. After all its a good way to "relax" until you get into the messy bit where you are crushing another persons feelings etc! So I would hedge my bets on finance, police, lawyers etc... That said if you look at the figures in those articles its heartening to see that most of the population manages to keep it in their pants. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SolG Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Conspicuously missing: 'I did not have sex with that woman' Politicians Hardly sirprising they're missing from the list given the data comes from an infidelity hookup site. Mr/s Senator is hardly going to chuck up a public profile! Which is actually a point about the data; it's a flawed sample. It's exclusively made up of people who need to sign up to find tne opportunity to cheat. All those others who have organic opportunity aren't there. That's why groups like pilots or the military aren't tnere, yet SAHMs are. A SAHM with the desire to cheat probably needs Ashley Martin to produce an apportunity, whereas the other two don't. They just havd to go to work. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Relating to the arts, I have 3 women friends - THREE - whose husbands lett them for other men. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Whoa, what is up with real estate agents? Well they often have access to empty houses anyway!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Hardly sirprising they're missing from the list given the data comes from an infidelity hookup site. Mr/s Senator is hardly going to chuck up a public profile! Which is actually a point about the data; it's a flawed sample. It's exclusively made up of people who need to sign up to find tne opportunity to cheat. All those others who have organic opportunity aren't there. That's why groups like pilots or the military aren't tnere, yet SAHMs are. A SAHM with the desire to cheat probably needs Ashley Martin to produce an apportunity, whereas the other two don't. They just havd to go to work. Yeah, the published data was relatively narrow but I was surprised no member had mentioned politicians because we often have threads here discussing political philandering. For a second I pondered whether politics was a profession or not 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Well they often have access to empty houses anyway!! Makes sense in certain demographics; around here, female agents sell a lot of vacation homes and often the homes are fully furnished and, well, sex sells, either as an enticement or actual process. Yep, I've been approached this way over the decades by MW's, whether as a buyer or seller, hence I stick to the more elderly females (60's-70's) or males for my real estate work. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Z Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Conspicuously missing: 'I did not have sex with that woman' Politicians The funny thing is that by today's standards, he was telling the truth. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 The funny thing is that by today's standards, he was telling the truth. Good point. If one believes they've never been a philanderer/ess, is that the truth? If so, which professions are more likely to attract and sustain and enable people with such thought and belief processes? Link to post Share on other sites
Starship Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 I hope you people don't actually take these 'surveys' seriously. As far as professions...just remember that the vast majority of people do not cheat. So saying doctors are like this...police officers... No they aren't ..'some' may be...the minority. My father was a police officer and I can't imagine him cheating...nor, as he gained seniority, would he have tolerated any of his men cheating. As far as nurses...I've been one for 30 years and am hard pressed to recall any fellow nurses cheating. A few were still married but had separated before seeing other men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 I hope you people don't actually take these 'surveys' seriously. As far as professions...just remember that the vast majority of people do not cheat. So saying doctors are like this...police officers... No they aren't ..'some' may be...the minority. My father was a police officer and I can't imagine him cheating...nor, as he gained seniority, would he have tolerated any of his men cheating. As far as nurses...I've been one for 30 years and am hard pressed to recall any fellow nurses cheating. A few were still married but had separated before seeing other men. For some reason, I thought you were younger from reading some of your posts I don't know why lol. And you honestly never seen anything at all go on in 30 years of being a nurse? I've heard a lot of people mention that a lot of doctors & nurses sleep with each other or at least with other workers at the hospital. Unless a lot of them are lying, I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 whew! stay - at - home Mums are getting it! Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 For some reason, I thought you were younger from reading some of your posts I don't know why lol. And you honestly never seen anything at all go on in 30 years of being a nurse? I've heard a lot of people mention that a lot of doctors & nurses sleep with each other or at least with other workers at the hospital. Unless a lot of them are lying, I don't know. i'm a doctor & it definitely does not happen as often as people think. sure... people do cheat & they do it in the hospital.... it happens. but it really doesn't happen as often as people like to tell tales about it. in fact, it happens VERY rarely & when it does happen? people do it discreetly so there are no stories and scandals. i've seen a lot of folks hooking up (doctors&nurses) but most of them are single. there is a certain... how do i say it? kink? turn on? fetish? about having sex in some professions (doctors&nurses, pilots&stewardeses, directors&secretaries) - you'll hear people talk about it all the time and you'll have the feeling like it happens 24/7 when the reality is different. it's more a stereotype with some professions than anything. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 i'm a doctor & it definitely does not happen as often as people think. sure... people do cheat & they do it in the hospital.... it happens. but it really doesn't happen as often as people like to tell tales about it. in fact, it happens VERY rarely & when it does happen? people do it discreetly so there are no stories and scandals. i've seen a lot of folks hooking up (doctors&nurses) but most of them are single. there is a certain... how do i say it? kink? turn on? fetish? about having sex in some professions (doctors&nurses, pilots&stewardeses, directors&secretaries) - you'll hear people talk about it all the time and you'll have the feeling like it happens 24/7 when the reality is different. it's more a stereotype with some professions than anything. Yeah, that's probably how it realistically is in most hospitals. Something about having a nurse as a g/f is a turn on for me & I'm sure a lot of other men. I guess because they help people for a living & most are compassionate. But in a job like that it's extremely hard to find out if an affair is going on due to the odd work hours & such. They could easily make things up to see someone else & you'll highly likely never find out. Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 But in a job like that it's extremely hard to find out if an affair is going on due to the odd work hours & such. They could easily make things up to see someone else & you'll highly likely never find out. yup - especially when you're an ER doctor. it's easy to cheat in every job with long hours + night shifts. i think the pilots have it the easiest, i know a dude who has a girlfriend in every city & it's been going on for years. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 My personal tally, one I hadn't really considered until reading this thread, does indeed revolve around the health profession, amongst those who have directly disclosed their own, or their spouse's, infidelities. So far: One EMT with another EMT while her H was stationed overseas as a military medic. His was probably the saddest as he got the gift when returning home after 20 in for his retirement party at the base. Yikes it was hard giving him a hug in the parking lot after. He was a mess. Then there's the hygienist and her dentist. That's the only one I'm aware of with her. She's dead now. Last I have a duality of sorts, meaning dueling affairs, with a physical therapist married to a physician's assistant. The commonality of all is that they all had/have college and/or professional educations, professional credentials and were, or are, solid middle class citizens. All had/have children and lived/live upscale lives. Marriages varied/vary between 10 and 25 years. For all intents and purposes, they are, or were, couples to envy in their success. Attractive, smart, educated professionals. Lots of options. As a disclaimer, I'm a blue collar guy and work no where near the medical profession. I don't think what we do, the trades, is really considered 'a profession', so all the boinking that goes on in my industry is generally irrelevant, though does make for interesting water cooler or beers conversation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 yup - especially when you're an ER doctor. it's easy to cheat in every job with long hours + night shifts. i think the pilots have it the easiest, i know a dude who has a girlfriend in every city & it's been going on for years. That's honestly just sick. I don't know why people do such things. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 That's honestly just sick. I don't know why people do such things. While opinion varies markedly on 'sick', 'why' is pretty easy. These people are intelligent, generally successful, usually well-liked or admired, and they have the drive and ambition to succeed in the professional world. They also have the trappings which come with that success and popularity. With a keen mind and all that other stuff on-board, all it takes is pushing the 'I want this' button. It's simple, really. The cool thing is, when one is successful, attractive and well-liked, it's easy to bring new potentials into the fold, whether that be as potential sex partners or merely fans and supporters and friends. Watch their social milieu and learn. I did this decades ago, learning most of it from attending private schools. It's a different world. Is everyone that way? Absolutely not! However, they can be. It's a choice, and a quite easy one to make, if one is of the appropriate mindset or in the appropriate circumstances. IMO, the important thing about professions is that they attract specific personalities and combinations of intelligence, talent, ambition, and work ethic. It all works together and some combinations apparently lean more towards the infidelity milieu than others, or so those stats appear to indicate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 My doctor did a patient the last time I was up there, like ten days ago. I thought she left because her drip was done so her chair was empty and after a really long time she came back and sat back in her chair to wait for her ride. The other one...the one to go home. Gross. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 While opinion varies markedly on 'sick', 'why' is pretty easy. These people are intelligent, generally successful, usually well-liked or admired, and they have the drive and ambition to succeed in the professional world. They also have the trappings which come with that success and popularity. With a keen mind and all that other stuff on-board, all it takes is pushing the 'I want this' button. It's simple, really. The cool thing is, when one is successful, attractive and well-liked, it's easy to bring new potentials into the fold, whether that be as potential sex partners or merely fans and supporters and friends. Watch their social milieu and learn. I did this decades ago, learning most of it from attending private schools. It's a different world. Is everyone that way? Absolutely not! However, they can be. It's a choice, and a quite easy one to make, if one is of the appropriate mindset or in the appropriate circumstances. IMO, the important thing about professions is that they attract specific personalities and combinations of intelligence, talent, ambition, and work ethic. It all works together and some combinations apparently lean more towards the infidelity milieu than others, or so those stats appear to indicate. Well, that makes sense it's just I don't know how some of these people could live with themselves. If someone wants to act like their single, than don't get married or be in a relationship. Why destroy someone elses life. It's just sad of what a lot of people are capable of doing while married or in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 How can they live with themselves? Think about this..... the same mind which can argue the innocence of a murderer can argue, even within one's own psyche, that 'I didn't have sex with that woman'. IMO, in fact, the more intelligent and resourceful a person is, the more intellectual tools they have to sell almost any scenario. Every result is a choice. Do they pull that tool out of the box today? There's an old saying that power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. What is the acceptable level of corruption when one feels as a god? Reaching? Sure! I was just reminded of the old Star Trek series and Gary Lockwood feeling like a god when possessed with a powerful energy. Other, lesser, beings became superfluous and toys to play with. It happens! Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 These people are intelligent, generally successful, usually well-liked or admired, and they have the drive and ambition to succeed in the professional world. They also have the trappings which come with that success and popularity. With a keen mind and all that other stuff on-board, all it takes is pushing the 'I want this' button. It's simple, really. The cool thing is, when one is successful, attractive and well-liked, it's easy to bring new potentials into the fold, whether that be as potential sex partners or merely fans and supporters and friends. these days? you don't even need all of that. there will always be someone willing so it's easier to cheat now more than ever, as simple as that. i can speak for my profession - why do doctors cheat? same reasons as every other cheater. some because they simply can't keep it in their pants, some because they're unhappy, some because they truly do fall in love with their APs, some because it's exciting and when you're working in an ER (for example) - you're reminded of the fact that you're mortal more often than most people. a lot of folks feel like they're missing out if they don't "take" the offer. i think cheating is so common these days that it's not only limited to "attractive, successful, intelligent" people. everybody can get it, LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Well, that makes sense it's just I don't know how some of these people could live with themselves. If someone wants to act like their single, than don't get married or be in a relationship. Why destroy someone elses life. It's just sad of what a lot of people are capable of doing while married or in a relationship. they don't want to act like they're single. most of these people are cake eaters - they want the perfect picture family for the outsiders to complete their super successful life AND a side piece to give them what they usually don't get or won't have from their spouses. also, a LOT of men have that madona - whore complex. for example, i know a man who has been paying for escorts for over 20 years now - he is a doctor, very old fashioned. he just can't do some things with his wife so he pays for it. loves his family and doesn't want to divorce. for some it's sick, for some it's the only acceptable lifestyle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NJ123 Posted March 13, 2015 Author Share Posted March 13, 2015 they don't want to act like they're single. most of these people are cake eaters - they want the perfect picture family for the outsiders to complete their super successful life AND a side piece to give them what they usually don't get or won't have from their spouses. also, a LOT of men have that madona - whore complex. for example, i know a man who has been paying for escorts for over 20 years now - he is a doctor, very old fashioned. he just can't do some things with his wife so he pays for it. loves his family and doesn't want to divorce. for some it's sick, for some it's the only acceptable lifestyle. Yeah, I agree. But some women do the same exact thing too so it's not just men. Link to post Share on other sites
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