Davey L Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I like to compliment less physically attractive on their looks. There's always some feature which is nice. I like to see them smile and I hope it makes them happier that day. Some attractive women don't appreciate it so much so I don't generally bother.
alphamale Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I've heard that the more physically attractive a woman is, the less men should directly acknowledge this with compliments on her appearance. Any thoughts on this? that's true. every clown and his brother will compliment her looks. you can stand out by complimenting her on something else like her intelligence or how good she is with people or her incredible personality.
Starship Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I only like it when my boyfriend calls me beautiful...then I can't get enough of it. Otherwise, other comments are much more touching as in: -I like the way you smile -You always have a healthy look to you -that blouse is a nice colour on you -that nail polish is nice and summery, goes with your smile. Etc...specific things A lot is in the attitude of the guy. One man might comment on my hair as in...your hair is so luscious, I have this urge to run my fingers through it', and make me smile...the same comment from another guy might be a bit creepy. There is an orderly at work who always says to me something variation of 'you look so delicious' and it is in a fun way. Again, coming from another guy and it might feel uncomfortable. Or...one guy might say 'here, have a cookie, you are looking sort of slim and need to fatten up for the winter.' It's in the delivery and the context. Anyways..'you look beautiful'. I only want to hear it from my boyfriend and hear it every day. 2
Shepp Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 Though telling a random girl you met at Starbucks that she looks pretty/cute, waste of time. Honestly so many guys spout these cliché complements when i'm out with the missis if they don't see me (sometimes even if they do). I reckon they think they're being bold, cause they don't see what I see as in how often she hears those clichés. I reckon compliments are always good if they stand out, but otherwise, although nice it could well be a bigger event in your day that in the day of the complimentee! 1
spiderowl Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 I think compliments are fine as long as they are genuine. Where did this idea come from of not complimenting beautiful women? What is the purpose of that? I can imagine someone so beautiful might get a bit bored of it or think it's just another guy who can't see beyond her looks, but then again maybe guys don't say complimentary things because they think she already knows how she looks. 1
autumnnight Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 There is someone very close to me who is beautiful. I mean objectively beautiful. Because of her horrific abusive childhood, she just doesn't see it. She is always so flattered and surprised when someone compliments anything about her appearance. I cannot imagine the idea of NOT complimenting her for being beautiful just because she IS beautiful. That is so strange to me. 3
No Limit Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Not saying I'm a really attractive woman or anything but the only time a compliment - or rather a remark I guess - caught my immediate interest was when one guy asked me where I'm from. Told him I was from the neighbour country and he said that he'd thought as much because of my facial features. Might sound like geek-talk to some but this awareness and attention of that guy really impressed me.
gaius Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Ir can be a turnoff to women who already know they're beautiful, but a powerful weapon with a girl who's having esteem issues with her looks.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 If you want to win the affection of a very attractive woman, it's not through compliments. Instead you need to make her feel like she's nothing special, and she needs to work for your attention. I'm not saying insult her, but play it cool. She will ignore all the other losers fawning over her giving her compliments and look your way instead (depending on your ratio of game/looks)
MissySpring Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 I've heard that the more physically attractive a woman is, the less men should directly acknowledge this with compliments on her appearance. Any thoughts on this? I think there's something to compliment EVERYBODY about. We can't get hung up on just attractiveness. Give compliments to all the good things you see and do it generously. It's a form of love. 1
toolforgrowth Posted March 14, 2015 Posted March 14, 2015 Of course attractive women should be complimented. Everyone has a story: can you say for certainty that you know every physically attractive woman's story? No. You don't. All you have in your head is this red pill, "alpha", player, BS generalization that attractive women are all bitches and skanks and that they need to be taken off a pedestal and that their egos are too big and blah blah blah. Attractive women are people. People like to be complimented. Most genuinely good people, attractive or not, will appreciate a compliment. There are TONS of attractive women out there, that if you looked at them, you would have NO clue that they were former nerdy, ugly ducklings, bullied individuals who struggled with teasing, struggled with making friends, struggled with confidence. *waves* I'm truly confused as to what the mindset is here. Attractive women aren't worthy of compliments? I don't get it. I don't think the OP is saying that attractive women aren't worthy of compliments. I think it has to do on whether or not they expect compliments from men because of their attractiveness. My experience has shown me that the majority (not all) of attractive women know they're attractive and appreciate the attention and perks that come with it. Personally, I treat an attractive woman like any other human being. I don't show her any extra attention or preference because she's attractive, nor do I go out of my way to make sure that she knows I think she's attractive. TBH, I'm rather "meh" about the whole thing. And I've noticed that quite a few of the attractive women to whom I've displayed a sense of "meh" about their attractiveness actually work that much harder to get my attention to feed their egos. I don't give it to them; it's not my job to feed the attention beast. What I do do is treat them like I would any other human being. Why should I treat an attractive woman any differently than an unattractive woman?
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