Gaeta Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I think some of you are over-reacting. I do that sometimes and it has nothing to do with not having etiquette, I have nothing against talking on the phone, and I am not from the texting generation. I am simply sending a text acknowledging to the other person I got his call and we will talk later. If I see X tried to call me and I know I won't be able to get back to him for hours I think it's rude to not acknowledge the call. 1
Gaeta Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Yet another woman that returned a voice mail I left with a text saying that she was sorry for missing my call. If I wanted to text, I wouldn't have called. If a woman returns my call and I'm away from my phone, I'm fine with calling her back. However, when a woman doesn't try calling me back and sends a lazy text saying sorry I missed your call, it rubs me the wrong way. If she wants to talk, she can return my call with a phone call. Reply to this lady: It's a good time to call me back right now, or call me back at 6h. Simple as that! She does not have your 'etiquette guide' between her hands. She did this for some reasons, maybe she is afraid of calling back in a bad moment or 100 other reasons. You are 2 different people with different up bringing, with different personalities, with different insecurities. AT LEAST she acknowledge your call which indicates she has some level of interest. 1
road Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I have done it once. Only because the guy contacting was someone from OLD and we hadn't met yet, we had talked once on the phone and I was lukewarm about meeting him. He called me twice in 30 minutes, left voice-mail wanting to chat and then TEXTED to tell me he had called.....talk about overkill....After that I didn't really want to chat, so I texted to say that I got his voicemails and that I would call him briefly the next day to confirm our date....he annoyed me, that's why I didn't want to chat though... No he obvious lack of social skills/phone skills did not turn off. He really did little to nothing for you. That is why you showed felt disdain and showed contempt for him. If it was Brad Pitt or George Clooney you would never hang up the phone. When is it not sexual Harassment? When the girl wants him.
elliecoffee Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Ugh it depends. Usually I'm really busy with work, training, my life, c'mon, and I hate getting calls while I'm working or doing my thing. When I give my number to somebody I always make that very clear: I'm not always on my phone and my free time is usually around x hours. If they happen to call and I can't answer, when I can I text back because I think they're busy too unless I know for sure they're not. But if someone who wants to go out with me gets upset because of this is an instant turn off, way too demanding and intense people for my taste. :/
Redhead14 Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 One thing I think has gotten incredibly worse in the dating game is phone etiquette. Since I'm not a big texter, I'll call a woman on the phone in the beginning to arrange plans with her. However, the trend these days is to return voice mails with "sorry I missed your call" texts. Does this annoy anyone else? The way I see it is that if I wanted to text, I wouldn't have called. Men do it too. And, perhaps, they were busy at the moment, and didn't want you to feel ignored or wonder. But, they should return the call at some point. It's when they don't do that, that I feel dissed, for sure.
road Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 Ugh it depends. Usually I'm really busy with work, training, my life, c'mon, and I hate getting calls while I'm working or doing my thing. When I give my number to somebody I always make that very clear: I'm not always on my phone and my free time is usually around x hours. If they happen to call and I can't answer, when I can I text back because I think they're busy too unless I know for sure they're not. But if someone who wants to go out with me gets upset because of this is an instant turn off, way too demanding and intense people for my taste. :/ There is no law that you must your phone. Though there is no excuse to send a text. If you know it is a bad time to call them now you simply do not make the return call at that time.
katiegrl Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 There is no law that you must your phone. Though there is no excuse to send a text. If you know it is a bad time to call them now you simply do not make the return call at that time. Personally, if my boyfriend doesn't have time to call back until later...I LOVE it that he sends me a text acknowledging my call and that he will call back later! Usually adds a little xo at the end too...which is so sweet! Different strokes... 2
xxoo Posted March 15, 2015 Posted March 15, 2015 I think some of you are over-reacting. I do that sometimes and it has nothing to do with not having etiquette, I have nothing against talking on the phone, and I am not from the texting generation. I am simply sending a text acknowledging to the other person I got his call and we will talk later. If I see X tried to call me and I know I won't be able to get back to him for hours I think it's rude to not acknowledge the call. I agree. I'm not dating, but my family and I use this sort of call/text juggle all the time. It's not rude. Text is a newer tool, and some people just haven't yet embraced it and its advantages. For many people, there is no "value" attached to a call or a text, simply the function of each. Sometimes call is better, and sometimes text. If someone texts me, and I want to talk to them, I can text right back, "Can you talk atm?" 1
Recommended Posts