fitnessfan365 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 One thing I think has gotten incredibly worse in the dating game is phone etiquette. Since I'm not a big texter, I'll call a woman on the phone in the beginning to arrange plans with her. However, the trend these days is to return voice mails with "sorry I missed your call" texts. Does this annoy anyone else? The way I see it is that if I wanted to text, I wouldn't have called. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 One thing I think has gotten incredibly worse in the dating game is phone etiquette. Since I'm not a big texter, I'll call a woman on the phone in the beginning to arrange plans with her. However, the trend these days is to return voice mails with "sorry I missed your call" texts. Does this annoy anyone else? The way I see it is that if I wanted to text, I wouldn't have called. Yep. Annoying barely covers it People seem to be so frightened of actually talking to one another anymore which is crazy when you really think about it. Thankfully there are a few rare gems in the mix to make one believe that all hope is not lost...yet
Gary S Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Yup. If they can't return a phone call, I drop 'em. I'll make the initial call, I'll pursue to a point, but I have to see a little interest on their part. I'm only looking for one.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Yup. If they can't return a phone call, I drop 'em. I'll make the initial call, I'll pursue to a point, but I have to see a little interest on their part. I'm only looking for one. Gary and the OP have stated sentiments that I have felt all along with regard to texting. Just look at some (or maybe even most) of the threads in this category - they almost always involve TEXTING!!! It's like, people are too lazy to pick up the phone and physically exert themselves to dial a few numbers so that they can HEAR a human VOICE...instead, they exert even MORE physical energy by "typing" out a text on their smartphone's keyboard, which can sometimes take a minute or longer! Dialing a person's phone number can be done in a matter of SECONDS. As I've stated in some of my prior posts, I only use texting to convey a quick, SHORT thought or message. Especially with regard to dating (which I've recently taken a break from), I prefer to hear the guy's VOICE and it's intonations, pauses, accent (if any) and other vocal nuances. To me, it's the next best thing to actually being in physical proximity with the guy I'm dating. OP, it was incredibly RUDE of your date to return your voice mail with a text! I mean, WTH?! If a guy did that to me - unless he had a VERY compelling reason why he did that - I'd send him a VOICE MAIL stating that things aren't working out and I wish him luck with dating. I'd do a complete fade to black. If I'm not worth a guy's effort and time for him to CALL me; and if he doesn't even want to hear my voice and TALK to me, then he's not worth MY time. Hope that doesn't sound too harsh, but, it's how I feel about this. . 3
writergal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 My solution to this problem with men has been to decry texting as an acceptable form of communication when they ask if they can text me. I say, "I'm old school. Call me. I don't text anymore for xyz reasons." Some like it. Some like it not. So OP I 100% agree with you that dating in the 21st century has promoted bad manners as the norm, when it comes to communication. Returning a phone call with a text...totally rude behavior. 1
Author fitnessfan365 Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 Glad to see that I'm not alone. In most cases, I HATE game playing. But one of the few areas where I have no problem being aloof is ignoring a "sorry I missed your call" text. A voice mail should get a call back IMO. So if she wants to talk, she can call. Otherwise she can have fun with her Smart Phone and I'll focus on my other options. 2
writergal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I know, right? Seriously, if a person can't return a voicemail with a phone call, then they should just date their smart phone instead of a human. 1
Auspecial Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 IMO all this annoyance is skipping over another demographic of people who don't like to talk on the phone: those who can't hear well on the phone. My biggest annoyance remains people who want to spend large amounts of time talking on the phone and not making plans to get together in person. How do people have so much free time for talking non-stop on the phone?? 2
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I know, right? Seriously, if a person can't return a voicemail with a phone call, then they should just date their smart phone instead of a human. Bahahaa! . 3
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 If a girl wants to call me, I'm game, but I rarely initiate calling since so many women under 30 don't like it. Not to mention I'm not a fan of calling, I'd rather text 2
writergal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Bahahaa! . It didn't work out too well for Joaquin Phoenix's character when he dated his phone (Scarlett Johansen) because SHE dumped him! Ha! And she's digital! Seriously, Spike Jonze is on to something with his movie HER, where people get paid to write love letters to other people because the letter sender is too lazy to write the letter themselves. And then Phoenix's character falls in love with his virtual computer assistant. Scary how real that scenario is, the way people fall in love with fake online dating profiles and then complain about those fake profiles online. It's a mad, mad world people! 3
Author fitnessfan365 Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 Here's the thing though. The phone is used to set appointments and for logistics. Not to get to know someone. So even though I'm calling, I only spend 5-10 minutes tops on the phone. You chat a little bit, lock down plans, and get off the phone. So from that stand point, I agree that it's lame when people want to chat endlessly on the phone. It's like, just get to the point and make plans already. 2
writergal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Ah...the younger generation. Seriously you guys have NO idea what us old folk had to do to communicate with our dates. All we had was the phone! That's it! And the telegram if you want to get technical. We didn't have cellphones or texting or instant messaging or email. So, we had to use the phone as a way to get to know someone. My how times (like Peter Brady's voice at puberty)have changed. Autumn turns to winter And winter turns to spring It doesn't go just for seasons you know It goes for everything The same is true for voices When boys begin to grow You gotta take a lesson from Mother Nature And if you do you'll know When it's time to change (when it's time to change) Don't fight the tide, go along for the ride Don't ya see When it's time to change, you've got to rearrange Who you are and what you're gonna be Sha na na na na na na na na Sha na na na na Sha na na na na na na na na na Sha na na na na Day by day you're facing the changes you've been through A little bit of living, a little bit of growing all adds up to you Every boy's a man inside A girl a woman too And if you want to reach your destiny Then here's what you can do 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 If a girl wants to call me, I'm game, but I rarely initiate calling since so many women under 30 don't like it. Not to mention I'm not a fan of calling, I'd rather text Seriously?! You'd rather TEXT a girl that you like than CALL her and hear her voice? Really? .
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Ah...the younger generation. Seriously you guys have NO idea what us old folk had to do to communicate with our dates. All we had was the phone! That's it! And the telegram if you want to get technical. We didn't have cellphones or texting or instant messaging or email. So, we had to use the phone as a way to get to know someone. My how times (like Peter Brady's voice at puberty)have changed. Never mind the rest of your post....when I read the part about Peter Brady's voice changing at puberty, I almost spit out my cherry coke LOLOL:laugh: Don't get me wrong...I love LOVE technology! But um, I think people are using it in the wrong way with regard to dating. Texting has it's place - and I'm glad there are those of us who know what that place is! Talking to a guy that I think is cute and who I'm into ALWAYS trumps ANY kind of text that he would send me. . 1
writergal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Never mind the rest of your post....when I read the part about Peter Brady's voice changing at puberty, I almost spit out my cherry coke LOLOL:laugh: Don't get me wrong...I love LOVE technology! But um, I think people are using it in the wrong way with regard to dating. Texting has it's place - and I'm glad there are those of us who know what that place is! Talking to a guy that I think is cute and who I'm into ALWAYS trumps ANY kind of text that he would send me. . Hahaha well then don't watch this video of the Brady kids singing " " hahaha! Yes. People misuse technology where dating is concerned and that's one of the reasons why I hate texting so much. I mean, I hate texting as much as Minnesotans hate winter, Arizonians hate summer, and Donald Trump hates combing his hair. Call me, on the line, call me...call me any day or night CALL ME. If you text me, fugeddaboudit! 2
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Hahaha well then don't watch this video of the Brady kids singing " " hahaha! Yes. People misuse technology where dating is concerned and that's one of the reasons why I hate texting so much. I mean, I hate texting as much as Minnesotans hate winter, Arizonians hate summer, and Donald Trump hates combing his hair. Call me, on the line, call me...call me any day or night CALL ME. If you text me, fugeddaboudit! You know what? You're a pretty freakin' cool gal, Writergal! Wish you were in my area, I'd invite you out for either a drink or a coffee! You seem like you'd be FUN to hang out with! I have a good sense about people and can read them well. The Bradys will forever be etched in the deepest recesses of my mind and heart! Remember when Marcia got hit in the nose with a football? Or when they went on their Hawaii vacation and Bobby found the ancient voodoo doll necklace that brought them bad luck and a confrontation with the awesome Vincent Price? Ahh, cherished memories lol... . 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Seriously?! You'd rather TEXT a girl that you like than CALL her and hear her voice? Really? . Early on - yes. Talking on the phone takes away from stuff you can talk about on dates. I prefer having minimal contact between dates, just some light banter usually. Later on, I would be more open to calling. 1
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Early on - yes. Talking on the phone takes away from stuff you can talk about on dates. I prefer having minimal contact between dates, just some light banter usually. Later on, I would be more open to calling. Um, I guess that would be a valid reason for not wanting to even have a quickie phone convo with a girl that you liked. But do you really think that you'd have so little to talk about with a girl you were into and that you want to date that you'd rather not even have a quickie convo with her?! If not even to hear her voice and have like 60 seconds of interaction to test the "chem waters"?! hmm.... .
SELdeMER Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I have done it once. Only because the guy contacting was someone from OLD and we hadn't met yet, we had talked once on the phone and I was lukewarm about meeting him. He called me twice in 30 minutes, left voice-mail wanting to chat and then TEXTED to tell me he had called.....talk about overkill....After that I didn't really want to chat, so I texted to say that I got his voicemails and that I would call him briefly the next day to confirm our date....he annoyed me, that's why I didn't want to chat though...
Author fitnessfan365 Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 I have done it once. Only because the guy contacting was someone from OLD and we hadn't met yet, we had talked once on the phone and I was lukewarm about meeting him. He called me twice in 30 minutes, left voice-mail wanting to chat and then TEXTED to tell me he had called.....talk about overkill....After that I didn't really want to chat, so I texted to say that I got his voicemails and that I would call him briefly the next day to confirm our date....he annoyed me, that's why I didn't want to chat though... Haha.. Needy people are awesome aren't they? How hard is it to simply let someone get back to you? If a woman doesn't return a text or a call, it isn't because she didn't receive it, or that she's "too busy". It's because she doesn't want to talk to you.
PumpkinLumpkin Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I hate talking on the phone, and the man I am head-over-heels crazy about would call me several times a month in the beginning, and my heart would be pounding when his name lit up my screen as I watched it roll to voicemail. Then I'd respond a few mins later with a text. He is way older than I, and he is not a huge texter and lets his cell batteries turn red all the time (I panic when mine is at 60 percent full.) Finally after about his 15th call that I let roll to VM, he learned I never answer calls and now he texts all the time. It is hilarious because he NEVER used to text before and would take forever to respond, and now I guess I got him to change without really trying. Now he texts several times a day....even photos and voice clips!!! Way to go, Grandpa! I've called him ONE time over the five months we've been dating, and that was tell him there's no parking in front of his house, better come outside and keep me safe, and even then I hated talking on the phone.
ASG Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Heh... I'm guilty of that. I screen most of my calls anyway. And I ALWAYS reply to a VM with a text. Honestly I'd rather people NOT leave a VM. Just text me. It's what I do if I have to call someone. I never leave a VM. I text. I hate talking on the phone, as I never hear/understand what people are saying. It's all about texting for me. Last guy I dated, we talked on the phone maybe 4 times in 9 months. Current guy I'm seeing we've talked on the phone probably once in 3 months. We text! And that's how I like it! 2
PumpkinLumpkin Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Fitnessfan, go to my profile and check my photo album. You will like it.
Author fitnessfan365 Posted March 15, 2015 Author Posted March 15, 2015 Yet another woman that returned a voice mail I left with a text saying that she was sorry for missing my call. If I wanted to text, I wouldn't have called. If a woman returns my call and I'm away from my phone, I'm fine with calling her back. However, when a woman doesn't try calling me back and sends a lazy text saying sorry I missed your call, it rubs me the wrong way. If she wants to talk, she can return my call with a phone call. 1
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