MessedupinMiami Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I am simply wondering if NC will make him want to reach out to me and wonder why I haven't initiated contact
Rainbowlove Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 That depends on how it ended? Hopefully, you are not using no contact as a means to get contact. It could, but it won't solve anything. You'll both still be tangled in an EA. He's still married. How would contact help you move forward? 1
Ronnie33 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 (edited) If he comes back to you, you will resume the affair. I know because I have been there many times in two years. It will then go to a PA and you will fall more in love with him. Then you know what happens?? Nothing. You stay like that, stuck in the viscious affair cycle with no progression. He won't ever leave his wife and you will be posting here crying because you can't take the pain of being the OW anymore and want more. You should be hoping and praying he doesn't break NC because you can't even imagine the hell you are in for if you go back. I'm speaking to you from experience, trust me I understand how you feel. You think it's hard now but it gets so much worse. Edited March 11, 2015 by Ronnie33 2
SleekArchitecture Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Picture getting on a long train to nowhere. A hamster running circles on a circular treadmill. Yes, they may come back but at what cost. They usually come back with the same blue light special which amounts to junk. 2
privategal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Right now please block...let him wonder forever. Don't look back. Reading the pain here should solidify it for you. Start thinking "I'm FREE" 1
Author MessedupinMiami Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 I just blocked everything, no more hoping he will reach out and fight for me... I have to admit it was sort of liberating 3
Rainbowlove Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I just blocked everything, no more hoping he will reach out and fight for me... I have to admit it was sort of liberating Stay with it. Make your healing your number one job and priority. Take care of you! 1
Mal78 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I am simply wondering if NC will make him want to reach out to me and wonder why I haven't initiated contact Who initiated NC? Is it your intent by going NC or hope by being NC he will long for you enough to initiate contact again? Yes, it's very possible he will contact you again. Could almost be a guarantee in many situations. Unless you want this you could make it VERY impossible to contact you. It's all up to you. Block, delete and ignore. Stay strong. 1
Author MessedupinMiami Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 I am not sure who initiated it at this point. He said he couldn't do it anymore then I said I was going to delete his number from my phone but best of luck to him. 1
Author MessedupinMiami Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 He also just liked my latest instagram photo so theres another place I need to block him from 1
Ronnie33 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 He'll be back once he gets bored or comfortable in his marriage again and wants the rush and excitement your connection brings. Trust me and block him everywhere, if he does contact you, you will feel better for about a day and then it will be back to the same cycle. 1
Satu Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 If you don't know that you deserve something better, you will never have anything better. Give that statement some thought. 1
Lurkeraspect Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Im unsure if you truly desire this to be over or if you're using this supposed NC as a game to try and lure him back in. If you truly want to be done and out of the affair please read this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide 2
privategal Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 The instagram photo...those 'likes' whether you like to admit it or not are ego strokes for you and not only does it feel good for you to get the acknowledging that he sees you and is looking at your pics, but it also gives you false hope and also strokes his ego too as in his mind you are posting for HIM to see. Delete instagram and Facebook...you can go back later down the road. Get your head straight for now. You are "ok" today it gets WAY harder. You will miss him...help yourself by eliminating avenues when YOU have weak moments. 2
Ronnie33 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 (edited) The instagram photo...those 'likes' whether you like to admit it or not are ego strokes for you and not only does it feel good for you to get the acknowledging that he sees you and is looking at your pics, but it also gives you false hope and also strokes his ego too as in his mind you are posting for HIM to see. Delete instagram and Facebook...you can go back later down the road. Get your head straight for now. You are "ok" today it gets WAY harder. You will miss him...help yourself by eliminating avenues when YOU have weak moments. This is exactly right^^^^^^^My AP used to like my status on fb during NC as his way of letting me know he's thinking of me and hoping I would reach out. I finally deleted him from my fb months ago because I didn't want to know or see anything anymore. Edited March 11, 2015 by Ronnie33 1
Blu72 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 MM will do the same in my situation as well. When either one of us goes distant/silent for whatever reason, I notice he will start 'liking' my FB statuses/pics more than usual. I think it's him trying to elicit communication from me. Or if I post a pic of me, instead of 'liking' it he will email me and tell me it's a nice pic of me. FB is evil in these situations. Ugh. 1
Daisy2013 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Maybe. Mine came knocking on my door 4 days after I blocked him and went dark. Never in my lifetime would I have expected that. He was worried something happened to me because he couldn't reach me and didn't know he was blocked. If I would do it now, he likely wouldn't because he would know he'd been blocked and would leave me alone. 1
Satu Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 As someone I know once put it to someone: "Go with God, but go now, and go far away." 1
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