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What traits in a man are ones that would cause you to respect him?

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So, I kicked out a very, very insulting type person 2 days ago.

 

They literally hit me with a million texts about how horrible I am. I've seen them fight with exes and do the same thing, destroying the guy's already low self esteem.

 

I have pretty strong self esteem, bordering on cockiness at times. I know.. not good. Because of my strong self esteem, I wasn't bothered by her attacks and didn't participate in them. She was really, really reaching and trying to hurt me. It didn't work.

 

However, they did get me thinking.

 

One of the things she attacked was my newly re single status. What she said was, "you have no relationship now because no woman would ever respect you."

 

Never really gave that any thought, but since it's such a mystery to me, I figured I'll ask here.

 

What are traits that might cause you to respect a man? What does it even mean to respect a man? What might cause you not to respect a man?

SleekArchitecture Established Member

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It simply comes down to that not everyone is compatible. Resentment often leads to significant dysfunction in relationships. If you are not happy there is no reason to keep hanging on and build and build and build a Mount Everest of resentment.

 

 

I significantly resent my ex whatever he was. I am sure he has a lot of fantasy BS of which he liked to believe it to be.

 

 

Moving on is painful, but there has to be so much more on the horizon than a relationship that is not compatible. It simply did not work out.

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When you express things which are of importance to you and they make no exceptions to fulfill them or meet them halfway, but they do them for others.

 

When they say they are not expressive and do not understand communication BUT seem to have no disabilities upon doing this with others, facebooking, texting, calling.

 

They are always late when you have expressed how important punctuality is to you.

 

It leads to resentments which come out as indirect insults because deep down you cannot stand the thought or site of the person. It eventually leads to you never caring to see them or if they are alive or dead. You lose all interest.

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When you express things which are of importance to you and they make no exceptions to fulfill them or meet them halfway, but they do them for others.

 

When they say they are not expressive and do not understand communication BUT seem to have no disabilities upon doing this with others, facebooking, texting, calling.

 

They are always late when you have expressed how important punctuality is to you.

 

It leads to resentments which come out as indirect insults because deep down you cannot stand the thought or site of the person. It eventually leads to you never caring to see them or if they are alive or dead. You lose all interest.

 

 

Ok, thanks. That describes HER pretty well. lol

 

But I guess it was just another random thing she made up.

 

I kicked her out though. So no feelings on my side. I am just curious about this particular comment,

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Someone who doesn't care what she thinks might get my respect.

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The woman was just awful. No decent woman would say that to a guy, to anyone. You don't need to worry about getting a woman to respect you - you just need to avoid women like her.

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Things I respect in a man

 

Standing up for what he knows is right

Honest

Keeps his word

Assertive

Fair

A leader

A man with a plan

Emotionally well balanced

Good with kids and animals

Intuitive (understands when to be gentle, when to be firm, when to argue and when to shut up)

Humility

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What trait?

 

No doubt...moral integrity A man who does the right thing regardless of what is going on around him. He reaches down deep and doesn't react, keeps calm...thinks things through and acts accordingly.

 

Bottom line...he doesn't let the poor behaviour of others or the difficulties of the moment govern his own behaviour.

 

Gary Cooper in the movie 'High Noon'. He has the confidence to act as he should not because he is 'brave' but because he understands that his conscience is most important.

 

As a woman I adore this in a man. It is a trait that isn't always apparent but reveals itself over time.

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The woman was just awful. No decent woman would say that to a guy, to anyone. You don't need to worry about getting a woman to respect you - you just need to avoid women like her.

 

Yes, I choose the wrong ones. :lmao:

 

For fun and entertainment, let me find some of her texts....

 

Here is a little bit of the 50 texts of insults... lol... luckily i have a very high self esteem. This is one she sent after i went nc on her.

 

You must be sad and must be lonely, but I guess that's obvious. Can't make a marriage last, a relationship, a ****ing xxxx project, at your age, what have you really accomplished and have been able to hold onto? Yeah now it's getting personal mister big shot I don't feel anything. You care more about what people think of you than anyone I know. You are superficial as ****. you have sick issues in your head, thats why someone spends that kind of money on a damn awkward ****ing obvious looking ****ty wig. (I bought some hair for fun. to change it up a bir, wore it about 4 times so far) You are never who you say you are. Multiple personalities?? Women don't like you there is nothing to respect at all. You are very manipulative. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if your wife was sane and that was some crazy plot twist I would have never been able to know about. 10 years with you I would've lost my mind too. Don't trust me? Haha you're ****ed. Better block me before I give you a damn good reason to. Emma (a cat) now sleeps with xxxxxx-(her pot dealer) every night right in between the two of us. She's obsessed with him, he has a trusting personality. I used to be loyal to you. Now I am not. Watch your back and block the **** out of me because I'm one crazy bitch on meds you know. **** OFF

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I respect a man who behaves like a man.....respect shown to others, a man who will stand behidn hsi values and standards not compromise them but yet not be cocky and argumentative.

i respect a man who isnt afraid fo hard work and gives time and effort without expecting anything back.....i will always respect a man who shows respect to me even if i dont agree with him...but thats a given ...you give what you get.....i also respect men who are there for others....and arent afraid to communicate how they feel...i appreciate a man who is honest and forthright without being hurtful or arrogant....

 

i dont respect men ...who talk trash about women,who abuse women , verbally or physically, who treat women as a lower class of being i dont respect men who dont respect their parents if they do all those things but yet for some strange reason respect me...i give them respect back but....i would not date them.....if they show respect to me and not to others(nice to you but not to the waiter or the checkout chick)...the respect is merely an illusion to get what they want ..if i knew them long enough....the respect for me would fall by the wayside...as soon as a disagreement was in progress...i have found this to be true...

 

honesty, forthrightness,steadfast constancy and respectful to all especially kids are all traits to be respected in my opinion..deb

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All somewhat petty and immature on your part.

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Yes, I choose the wrong ones. :lmao:

 

For fun and entertainment, let me find some of her texts....

 

Here is a little bit of the 50 texts of insults... lol... luckily i have a very high self esteem. This is one she sent after i went nc on her.

 

You must be sad and must be lonely, but I guess that's obvious. Can't make a marriage last, a relationship, a ****ing xxxx project, at your age, what have you really accomplished and have been able to hold onto? Yeah now it's getting personal mister big shot I don't feel anything. You care more about what people think of you than anyone I know. You are superficial as ****. you have sick issues in your head, thats why someone spends that kind of money on a damn awkward ****ing obvious looking ****ty wig. (I bought some hair for fun. to change it up a bir, wore it about 4 times so far) You are never who you say you are. Multiple personalities?? Women don't like you there is nothing to respect at all. You are very manipulative. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if your wife was sane and that was some crazy plot twist I would have never been able to know about. 10 years with you I would've lost my mind too. Don't trust me? Haha you're ****ed. Better block me before I give you a damn good reason to. Emma (a cat) now sleeps with xxxxxx-(her pot dealer) every night right in between the two of us. She's obsessed with him, he has a trusting personality. I used to be loyal to you. Now I am not. Watch your back and block the **** out of me because I'm one crazy bitch on meds you know. **** OFF

 

 

One question that should answer all yours. Do you own a gun for protection? If you do not, run, not walk, and register.

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All somewhat petty and immature on your part.

 

 

 

Was just trying to help readers of the thread get a laugh. Not trying to be petty.

 

I can go back and delete it. :o

 

Lightening the mood? Didn't work?

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One question that should answer all yours. Do you own a gun for protection? If you do not, run, not walk, and register.

 

 

I do. Tactical shotgun.

 

I suppose I should load it up in case she sends any cronies by. :lmao:

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I don't carry gender stereotypes...

 

 

What traits in a 'man' I'd respect are no different than traits I'd respect in a 'woman'...

 

 

That they are authentic, don't have double standards about how they behave vs. their expectations of others, do what they say they will do, and don't make promises they can't keep.

 

 

The rest is negotiable.

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Yes, I choose the wrong ones. :lmao:

 

For fun and entertainment, let me find some of her texts....

 

Here is a little bit of the 50 texts of insults... lol... luckily i have a very high self esteem. This is one she sent after i went nc on her.

 

You must be sad and must be lonely, but I guess that's obvious. Can't make a marriage last, a relationship, a ****ing xxxx project, at your age, what have you really accomplished and have been able to hold onto? Yeah now it's getting personal mister big shot I don't feel anything. You care more about what people think of you than anyone I know. You are superficial as ****. you have sick issues in your head, thats why someone spends that kind of money on a damn awkward ****ing obvious looking ****ty wig. (I bought some hair for fun. to change it up a bir, wore it about 4 times so far) You are never who you say you are. Multiple personalities?? Women don't like you there is nothing to respect at all. You are very manipulative. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if your wife was sane and that was some crazy plot twist I would have never been able to know about. 10 years with you I would've lost my mind too. Don't trust me? Haha you're ****ed. Better block me before I give you a damn good reason to. Emma (a cat) now sleeps with xxxxxx-(her pot dealer) every night right in between the two of us. She's obsessed with him, he has a trusting personality. I used to be loyal to you. Now I am not. Watch your back and block the **** out of me because I'm one crazy bitch on meds you know. **** OFF

 

 

... with most criticism, there is usually a grain of truth.

 

 

The fact that you felt the need to repost this, shows to me that maybe there might be a grain of truth to some of the things she texted you.

 

 

Was just thinking about my now ex-BF. He liked to claim that he was a bleeding heart, nice guy, do for others type. Yet he tattooed his fraternity on his ankle in bright red letters.

 

 

Take one big guess what those letters were.

 

 

SAE.

 

 

Yep. Self awareness wasn't one of his strong points, and I told him so.

 

 

Consider yourself lucky maybe that one of your GFs pointed out the broccoli in your teeth rather than letting you walk through life totally oblivious.... Maybe?

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