Crampaholic Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 So yeah, broke NC. My ex, who dumped me almost 3 months ago, contacted me yesterday. I had blocked her from all SN and even my phone, etc and stayed NC for 2 months till.... she sent me a tiny e-mail last night. "I hope you're doing well, hugs" (This is a huge deal, she is a person full of pride.. I honestly know that it must have taken her a lot of thinking and courage to mail me, as she calls it "losing her dignity" kind of thing). I checked her twitter... because I hadn't replied, and it seemed that that fact that I didn't reply hurt her. She had tweets like "I'm not allowing anyone to hurt me ever again", "**** off", "people shouldn't be allowed to forget you, just to make matters more fair", etc etc. Of course all those tweets were for me. I just know it. So, stupid me, feeling a bit bad, replied to her mail.. something like: "Hey Cam, I hope you're doing well as well, hugs!". and that was it. It was bad... and now... things are worse lol.. curiosity killed the cat... so I decided to unblock her from FB just to check.. and whatsapp.. she has unblocked me from all her SN.. but silly me, tried blocking her back on fb again and now I have to wait 48 hours LMAO. She's so gonna know that I unblocked her lol. I honestly laughed at my stupidity lol. I don't feel sad or bad or whatever.. just stupid lol. I'll continue with what I had been doing and wait for those 48h to pass to block her again lol. (From Twitter, she's missing me pretty bad)
frigginlost Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Am I missing something here? I don't see the big deal about any of it. Leave her unblocked. It's been months. Any blocking unblocking etc is just going to look stupid. So you sent her a reply? Big deal. It was a classy move. If she is sore because of how long it took, don't worry about it. She'll get over it...
Author Crampaholic Posted March 11, 2015 Author Posted March 11, 2015 Tbh, I'm just afraid if that's gonna ruin my process. The first month was awful, and I gotta say that sometimes, I feel very sad and cry. However I've been feeling great, continued with my therapy and just being more positive and focusing on myself. I just don't wanna ruin that. I miss her, she's a good person.. but I don't wanna ruin my tranquility... what if she mails again?
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Set up a mail rule, diverting her mails to spam folder. Job done.
john229393 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 you have no obligation to reply to her if she dumped you. This is her feeling she made a mistake, feeling lonely or just wanting to feel wanted. You've moved on. If she does send messages and you feel like you have to answer them then don't reply quickly and leave them short and concise, don't go into detail or asking to know about her. She broke up with you so you are definitely allowed to forget her, and by going back to talking to her will undo all your hard work. Her throwing tantrums on twitter isn't very dignified either. Just my opinion
lauri Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Don't be mistaken my friend, her tweets are only about herself. So, she's feeling guilty, think you hate her and it's making it harder for her to move onto the next guy. Some girls these days...I swear. My ex gf did the same thing (as did many others on here too)...nothing is unique here. She now has an ego boost and thinks you don't hate her. I would never respond to an ex unless they say they want you back...and even then I wouldn't take them back. Don't worry about what she thinks anymore man. I'd block her again and if she emails you back, you should ignore. If she continues, you can respond saying "Thanks for checking up on me but I prefer to not talk to you. Please do not contact me again. Wish you all the best."
sabd Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Block. Block. block. She dumped you and now she's "hurt" because you took too long to reply to her email? TOUGH! Carry on with NC and get over this bump. That's all it is. You'll be fine.
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