dieselmech Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Well there is this quiet girl who sits at the same lunch table as I do. I have never talked to her the whole time she has sat at the table and only her friend (another girl) would talk to her, and then maybe one of my friends here and there but barely. Then my dad asked if I new so and so and I said yes and it's that girl. Well he said that she just moved to the US and that it's her first year there and that she is having a hard time making friends. So I said something to her, and we barely talked. I thought it was really awkward since her friend was sitting right next to her and then all of my friends were there too... Well then at lunch she starts talking out loud and she was talking way more than usual. Normally I couldn't even hear her voice if she is talking. But anyways, I think she is really pretty and I'd like to get to know her better but I just feel super awkward talking to her at lunch, I don't see her in the hall or anywhere else (huge school). I would like to get her number but again, I feel like it's super awkward asking for it since we only said like two sentences to eachother. But then having her talk at lunch more and more made me feel like she wasn't shy and it kind of intimidated me a little bit, to be honest. So what should I do? I really want to get to know her better and possibly date her but everything feels super super awkward to me with all of these people around.... Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Santiago16 Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Ask her out. (Maybe) make a fool of yourself and start again. Repeat until you find someone you hardly ever feel awkward with. Suerte! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dieselmech Posted March 11, 2015 Author Share Posted March 11, 2015 Ask her out. (Maybe) make a fool of yourself and start again. Repeat until you find someone you hardly ever feel awkward with. Suerte! Yeah but I don't want to get rejected in front of my friends! Haha. I just want to talk to her a little bit then get her number the next time I see her. What questions should I ask her? She moved here from England. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 She doesn't sound shy, but it's crazy that would bother you. A shy person is just as likely to reject or accept you as any other type. All you can do at this point is start saying hi to her anytime you see her. Wave to her when you see her at lunchtime and smile. She's always going to have friends around. No reason to let that keep you from saying hi to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dieselmech Posted March 11, 2015 Author Share Posted March 11, 2015 She doesn't sound shy, but it's crazy that would bother you. A shy person is just as likely to reject or accept you as any other type. All you can do at this point is start saying hi to her anytime you see her. Wave to her when you see her at lunchtime and smile. She's always going to have friends around. No reason to let that keep you from saying hi to her. But her dad was telling my dad that he knows she doesn't talk a lot and that she's having a hard time making friends, and she sat at the same table as me for a long time and I just heard her voice for the first time last week... Now this week she was actually talking across the table. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Apparently her dad is wrong. Probably she's quiet around him because he's an adult. But you already saw her with new friends talking like a normal person. I can't see why that should bother you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dieselmech Posted March 11, 2015 Author Share Posted March 11, 2015 (edited) Apparently her dad is wrong. Probably she's quiet around him because he's an adult. But you already saw her with new friends talking like a normal person. I can't see why that should bother you. Well no she really is Edited March 11, 2015 by dieselmech Link to post Share on other sites
Santiago16 Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 Yeah but I don't want to get rejected in front of my friends! Haha. I just want to talk to her a little bit then get her number the next time I see her. What questions should I ask her? She moved here from England. She's English! If you think things are awkward now, wait until you have a relationship with an English girl. Being a Brit myself I consider myself to have a bit of authority on the matter. English people are awkward. It's our style, but she is obviously lonely and you probably (at least on what I know about your situation - not much : ) have a pretty good chance, again especially with someone feeling homesick but still wanting to change that and enjoy wherever she is in the States. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 what should you do? You have two choices: Keep that love affair with awkwardness and wondering going on or talk to her Your choice. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 The fact that your dad knows her dad is a perfect opportunity for you to be friendly towards her and ask her out. As she is new to the country and your town you can offer to take her sight seeing in your area. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dieselmech Posted March 11, 2015 Author Share Posted March 11, 2015 The fact that your dad knows her dad is a perfect opportunity for you to be friendly towards her and ask her out. As she is new to the country and your town you can offer to take her sight seeing in your area. I will talk to her soon! But I was just really confused that after I talked to her the other day, she started talking to the whole table which she's never done before. Then that made me feel a little intimidated honestly. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2015 Share Posted March 11, 2015 It's a delicate balance because you don't want to get friend zoned. Start out by sitting next to her at the lunch table. Say hi. Mention something that is going on at school: are you going to the basketball game on Friday? Or if you see one of her books, ask if she has a particular teacher for the subject. What you talk about doesn't matter as much as that you talk. Pull her into your group's conversation. After doing this for a while, mention something your group is doing & invite her along. We're all going to see XYZ movie on Friday, do you wanna come? Do not say the word date. Include any girls she is with in that big group invite. This is NOT a date & you are not obligated to treat anybody who shows us. At that event out of school, you can talk more & ask her on a real date if you are clicking. You are obligated to treat if you asked for the date. N.B. for anybody else who is reading this: the above advice does NOT apply once you are older than school age. Link to post Share on other sites
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