youaremysunshine Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 So I've been seeing a guy in another city, about an hour away. He was a casual friend for years and briefly my room mate. We started going on one on one dates right after christmas. Mostly just getting lunch or dinner when we happened to be in eachothers cities. We spent the night together, once at his place and once at mine. The first time there was no sex and the second time we tried and he was unable to perform. Don't know if that's relavant or not.. that was the last time I saw him. I tried to set something up with him last time I was in his city but something came up and I had I go home early. I heard through friends that he was in my city but I didn't hear from him....I guess he was busy? Anyway should I just message him and ask when we can see eachother again? It's been a month... 1
TigerCub Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 He's probably avoiding you because he's embarrassed about not being able to perform. If that's the case, maybe you can reach out once - but if he's being flaky and avoids you, just let him go. 1
Author youaremysunshine Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 Yeah I could see that being the reason. He did seem more than willing to see me last time I was in his city- it was me who was short on time and had to bail. it bothers me that he is coming to my city and hanging out with our mutal friends without telling me though
fitnessfan365 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Anytime there's a physical mishap, but you want to keep seeing the guy, it's best to put his mind at ease and pursue a bit. I'd give it a few days and then reach out. For example. Let's say that you want to keep seeing a guy, but you cheek him on the first date because you aren't quite ready to kiss yet. Most guys in that situation will take a cheek as a rejection. So it's important to reach out and let him know what a good time you had, that you can't wait to see him again, etc..
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