Found a girl from grade school on Match.com. Was this a positive reaction from her?

[VedderisBetter]

I found a girl I had went to grade school with who was a grade ahead of me. I messaged her telling her who I was and asking if she went to the same school I did. Her response was, "Yes, I went to _______ school. How do you remember me? That was years ago.

 

Was this a positive, neutral or negative reaction?

 

I just responded saying I'm good at remembering faces and placing them with names.

[losangelena]

Sounds neutral. Are you interested in dating her or were you just being friendly?

 

I recognize a guy on a dating site once as a friend of a friend from undergrad. I reached out to him and asked, "are you so-and-so's friend," and he never responded.

[preraph]

She doesn't remember you. So she doesn't know who you are.

[rester]

On a scale from 0-10, with 0 being negative, and 10 being positive, I'd give that response a 3.5-4.

[d0nnivain]

At best it was lukewarm. If OL is the only way you have to be in touch with her, don't pursue.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Lukewarm response. She doesn't remember/know you. Honestly if that was all you responded, you basically closed off that conversation.

[Ruby Slippers]

I agree it's lukewarm and slightly negative. It's almost like she's criticizing or making fun of you for remembering her. If she didn't recognize you but was interested, it would have been a warmer, friendlier message.

 

I have a silly little fantasy that my first crush, from elementary school all the way through high school, will message me and ask me out one day I saw from a friend's reunion pictures that he got fat, but man, that crush went on forever!

[Gary S]

Well, it means she never had a crush on you and probably never will.

[Starship]

She has your profile.

 

Not exactly enthusiastic response.

 

Just an aside: others can comment but perhaps best not to contact people we recognize OLD if friends, school, work, etc. All a little awkward.

 

Note...you could have contacted this woman like you would have anyone else and left out the part about knowing her. If she had wanted to return your message, she would have out of having 'an interest' in you.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

She has your profile.

 

Not exactly enthusiastic response.

 

Just an aside: others can comment but perhaps best not to contact people we recognize OLD if friends, school, work, etc. All a little awkward.

 

Note...you could have contacted this woman like you would have anyone else and left out the part about knowing her. If she had wanted to return your message, she would have out of having 'an interest' in you.

 

Yeah - agree with this.

 

I've seen coworkers and ex-coworkers, among many other people on OLD, and I NEVER would message them. I mean if I have their Facebook already, or see them from time to time, they're going to wonder why I had to resort to OLD to actually show interest in them.

 

Of course in the OP's case it sounds like he doesn't know this girl - but in that case I would have made sure I didn't come across as knowing EXACTLY who she is, just maybe like "Hey I think you look familiar, did you go to ____?" instead of "Oh I remember you from ___ you were a grade ahead of me!" (which sounds stalker-ish lol).

[losangelena]

I saw acquaintances from time to time on OLD. I would message them if we were friendly IRL, just to say, "hey, saw you on here, good luck!" They generally responded favorably, but never with any interest in going out.

 

There was one guy on there who had been previously married, and he reached out to potentially set up a date. I have to say it felt a little weird.

[insert_name]

I suspect you are on the verge of being called creepy for remembering who she is when she probably doesnt remember you. Of course if you were the school quarterback then she would remember you and be flattered that you noticed her in school and remembered who she was amongst all the other women throwing themselves at you. Swings and roundabouts.

[VedderisBetter]

A lot of you need wake up calls especially insert name. What's with the negativity? I'm actually not interested romantically in this girl but I know she was easy in grade school and got pregnant at 15. She's now a nurseaccording to her profile but she may still like to have a good time. She's not pretty. I was just looking for fwb. I don't need to be a user though.

[d0nnivain]

A lot of you need wake up calls especially insert name. What's with the negativity? I'm actually not interested romantically in this girl but I know she was easy in grade school and got pregnant at 15. She's now a nurseaccording to her profile but she may still like to have a good time. She's not pretty. I was just looking for fwb. I don't need to be a user though.

 

Since you have such a low opinion of her, trying to make her your FWB is bordering on the user end of the scale. She's not really your friend or somebody you genuinely like / respect. All you want is sex. So, yeah, maybe let this one pass.