rollercoaster11 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I have this weird thing that I do. Whenever I would get a text or missed calls, I always find myself afraid to look at them. I know its because I want them to be from my ex but when they are not I get so disappointed. I hate being that way and desperately want to conquer that...it just feels so weird. I have missed sometimes important messages doing that. I only do that with him. When we would stop talking I have even went as far as changing my number...my family and friends really give me a hard time because Im always changing my number...this time Im not going too but I have been tempted. I do that because if he doesn't know my number at least I would know that there isn't a chance of it being him and I it takes the anxiety away from me. Weird of me right?? Do any of you feel this way? or am I in this boat alone
marcelo.santos Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 No, its not weird as it is very logic - a friend of mine has fear of "vacuum cleaners"! This is something weird, not your case. The only way to avoid a fear is facing it!! Force yourself: Beginning now, every time you hear a notification you will not think and face it - you will answer within seconds and your problem is solved. It will be difficulty a bit only on the first times. Do not avoid to see your text/missed calls - it will not kill or hurt you, I promise.
Author rollercoaster11 Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 You are right I know but at the time that Im typing this and my first thread pertaining to this I have a message that I havent opened. This has plagued me for a long time and like I said its only when me and my ex have fallen out and its worst now. Im really gonna try because I know that its not right to be this way. Thanks for your reply.
Chin Up Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I totally hear ya. For the first 2 weeks after the split, I'd leap across the room every time I heard my phone. In that period, most of his texts were explaining how I deserve better, I'm an awesome girl that will have no problem finding someone else, that he hopes we can be friends..etc etc, all the condescending and patronizing crap that your hear when dumped. I also found them to be very hurtful and dismissive even though he was trying to soften the blow. As a result, I associated texts from him as something to be avoided because it will probably hurt like heck. Funny part is, it was always ME who initiated the texts for a while after we split, and I'd sit there cuddling a pillow in sheer terror as to how he would reply, if it all. Now, if I were to receive a text from him, I'd literally start laughing and think "oh c'mon, you've GOT to be kidding me! Not today, Satan ..not today!" lol 1
irresolute Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 You can block his number and problem solved. 4
KBarletta Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 You can block his number and problem solved. Exactly this. Then you know it won't be him and you can check without fear.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I did that once, changing my number to forget my ex. But I realized one thing about doing this, it shows you how much power they have over you that you have to go through all that trouble just to get rid of them. Just like your fear of him contacting you. If you are really anxious about receiving his text, then all you have to do is block him from contacting you. The best part of blocking is that they always receive a message from the provider saying that the reciever is not recieving your message at this time. Don't give them so much power over your life. If they really wanted you back, they wouldn't be half-ass about trying to reach you. They would be at your front door begging.
ApexTitanium Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Same with me, my ex texted me today about a song I had mentioned to her last month when we were sorta talking. Ed sherran "thinking out loud", basically a love song. She said I got her listening to that song now. I didn't respond.
Author rollercoaster11 Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 The thing about it is part of me wants the text/or calls to be from my ex....hence my disappointment when its not. I feel if I dont know if its him or not than I want be hurt or sad. I know not looking at my messages is not going to make it so. See I told you it was a weird habit or maybe an obsession. Im going to work on it there are harder things to break. One reply said that Im giving my ex the power and I totally agree. Im a work in progress. Thanks everyone for your reply.
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