GravityMan Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I don't think its gender based I get over rejection real quick because I don't care ill attempt again elsewhere and im a woman. I think its more personality based some people lose confidence each time and it hurts them pretty badly it's something that needs to be worked on to overcome. I think age is a bit of a factor too I remember being rejected as a younger lady much more of a sting then it ever would now. Agreed. I think that people who aren't entitled and learned at an early age not to take that "no" personally (in any situation, not just dating) tend to handle rejection better. Being turned down is a part of life, it happens to most people, it sometimes has nothing to do with you or your approach, and sometimes that "no" is a blessing in disguise. As for age, I believe that as they get older, a lot of people become less sensitive and stop caring so much about what other people think. They adopt more of a "oh well, c'est la vie" mindset. Being more accustomed to being turned down helps too of course.
Starship Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 As a guy I've been rejected many times. I also have had my share of women. Women are so terrified of rejection. Women have all the advantages it doesn't make sense. It's amusing how some fellow in his underwear in front if the screen in mommy's basement claims inside knowledge into the minds of women. 1
Gary S Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 I know I'll get flamed for this but that's what I was doing. I never approached a man first. There is less risk this way and the supply of men was infinite. Why risk rejection if you don't have to? But also, of course, you also have less of a choice doing it this way, i.e. you have to choose from among those who choose you, instead of the entire population. However, if the guy you'd choose first didn't like you, it's not worth pursuing. Although they hate it, for the most part men still know they're supposed to approach and if they like a woman, they still pursue. - I recommend women let the the guys be the pursuer, most of them will anyway. Don't risk unnecessary rejection. You'll have plenty of choices, the right one will come along... and you only need one. What makes you think supermodel men have it any easier? Or was your comment meant to be tongue-n-cheek? Anyway, I used to work in the business and male models, or just really good looking men, got rejected plenty!! Maybe not for sex, when approached by women looking for just that, but when it came to actual dating and relationships? They got rejected just as often as their male counterparts who weren't as physically appealing. Speaking personally, I have NEVER been attracted to a male model, even though I was surrounded by them! Dated a few even, but never felt enough chemistry with any of them to want to continue dating them. - I should have clarified... i meant if I were a woman. I've done some modeling, but get rejected a ton, you are right.
stillafool Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Lately it does seem that there are more and more threads about women who have been rejected in FWB type relationships where they wanted more and the man does not.
somedude81 Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Lately it does seem that there are more and more threads about women who have been rejected in FWB type relationships where they wanted more and the man does not. I agree with you. It's a common occurrence now. Make a thread about it.
JustGrand Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 I'm a guy that hates rejection. I've met other men in my college dorm life that love a girl that will reject him. They love the girl that is just plain hard to get. One of the reasons they said they like is because they got tired of girls being too easy to get. I personally have no problem with a girl being too easy.
SomeDude16 Posted March 12, 2015 Posted March 12, 2015 You can't generalize everyone. Some people process rejection different than others.
SawtoothMars Posted March 13, 2015 Posted March 13, 2015 Thats a sweeping generalization. I personally know more women who are better with rejection than men. It varies across the board. Men and women experience rejection the same. Not really. When they hire women for a sales job for the first time they have an 80% fail rate despite naturally having more sales skill. By far the primary reason the ladies fail out is because of cold call hesitation. Now those 20% who pass through often become top performers.
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