singlelife Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 As a guy I've been rejected many times. I also have had my share of women. Women are so terrified of rejection. Women have all the advantages it doesn't make sense.
Phoe Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I admit I am afraid of rejection. Rejection is lousy and it definitely stings. But do I struggle to get over it? No way. Once the sting is gone I get over it and get on with life.
Hopeful30 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Thats a sweeping generalization. I personally know more women who are better with rejection than men. It varies across the board. Men and women experience rejection the same. 2
h0000 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 After dating for a while then being rejected(or dumped) is hard to deal with. I wonder why men get over it so easily? I would feel unwanted/not good enough/other girls are better. Do men not feel like this?
Buddhist Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 As a guy I've been rejected many times. I also have had my share of women. Women are so terrified of rejection. Women have all the advantages it doesn't make sense. That's because you are stating something that really only you believe. 10
WomenWubber Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Being rejected more often doesn't necessarily make you better at handling rejection. I've seen so many guys get rejected and then get up for more without going through the whole process of healing and growth, acting as if they just got over it. But actually they haven't, and the constant blows to their self-esteem and ego end up devastating them. 5
Woggle Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I don't think it is based on gender but I think with attractive women it is because they aren't used to it. Really the same thing happens with attractive guys. When people experience something more often they get used to it.
Gary S Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 It's because women are smarter than you when it comes to dating and relationships. They have this little thing called women's intuition... also called gut feelings. They are just smart enough to avoid most rejection by letting you bozos make the first move and pursue all the time. ........wait for it...... I'm a guy, but if I was a supermodel, I'd do the same thing most of them do... just sit back and shake my money-maker Women have filed first for divorce 2/3rds of the time. It's been this way since the 1800's. Guess who knows relationships better? Relationships and dating are primarily a woman's domain. They have the main powers here - beauty and intuition. The secret to understanding women is intuition... guys have less of it, don't use what they have, and usually run on their egos instead. But if you learn to trust it, it can turn your whole romantic life around. 1
EgoJoe Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 There is a plethora of scientific analyses on the sheer volume of rejection that men experience versus the smaller amount women deal with.
somedude81 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 How hard it is to get over the rejection is directly correlated to how much I like the girl. If I barely knew a girl and asked her out, the rejection would only sting for a short time. If it was a girl that I was friends with and had known for months, or longer, getting rejected by her would hurt like hell.
Buddhist Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 There is a plethora of scientific analyses on the sheer volume of rejection that men experience versus the smaller amount women deal with. Yes and you'll usually find that's because of the sheer volume of approaches men make. From what I've seen a lot of men have a scatter gun approach. They just approach any decent looking female and pay no attention to whether or not she might be interested in him. I've approached every single guy I've ever been with. But I don't approach unless I am about 99% certain that he has interest in me also. I will spend a great deal of time assessing it and need some very clear signals that interest is there. Not just a....he glanced in my direction a few times. In my last approach, said intelligence took 9 months before I approached. I was watching for a consistent pattern of signals that assured me rejection would be unlikely. I'm not sure many men are doing this. 6
kolleamm Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Rejecton always hurts, don't know what you guys are smoking. 5
EgoJoe Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 The disparity in rejection experienced by Men and Women extends beyond dating. It has correlations in sports, academia, peer groups and even in physiology. For Women parameters are quite often much more loose.
loverboy69 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 If rejection isn't painful to you as a man then you were only in it for sex. If you actually had any emotional investment or interest in her built up it would hurt like hell to get rejected. 2
Diezel Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Because men get rejected so much more often than women. It's not about getting over it easier, it's about frequency. 1
Buddhist Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 The disparity in rejection experienced by Men and Women extends beyond dating. It has correlations in sports, academia, peer groups and even in physiology. For Women parameters are quite often much more loose. Well rather than making blanket statements designed to invalidate the female perspective on this why don't you elucidate exactly what these parameters are and how they differ for men and women. I explained that my lack of rejection comes from being smarter in my choice of target, I make sure of my position before I put myself forward. It's not because I have breasts, it's because I'm approaching people who are interested to begin with. 1
Emilia Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I sometimes wonder whether those that start gender hating threads should try batting for the other side. Genuinely. Maybe they would enjoy that experience more. Denial? 3
Revolver Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Most guys get rejected dozens of times(and in some cases this is a conservative estimate)by the time they're in college that they eventually become numb to it 1
road Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 People are forgetting basic general evolutionary biology. Men are the hunter for food and a mate. Men when were hunting for food learned they do not score on every opportunity. They realize that in life you do not win every time. Women learned that as food gather's, growing crops, domesticating animals, that what they need will come to them. Patience is developed. That apple looks past it's prime they leave it on the branch. Where it will eventually fall onto the ground with indifference. Women have learned that they can be selective. So in general they will deal with less rejection. In general I think that both can hurt equally from a single rejection to the same degree because the one they want a relationship with does not want them. Being that men get turned down more does not make the rejection hurt more. It just makes them experience the pain more often. 2
BluEyeL Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I'm a guy, but if I was a supermodel, I'd do the same thing most of them do... just sit back and shake my money-maker I know I'll get flamed for this but that's what I was doing. I never approached a man first. There is less risk this way and the supply of men was infinite. Why risk rejection if you don't have to? But also, of course, you also have less of a choice doing it this way, i.e. you have to choose from among those who choose you, instead of the entire population. However, if the guy you'd choose first didn't like you, it's not worth pursuing. Although they hate it, for the most part men still know they're supposed to approach and if they like a woman, they still pursue. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Another case of sweeping generalization. 1
Redhead14 Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Being rejected more often doesn't necessarily make you better at handling rejection. I've seen so many guys get rejected and then get up for more without going through the whole process of healing and growth, acting as if they just got over it. But actually they haven't, and the constant blows to their self-esteem and ego end up devastating them. When you are multi-dating, you are rejected often and men/women do get a thicker skin about it. If the person is otherwise emotionally secure. If there are other emotional issues, though, they really never get over any of the rejections. They compound themselves. If the person has been rejected after long term relationships, they bring that with them into their future dating scenarios and those are often the people who get labeled emotionally unavailable. For me, in multi-dating, if a man doesn't want to see me anymore after a couple or few dates, I'm fine with it. I don't take it personally. It's not really a rejection in my mind because they don't really know me yet. How can it be a rejection, what are they rejecting? A couple of little things in my personality or whatever that doesn't work for them. I meet people all the time that I don't like little things about. They are probably still good people and others like/love them. 1
Omei Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 I don't think its gender based I get over rejection real quick because I don't care ill attempt again elsewhere and im a woman. I think its more personality based some people lose confidence each time and it hurts them pretty badly it's something that needs to be worked on to overcome. I think age is a bit of a factor too I remember being rejected as a younger lady much more of a sting then it ever would now. 2
katiegrl Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 (edited) It's because women are smarter than you when it comes to dating and relationships. They have this little thing called women's intuition... also called gut feelings. They are just smart enough to avoid most rejection by letting you bozos make the first move and pursue all the time. ........wait for it...... I'm a guy, but if I was a supermodel, I'd do the same thing most of them do... just sit back and shake my money-maker Women have filed first for divorce 2/3rds of the time. It's been this way since the 1800's. Guess who knows relationships better? Relationships and dating are primarily a woman's domain. They have the main powers here - beauty and intuition. The secret to understanding women is intuition... guys have less of it, don't use what they have, and usually run on their egos instead. But if you learn to trust it, it can turn your whole romantic life around. What makes you think supermodel men have it any easier? Or was your comment meant to be tongue-n-cheek? Anyway, I used to work in the business and male models, or just really good looking men, got rejected plenty!! Maybe not for sex, when approached by women looking for just that, but when it came to actual dating and relationships? They got rejected just as often as their male counterparts who weren't as physically appealing. Speaking personally, I have NEVER been attracted to a male model, even though I was surrounded by them! Dated a few even, but never felt enough chemistry with any of them to want to continue dating them. Edited March 10, 2015 by katiegrl
Shocksock Posted March 11, 2015 Posted March 11, 2015 Men do most of the approching so they face rejection more often. Think of a woman sitting on a park bench being approched by several men all of which she rejects but she herself isn't being rejected as every single one of those guys were interested in her. Now think about the dozens of other single guys who noticed her but didn't want to approch meaning that in a way they were rejecting her but she doesn't have to face rejection directly like a man would despite the fact that she is upset about being approched by duds while mr stud makes no attempt to approch.
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