biscuit1901 Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 Hes does so many nice things and I think he loves me. Then he does something and I think no his feelings have changed. Has he got someone else he goes home early to speak to. I sometimes wish I never met him so I wouldn't feel like this. Is this all in my mind. HELP!!!
d0nnivain Posted March 9, 2015 Posted March 9, 2015 You have to stop with the extremes. Nobody is all lovey-dovey & perfect with their SO all the time. My husband & I can pissed each other off royally. Most of the time it has nothing to do with the other one but that we're upset for other reasons & they just pushed the wrong button in that moment. If you are fairly certain he cares, when he does something that upsets you before you react take a logically look at what else may causing his behavior.
coolheadal Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Need to give more info here it's a bit brief how and what's going on. Men do some odd things also.
Author biscuit1901 Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 He will do really nice things like help me out at home(we don't live together). He will give me gifts and he can say some really nice things(usually when hes drunk) but then he will seem cold and indifferent. Going home early because he says hes getting up for work early. Don't get me wrong, this in itself wouldn't be an issue if it wasn't that its sort of new. The minute he walks in the door he starts yawning and says he can't stay to long. Like tonight we were watching a film. I knew he wanted to go after it finished but not literally the second it ended. It was shoes on, see you later. We have been together a year and hes never been one to text and call all the time but lately its getting worse. He does text in the morning but that's it nothing else till I get a call to say he will be at mine soon(hes always late). I know I have trust issues and his friends say he just doesn't think but I just don't know. When hes here he cuddles me and kisses me but even that seems different . Do I start acting all cool or do I do everything he wants and seem too clingy. There doesn't seem to be a happy medium. I don't know if its in my head, hes just had enough of me or there really is someone else.
Author biscuit1901 Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 I would like to add that I was in hospital recently and he did visit me every day I was there. He stayed in all weekend with me because I was to ill to go anywhere. When I said go out if you want he said no I want to stay with you. Its time like that when I think it really is all in my head.
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 Start by assuming he does care. The hospital visits say a lot. In that safe happy space, talk to him. Ask him, what's up with the whole going home immediately after the movie is over? I miss hanging out & doing nothing with you. What's going on?
Author biscuit1901 Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 I don't know what it is with him but I find it difficult talking to him sometimes. I don't want to seem like I'm suffocating him. There's another reason, I just don't think he would get it. I'm not saying he's stupid or anything. Like I said before he just doesn't think sometimes. He also has a tendency to hear but not listen. I'll talk with him about something. The next day he won't remember most of the things I'v said. To be fair he is like that with most people.
sabd Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 You're only going to know what's going on with him if you talk to him. Don't NOT talk to him because of how you THINK he'll respond. Learn to communicate or you'll always be in the dark and wondering about people.
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2015 Posted March 10, 2015 One conversation about something is not suffocating someone. Multiple conversation is suffocating. Also pick your time when you talk to him. If it's important, make sure you have his full attention: TV off, cell phone down, no computer
Author biscuit1901 Posted March 10, 2015 Author Posted March 10, 2015 I didn't have to. I think he sensed I was unhappy. He phoned me a few times today. He hardly ever does that and then asked if I wanted to go for something to eat. He kept telling me how suited we are. I'm going to see how things go and if things feel the same as before I will speak to him. Its times like this when I think it might be my insecurities not him.
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