Friendship or more?

[Maxtor]

Hi.

 

I’ll try to keep it short, but I think it’s going to be a long text.

I’m a guy, for the past year I have been friends, let’s call her this girl. I met her at work, she is gorgeous, and had all men around her, and since I never go for the girl that gets all the attention, I didn’t even say hello because I thought she was an attention seeker.

Before she left (she was a temp), we actually got to know each other, had a nice conversation, she told me she thought I didn’t like her, and I was honest and all.

We started hanging out. Back then, I was going in and out with another girl, that was married (I have learned my lesson). When I finally said enough, I went for this girl, my friend, for support, and she helped a lot. I never ever had feelings for her.

She started dating this guy, and I was happy for her, she was happy. We stopped talking and hanging out and I was ok with it. But months later he left her, and she called me for the first time in months, she was devastated, and she told me that she didn’t know what to do and I was the first person on her mind. I was there for her, as she was there for me before.

Months passed, we started hanging out again, movies, beach, she got better. She called me and talked to me for hours and hours and hours every single day. When she needed help, I was there, when I needed she was there.

One night, we shared a bed, because it was late for driving, and there was only 1 room available. I laid in the bed fully clothed, and she undressed, and slept with her hand on my chest and her head on my shoulder. I didn’t react because I wasn’t going to be anyone’s rebound again, in spite of our friendship being solid. I then proceed to not talking to her for a month, because I wanted the feelings to go away. She didn’t understand why I stopped talking to her, I just told her I was busy. When the feelings went away, we started talking again.

She became very touchy, she told me I was getting handsomer, that people think im her boyfriend, stuff like that.

BUT, the thing that really bothers me is this.

Yesterday she invited me to the beach. I went, we walked, talked, eat ice cream, etc. On the car she tells me this “This music, it’s about a couple. They were friends, like you and me, and eventually fell in love.” I smiled and was like “Is she trying to say something?”

That day I kinda flirted a lot, more than I usual do and she noticed.

We hangout some more, went to her place, had dinner, later when I was going to say goodbye, I hugger her and she tells me this “Oooh, don’t tell me you want us to be like the couple in that music.” I never hug her, im not the needy type, nor I treat her like a princess, I just felt it right to hug her. Then I just left.

She also was kinda mad, before the beach thing, I was spraying sun lotion and she was like “OH NO, you are not taking the shirt off” and I told her “Yeah, I don’t get bossed around by girls.” And she then reciprocate by saying “Do you want me to take my shirt off too?” “It’s a beach" I said. To be honest it was kinda cold, she just wanted to walk by beach, I still took my shirt off lol.

Anyways, is these some signs? Am I imagining things? I thinking about going no contact again. I don’t know, I have been a real friend to her and she has been to me, and I feel that these feelings will ruin this. It’s the first time I am kinda afraid of ruining a friendship with a girl.

Edited March 9, 2015 by Maxtor

[Maxtor]

Well, since I got no feedback, might aswell post some update, so see if i get some opinions.

 

She sent me a text 3 days ago, calling me cute names, asking about my day. I didnt respond...

 

Next day I didnt say anything, and she text messaged me at night, saying her day was bad, and she was upset. I asked her why, she said that she didnt know. She acted cold then, and i acted cold. But a friend of mine, which Im trying right now to get some support, suggested me to send a nice text message before going to sleep, and i did. I texted something like:

 

"You had a bad day, so did I. Specially cause they get worse when i dont talk to you. Good night."

 

Now, probably you are thinking what a douche, but, as friends, sometimes we went weeks without text messaging. But with feelings involved, to be honest, i really dont know how to act. She was the last person I would ever thinking about having feelings.

 

And now here am I, with this incredible anxiety.

 

I feel like now the ball is on her court. But I also know she wont say anything different, and i cant act normal now.

[Versacehottie]

I would say she likes you, wants to date you. Yes the ball in her court kinda to respond to your last text but that's really a non-issue. You could text her again first about anything and it would be ok. Bottom line, if you have feelings for her, why not just go for it?